Our swinging has evolved

[Shore2Please 612]

Our first swapping a number of years ago was in different rooms where I was made love to my a great man. It was really romantic. The next day was horrible when I was used by that same man for sex in front of others. I also didn’t enjoy watching my husband have sex with another woman and I had no desire to be with another woman. To this day I still prefer being alone with a partner even if others are playing in a party setting. We don’t play very often and it’s mostly with the original couple who doesn’t live close to us. When we do visit them they have invited others to our evenings. Over time I have let myself enjoy other men and even though I was originally repulsed by being with women. Over time I reluctantly did a little play, more allowing and me not a great participant with women.

Over the New Year we visited our friends who also invited two other couples. We did play as a group which I don’t know if I was ready for. The couples were not what I thought it was going to be. They were pretty nice people and we enjoyed everything that led up to the inevitable sex. I found myself with a man we just met and was nervous. I wanted to go to a bedroom with him as I am more comfortable that way. We didn’t and all of us stayed in the same room.

After a little hesitation I felt more comfortable and started to enjoy. Then I saw two of the women playing and prayed they would leave me alone. Didn’t take long before I was drawn into playing.

After some playing and fun at my expense it came out that I enjoy separate room play. I was coaxed into going to another room with one of the women. We spent the rest of the night together at first talking, telling stories and eventually much more. She was great in not forcing me to do things and instead letting things happen. I think I at first felt obligated but it the end I wanted to play. I am still evolving.

[PSULioness 850]

Aren’t we all evolving. Staying static would be a bore. You have evolved into my beginnings. I know longer make judgments to what is wrong or right. I don’t overthink what others think. I don’t know how I allowed myself to be intimate with my girlfriend yet I did and I now say so what. I felt very little guilt being with her and I didn’t do it to please my boyfriend. My evolving is your beginnings, being alone with a partner. My husband doesn’t have a need to watch me, he does enjoy watching with my girlfriends not with men so much. You are correct in saying that intimacy is different when alone with a partner. Others on here will say swinging is a couples thing, something you do together. If that is what is good for those people that’s great.

For me the excitement started with being with girlfriends. It was totally new to me and almost all my swinging centered on me exploring that. I evolved to playing in groups and then to being alone with guys.

To me the excitement is to continue to evolve. Have fun exploring.

[adamgunn 1,460]

I so agree that evolving is exciting. I remember when we first started swapping, followed by orgies, then hotwifing, then . . . It seemed like every time we went out, something new happened.

 

Now, after a couple of decades, I think we've explored everything we care to. We know we're not into certain things - BDSM, golden showers, foot fetish, etc. So that excitement seems like it's behind us. That's okay, when we meet new potential play partners, my heart still starts racing!

[Guest]

I think it evolves with all of us, kind of an exploration. We started with happenstance MFM with strangers,just guys that started chatting with us at a bar. Then added in swaps with couples at a couples club, Desires, and such, gradually expanding to foursomes and moresomes and with that, house parties. Somewhere in there we had our first MMFM and I enjoyed that even more than MFM but realized it’s not going to happen on the fly, works best with friends so now we do a lot of that, too, with my husband’s male friends and guys we know of local bars. And then it’s that fine line from MMFM into GB and so the exploration goes.

[ToeDippers 83]

It is evolving everyday. We are having the fun of exploring.

[NoAngels 334]

I can say we have evolved. She has been open to playing with other women and we had a threesome with a woman friend. I never thought I would have a threesome with another man. Even if I watched her with another partner I always kept my distance. My wife had suggested we do a threesome with a man we met. I told her she could meet him alone and she said she wanted both of us. TBH I didn’t want to be close to a penis. I finally gave in. It was strange at first and turned out well.

[Anon321 523]

It has definitely evolved.  Originally it was a lot of MFM threesomes with guys we knew.  Then there were more strangers and the group sizes got bigger but I was always there whether I was participating or not.  Then it evolved to her fucking guys in other rooms or places where I could hear or see via facetime or speakerphone and that became a whole new fun adventure for us.  It's extremely erotic when I don't expect it too.  Although at this point any time I see a video call request from one of my friends I just assume I'm going to see their cocks stuffed down my GF's throat.