Dealing with being average.

[xxx123 16]

After your wife has been with a much larger dick...

 

Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?

 

Has your wife said something that comforts you about this situation, that makes you ok with continuing in the lifestyle?

[padoc 1,703]

"Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?" If you do, this hobby isn't for you. You might want to consider bowling or golf.

 

What we noticed almost immediately when we started exploring swinging over 15 years ago was how confident and comfortable in their bodies swinger couples are. Im about 6 inches which is quite average. What that means is that there are dicks that are larger than mine or some that are smaller. So what? There are tits that are bigger or smaller than Mrs Docs, but again, so what?

 

At our regular parties, one of the husbands has a substantially larger dick, usually the biggest there. Mrs Doc always makes sure she gets some quality time with him. If Im in the same room, I'll watch for a bit because its such an amazingly hot visual and she always gets off on him. Its a joy to watch. I don't need her to comfort me afterwards because Im not intimidated or upset. We swing because we enjoy variety and sharing orgasms with our friends. Knowing that she's doing that and that she's fucked this guy (and probably several others) while I was fucking someone else's wife (or his)is incredibly erotic and THAT is what makes it OK to continue swinging.

[adamgunn 1,460]

PaDoc, are you saying golf doesn't make you feel awkward or bad about yourself? Maybe you haven't played the stupid game . . .

[padoc 1,703]

I hadn't considered that aspect of golf but you have a point!Im not an avid golfer, I still prefer hitting a baseball or a softball, that way someone else has to chase after it.

[Billygoat 443]

Isn’t great there are no two people alike!? Everyone is a different package. Most all veteran life stylers are very confident in and of themselves. They may not be everyone’s cup of tea....at that time....but they will be someone’s from time to time. Some people are ok in themselves in what they offer someone....to share from the start....others learn this in time and are better people for it. A few never quite get it.....some never. And that’s ok. It’s like some guys prefer large breasts....or big nipples. Your wife seeing how much you are enjoying another lady....larger breasts....tighter body......you wouldn’t want her to feel that she was less....not enough for you? Sharing sex, sexual activity....games....as an extracurricular adult activity is not for everyone. But if it is....the experiences are intoxicating.....and can be shared without any interference with the couple...couples relationship. No one is shopping here.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

After your wife has been with a much larger dick...

 

Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?

 

No. If anything, seeing some guy with a huge cock is like seeing a a woman with tripple F breasts. I'm going to look out of curiosity and I might be impressed because of how infrequesntly one might see it, but it doesn't really have any effect on me one way or another. If that guy happened to have been with Harriet, I would be intersted in what she thought about it, but in a rather clinical way just out of curiosity. I got over any hangups about being average in that regard a long time ago. In fact, when it dawned on me just how stupid it was to have a hangup about it, I really started laughing out loud at how I could have ever been such a dunce about it. It was one of those lightbulb moments.

 

Has your wife said something that comforts you about this situation, that makes you ok with continuing in the lifestyle?

 

If Harriet ever felt the need to "comfort" me about something like that, I wonder why.

[enhancer 1,585]

I would only feel awkward or bad about myself when she saw me naked if I was fat, hairy and out of shape! I can do something about that and I do. The last thing she cares about on a naked man is the size of his penis. Dicks have so much less to do with attraction for most women then men think they do. It would be so awesome if more guys got that and it would make it so much easier for most people in the lifestyle if guys didn’t always try to sell themselves based on their dicks. They are just not interesting unless the guy they are connected to is.

 

Is your wife attracted to you, because of your penis? Is she a size queen? If the answer to either of those questions is yes then maybe you have something to worry about. If no then hit the gym and eat better and you will look good naked regardless of what size your penis is.

[cplnluv1 872]

Do you understand what average means? About the same as most others. Some much smaller, some bigger. I can tell you the larger man didn’t spoil it for you. What makes you think she hasn’t been with men before you that were bigger. I can tell you my toy is bigger than my husband, So What.

[Guest]

My wife has alluded to her experience with a large, maybe 9” dick in various responses on this site. She was in fact more excited about that male organ than I have seen with any other. But the man himself was of no more greater interest to her, just his equipment. And, the next day, she was just as interested in mine as she had previously been; and 2 weeks later, we went to a couples club and she was interested in one that was a bit shorter but perhaps thicker than average. Point is, it’s a one time even. You go to the dealership or car rental place, you drive some high powered sports car, it’s exhilarating. But, you get back into the family sedan and you appreciate the smooth ride, the space, the quiet engine and various other features all the more.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

There's a little more to it than that, even. Like everything else in life, it's a matter of starting in different places and thinking about what is it you can do that will give you and advantage over someone who starts with other things. For example, the fact that I'm average means I generally don't have to worry about piercing a woman's cervix which allows me to grind my hips against hers and be in close enough to move my body into contact with her clitorus.

 

That isn't the case with a guy with a 10 inch dick. He's going to have to figure out a different way to make the most of what he has to work with. Similarly, the guy with a coke can thick dick is going to have to be aware that he might need lots of lube and other things to make sure his additional girth is not causing discomfort. No matter what a guy has, if he thinks about how he can use what he has to do what someone differently endowed can't do, his size is his advantage that someone differently endowed doesn't have. If you throw in differences in women's preferences, there's enough variety for everyone just as they are.

 

There is a lot more to good sex than just inserting a dick into a vagina and stroking back and forth mindlessly in one direction. Instead of wishing he had a bigger dick, a guy ought to be asking how having a bigger dick would take away the advantages he could exploit with the one he has. No matter what a guy has, a lot of imagination is required to make the most of it and turn it into an advantage. A really big dick starts with the same thing a guy that's 7 feet tall starts with - he's noticed for being being different and ititially gets that sort of attention. After that, what counts is talent and imagination to use make use of that advantage. Not every guy who is 7 feet tall is Michael Jordan and most guys who are 5'9" should try to excell at something other than basketball, where height would be a detriment.

[Bluespruce1 706]

An attentive friend with a 5” penis made me cum endlessly last night. He is average in every way except the way he knows how to please me.

[ToeDippers 83]

My wife has never mentioned size. I would have to believe that she has been with larger men before we met and now after we have been with others. She never complained of me being too small or others being better because of size.

[Eddiem 139]

TBH the first time(s) yes... I am avg. not gonna lie... I got over it in time and learned to enjoy her being pleased by a bigger unit. Right after if "reclaiming" then the thought still "comes" to mind.

After your wife has been with a much larger dick...

 

Does it make you feel awkward or bad about yourself the next time she sees you naked?

 

Has your wife said something that comforts you about this situation, that makes you ok with continuing in the lifestyle?

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Ms. Gold doesn't LIKE above average...most often men with large dicks think that the size is enough and just pound away. Well, just pounding and/or 'bottoming out' HURTS some women (Ms Gold included). Skill and paying attention to your partner will ALWAYS win out over pound and grinding away. It's not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician...

[Bluespruce1 706]

I was with a very “enthusiastic” 25 year old guy last night with a small cock and he rocked my world! He looked great and knew how to take care of a woman - that’s what counts!

[JessicaJamison 861]

I just fuck my husband like normal, a woman can have fun on any size dick.  For us its way more about chemistry, now if you have chemistry and a big dick that shit is fun.  But an average dick doesn't mean id be dissatisfied.  Flirt me up the right way and I will destroy and average sized dick boo.