Exactly what happens at swingers parties?

[NewSw 37]

We live in a seemingly conservative country, so there are no clubs or swingers parties, so we have a curiosity with a question about what happens at swingers, we want to know the most prominent rituals out there? Please, we want an answer only from people who already have this experience and not just read

[cplnuswing 4,713]

That's a difficult question to answer. What the swinging environment is like depends a lot on the specific club or party.

 

A swingers party can cover the range between 1) a hedonistic writhing mass of naked bodies taking up every inch of floor space, to 2) a group of friends sitting around someone's house chatting and socializing and then by the time everyone is tired and ready to go home, realizing that they were enjoying themselves so much they forgot that they in fact are swingers and this in fact was a swingers party, yet everyone forgot to get naked and have sex

 

Clubs are sort of the same way. We've walked into clubs were the sexual energy smacking you in the face as soon as you stepped through the door. We have also been to clubs that were like walking into a small town neighborhood bar.

 

I guess if there is one constant it would be the people. Swingers tend to be pretty relaxed and easy to make friendly conversation with. That seems to hold true about anywhere you go.

[Guest]

They can be very sedate and like a normal party, but this people ocasionally disappearing into bedrooms. Or, at the other end of the spectrum, they can be very orgy like. In that sense, I wouldn’t suggest anyone go to one as their first swinging experience. Gain some experince at a couples club or elsewhere first. Also, ask questions before you go. We learned after we arrived that basically this was a group that had 3 or 4 party’s a year, but the same basic group of 10 or 12 couples. Basically, we were a fill-in because someone else couldn’t make it. As such, we were the newbies, and I was in essence the new meat. So, each of the husbands seemed to want to meet me on our first visit. Now, we have been to others that weren’t like that at all, more like any other party but instead of ending up in conversation with one or two or three other couples, you just end up in play with them.

[Bluespruce1 707]

We have a regular group that hosts house parties so we all pretty much know each other. The regulars will often bring guests so we do get to mix it up a bit. Since we are all very comfortable with each other, we will play games, set up glory holes using a big bed sheet or will but names in bowls and play pick a partner. We do 2 on 1 nights where we make sure everybody gets treated to two partners. It’s always fun, safe and exciting.

[Tabota 40]

I'm in Toronto, Canada and work at an onsite swingers night club. We promote to the open minded couples of the GTA and get a lot of vanillas who arrive wanting to spice up their lives. They dance, flirt, dress provocatively, chat and flirt with others, but go home at the end of the night instead of heading to the playrooms. In fact, our club is set up so if you didn't know about the playrooms, you'd think you were in a regular nightclub with a sexy twist.

Of course, the playrooms are full after midnight. One play room is designed for couples and no one is allowed to stand around and watch. There are semi private beds with curtains (draw the curtain and no one joins in), massage tables, and the like. The other side is more of a group room, and ppl there must be undressed, even if just to watch. There are groups of beds pushed together to encourage group play, even if just playing with your partner next to a bunch of others.

We don't push the raunchy side of the lifestyle... we figure if ppl are DTF they'll find the playrooms easily enough. We cater more to the sexy, flirty side of things. No nudity allowed in the danceclub and have a 'dress to impress' dress code that sets the tone for the public side of things.

There are other clubs in Toronto that cater to the DTF crowd, and those looking for an orgy, single guys and the like. There is certainly a market for this, but we find catering to the lighter side works well for everyone in the GTA.

[NewSw 37]

That's a difficult question to answer. What the swinging environment is like depends a lot on the specific club or party.

 

A swingers party can cover the range between 1) a hedonistic writhing mass of naked bodies taking up every inch of floor space, to 2) a group of friends sitting around someone's house chatting and socializing and then by the time everyone is tired and ready to go home, realizing that they were enjoying themselves so much they forgot that they in fact are swingers and this in fact was a swingers party, yet everyone forgot to get naked and have sex

 

Clubs are sort of the same way. We've walked into clubs were the sexual energy smacking you in the face as soon as you stepped through the door. We have also been to clubs that were like walking into a small town neighborhood bar.

 

I guess if there is one constant it would be the people. Swingers tend to be pretty relaxed and easy to make friendly conversation with. That seems to hold true about anywhere you go.

 

first thank you .

and , do you mean that there are parties swinging in someone’s house, sometimes all that happens there is only drinks and chats without sex and no naked?

[NewSw 37]

They can be very sedate and like a normal party, but this people ocasionally disappearing into bedrooms. Or, at the other end of the spectrum, they can be very orgy like. In that sense, I wouldn’t suggest anyone go to one as their first swinging experience. Gain some experince at a couples club or elsewhere first. Also, ask questions before you go. We learned after we arrived that basically this was a group that had 3 or 4 party’s a year, but the same basic group of 10 or 12 couples. Basically, we were a fill-in because someone else couldn’t make it. As such, we were the newbies, and I was in essence the new meat. So, each of the husbands seemed to want to meet me on our first visit. Now, we have been to others that weren’t like that at all, more like any other party but instead of ending up in conversation with one or two or three other couples, you just end up in play with them.

 

thank you my friends

[NewSw 37]

Sandra here--I still remember the time I was at a house party and me and this guy, he was a biochemist, just talked about science for a really, really long time (a couple of hours). We were pretty much naked the whole time. Eventually it was like,"Oh yeah. Shouldn't we be having sex ?"

 

Alternatively, I've had the,"I want you to take me. Right here. Right now." moments.

 

very nice , thank you sweetie

[NewSw 37]

I'm in Toronto, Canada and work at an onsite swingers night club. We promote to the open minded couples of the GTA and get a lot of vanillas who arrive wanting to spice up their lives. They dance, flirt, dress provocatively, chat and flirt with others, but go home at the end of the night instead of heading to the playrooms. In fact, our club is set up so if you didn't know about the playrooms, you'd think you were in a regular nightclub with a sexy twist.

Of course, the playrooms are full after midnight. One play room is designed for couples and no one is allowed to stand around and watch. There are semi private beds with curtains (draw the curtain and no one joins in), massage tables, and the like. The other side is more of a group room, and ppl there must be undressed, even if just to watch. There are groups of beds pushed together to encourage group play, even if just playing with your partner next to a bunch of others.

We don't push the raunchy side of the lifestyle... we figure if ppl are DTF they'll find the playrooms easily enough. We cater more to the sexy, flirty side of things. No nudity allowed in the danceclub and have a 'dress to impress' dress code that sets the tone for the public side of things.

There are other clubs in Toronto that cater to the DTF crowd, and those looking for an orgy, single guys and the like. There is certainly a market for this, but we find catering to the lighter side works well for everyone in the GTA.

 

thank you

[cplnuswing 4,713]

do you mean that there are parties swinging in someone’s house, sometimes all that happens there is only drinks and chats without sex and no naked?

 

Yes, that happens sometimes. Sometimes a swinger get-together can be pretty tame I should maybe clarify though that I'm talking about a small party of people who already know each other, so technically still a house party, but not a house party in the sense of really being a swingers club, just taking place at a private residence.

[NewSw 37]

Yes, that happens sometimes. Sometimes a swinger get-together can be pretty tame I should maybe clarify though that I'm talking about a small party of people who already know each other, so technically still a house party, but not a house party in the sense of really being a swingers club, just taking place at a private residence.

 

Yes we understood, this means that swingers friends may meet in someone’s home just for the sake of meeting only and not necessarily that all meetings are punctuated with sex or by physical contact.

thank you