Going to our first club this Saturday

[RockNCpl 71]

We found a club about a hour away that looks very inviting. Great pictures on their website. Bar area, billiard room, dance floor, 2 hot tubs, pool (obviously closed for the season) and the obvious play rooms.

 

We have been talking about it for a few months now and decided to take the step. Party will have a Naughty Make Nice theme, so we are trying to figure out attire. Mrs R shouldn't have a problem in this department as she has a large closet, and naughty xmas costumes are available everywhere. But what to wear for me? Suggestions (from the guys and the girls)?

 

Rules have been discussed, however, not set in stone (they will be finalized before hand) Most likely a social night while watching and being watched. This will be our first adventure after all.

 

Guidance and encouragement welcome!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Don't expect anything to happen, this is just unnecessary pressure to force something that isn't right or ready. Plan on having a GREAT evening with your spouse and anything else is a bonus. Make sure that your rules are set and do not violate them. Realize that no matter what may or may not happen, you are going to have some super hot sex when you get home. Most important, however, is to have fun.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Rock, the male is usually most comfortable in business casual. Collared shirt, nice slacks and shoes. Dress to impress.

[padoc 1,703]

Casual, nice slacks and a collared shirt as Adam says. For holiday themed party, Mrs Doc has bought a couple of Xmas boxers for me in case clothing starts to come off. Rudolph is always a hit!!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Don't expect anything to happen, this is just unnecessary pressure to force something that isn't right or ready. Plan on having a GREAT evening with your spouse and anything else is a bonus. Make sure that your rules are set and do not violate them. Realize that no matter what may or may not happen, you are going to have some super hot sex when you get home. Most important, however, is to have fun.

 

This is great advice, for your 1st club visit or your 100th club visit.

 

Ahhh, the what to wear question, that is always tricky your first time somewhere new. You've gotten good advice in that regard too, although I would add in nice jeans as an option there. We've been to clubs with a dress to impress code and never once been turned away in nice jeans, and there were plenty of others wearing them too. Key word there is nice. If they are the same ones you wear to work every day, then those probably aren't it. I wish some of the khakis guys would figure that out too. I've seen guys wearing khakis that should have been Goodwilled about two annual performance reviews ago, but they seem to think they are still "dress".

[RockNCpl 71]

Thank you for the guidance. We had a nice talk last night about how we're are feeling towards the party now that we have RSVPd and been invited. What we are expecting (from ourselves, not others). As of right now, we are both excited, but, not nervous. We expect the nerves to hit while we are driving there. The only thing we are planning for is to enjoy ourselves. We both want to be social and meet some new people. Mrs R would like to play softly with another women, making me (and the other husband) watch and she knows that I would love to see her perform oral on me and another guy at the same time, which she wants to do. We are not expecting either to happen, but, if we were to click with another couple, those are the limits we have set.

 

I would add in nice jeans as an option there..

 

This is the route I will probably be taking. Im not much of a business dress type, never really have been. I think I own 1 pair of dress slacks and I've had them longer than I've known my wife. The NICE jeans and shoes I have covered, but, I may have to pick up a new shirt...

 

Fun side note... the hosts asked us to bring a donation that fits in with the Lifestyle for a door prize. We always enjoy making a trip to the local adult store!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We expect the nerves to hit while we are driving there.

 

The hardest thing you will do all evening is getting up the nerve to walk through the door. After that, things only get easier.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

The hardest thing you will do all evening is getting up the nerve to walk through the door. After that, things only get easier.

 

This is true. I think the biggest hurdle people often have when getting started is to overcome the "what are swingers like?" question. Once you find out that they are regular people just like you, then things get easier.

[udsarge 119]

They're like regular people, it's just that they're sometimes naked!!

[RockNCpl 71]

Mrs Rock picked up a awesome outfit. Nice dress, bottom is just above her thighs, short sleeves and shoulder straps with a xmas elf design and found a red and green bra and panty set. She looks really hot in it. Maybe she will let me post a picture.

 

She should be home soon to start getting ready. Im home with our boys, packing their overnight bags for Nana and Papas, getting dinner ready (not certain if food will be served) and Im about get ready. I want Mrs R to not have to focus on anything when she gets home, except herself.

 

Feels like the morning of my wedding. Knowing I have a list of stuff to do before hand and feeling like a chicken with my head cut off. Oh, and the nerves are starting to kick in! Posting this while in the garage, taking a smoke break, trying to keep my composure.

[Guest]

So how did it go?

[RockNCpl 71]

So how did it go?

Simply put, it was awesome. We had a really good time. Hosts were very welcoming. Everyone was social. We both got a lot of compliments on our attire. Talked with about a dozen couples, a few of which were newbies like us.

 

We did meet a couple that only soft swaps. We spent sometime in the hot tub with them where the women started to play with each other while sitting on our laps. Myself and her SO were both given permission to let our hands wander. We did bring it to a room where we all played together, soft only. May seem a little odd,but, I told Mrs R that while we were playing one of the things I enjoyed was the conversation that was happening at the same time. I think that is because it shows how it is totally casual, no one is judging and we all just want to enjoy ourselves. Watching Mrs R eat out the other women was really hot too! Funniest part was the security guard that came into the room, we intentionally left the door open, telling us that we had to put our name on the door.

Basically, reserving the room for ourselves.

We all got a good laugh in on that! Afterwards, we went back to the club and talked with quite a few more people before calling it a night.

 

We were exhausted by the time we got home, but, this morning Mrs Rock put her outfit back on for me to make up for it.

 

Definitely a great first experience and we both agreed that we will be going back.

[RockNCpl 71]

The hardest thing you will do all evening is getting up the nerve to walk through the door.

 

Funny story about last night. After we parked we sat in the car for a few minutes. Talking a little but mostly staring at each other thinking "Ok, who is going to open their door first?" I then said "OK, lets just do it" we both get out and we are no more than 10ft from our car and security comes up to us telling us politely that we're can't park there. We apologize, tell him we've never been here before, it's our first adventure and we're a little nervous. He tells us no worries and nothing to be nervous about. Then says hosts are good people and the members are a good crowd. He shows us were too park tells us to just enjoy ourselves. After that, we were both ok. How funny is that? Our nerves were calmed via a conversation with a security guard!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Sounds like you had an awesome first time, that's great! The ovse4vatiin you made about a favorite part being how casual and relaxed it was, you are right on tye money there, that's one of our favorite parts too.

[padoc 1,703]

So Rock, you got us through the door. Now, do tell us what happened the rest of the evening!!

[RockNCpl 71]

For holiday themed party, Mrs Doc has bought a couple of Xmas boxers for me in case clothing starts to come off. Rudolph is always a hit!!

 

Thanks for this idea. Found boxer briefs, wife loves - I hate, with the oldschool cartoon version of Frosty. Mrs R didn't know about them until the pants came off, she was pleasantly surprised.

 

So Rock, you got us through the door. Now, do tell us what happened the rest of the evening!!

 

A play by play would be a long post. A detail about our play time with the couple involves Mrs R and her oral skills. While I was licking our new friends pussy, Mrs R was sucking on her SO. At one point I heard her say "You are rock hard". He replied "I know, you are really good. I actually need you to stop because you're going to make me cum and I want to fuck my girl". Hearing that almost made me blow mine because I know exactly what he was feeling. The way Mrs R uses her tongue is mind(load) blowing.

 

After we parted ways with that couple, we went back to the club and started chatting with another. A little older than us, its just a number anyway. During our conversation, she told me she had just turned 50 and her husband arranged a gang bang for her as her gift. They asked if we wanted to join them back in the house, but, we had already made the decision to head home (there is a down side to making a plan and sticking to it...lol) She told me their SLS profile and said that we need to join. She gave me a kiss and said they would see us at the next party.

 

 

Had to make my way back to the hot tub after realizing I lost my Blackhawks koozie. Walked into a threesome, MFM, going on in the hot tub. When I got back outside, Mrs R was talking with another couple (have I mentioned that she is a social butterfly?). Couple our age, both attractive. Im introduced and join the conversation. They then invite us inside, immediately telling us they only soft swap. Another "next time"....dam you "stick to the plan"!

 

We had a great time and are trying to figure out when we can go back.

 

Oh, and I never found my koozie...

[padoc 1,703]

Glad we could help!! It sounds like you two did everything exactly right and it worked out. You'll have a lot of conversations this week. Savor the memory, share impressions and (gasp!) feelings and revel in the residual eroticism. You love life at home will get a boost from what you saw and did.

[fwblondon 19]

Great story thanks for sharing. I wish we would have researched a little more before our first club. Our expectations were so much different and we learned as we went. We walked in and immediately were deer in headlights. It was like nothing we had ever experienced before. We have been in the LS for 5 years now and often laugh at some of our earlier experiences/expectations!