Bored and not turned on...? Possible symptom of something...?

[WeRblk2curious 26]

As always, thank you group for the sagely advice!

 

So today I had the opportunity to watch my wife engage in play with another wife of a couple she has shown interest in. While my wife and this other lady were going at it, I became aware suddenly if being very bored by it. I mean, I couldn’t even finish watching the two of them being engaged and pulled out my phone and began checking out Facebook news instead. I mean I was literally bored. Once they finished and it was time to leave I was all for leaving. My wife of course was upset that I was not entertained. But, I was not even in the least bit aroused.

Has this happened to anyone else...?

[njbm 2,871]

We have played with couples and the activities have gone on for too long for us. My wife and I talked afterwards and we agreed we were both bored. We find first and second encounters with couples exciting. After that, it can get routine. So you are not alone.

[padoc 1,703]

No! When I watch Mrs Doc engaged in some kind of sexual activity, it is ALWAYS arousing. Its porn, my own personal porn. I simply cannot be bored watching her having erotic fun. Maybe the OP needs a new hobby.

[Numex 2,416]

When one of you wants to play and the other doesn't (or can't) , play alone. It makes our regular sex life and our together play more exciting.

[Guest]

Depends....

 

If I have cum I'll be less aroused / less interested / at least for a short while.

 

If I haven't already cum, then I'll be a lot more interested.

 

To be honest however seeing two girls play with each other has never been a big thing for me, I'm not against it but what turns me on better is me getting to play with those two women / those two women playing with me.

 

To be honest however if your wife likes / enjoys / or just feels okay doing stuff with another women 1 on 1 then I'd never discourage that.

 

In fact you could say the more comfy your wife gets with another women the better your threesomes with that women will end up been.

[WeRblk2curious 26]

Thanks in advance for all the answers /posts! I do appreciate the insight. I’ll try to just answer as briefly as possible everyone thus far:

 

Padoc: actually I have a lot of hobbies, but the lifestyle isn’t my primary one? It is one but not my “if you had only one hobby to do before u die”. And while I’m turned on by my wife, for whatever reason that wasn’t.... exciting?

 

Njbm: yes it did go for very long about 50-55 minutes. It started as a “sensual massage” which for the first 15 minutes it was ok... a semi naked woman oiled up rubbing on my wife can be exciting normally.

 

Numex: the reason I was there to watch was because the Male of the couple has had an “incident” where he was “inappropriate” with another lady of another couple. So I was there to watch and watch out. He left after a bit to allow them some alone time.

 

We currently only do separate play with her with the opposite sex (female) right now.. last two guys she had separate play has ended disastrously (see my other posts asking sagely advice....

 

Sun&Moon: the wife has a hard time finding women in our area that are into the both of us;

As of late this has been our scorecard:

 

* “unicorns” not being anything but Single Ladies who want to play with me, but not her

*couples who want to play But only with the wife, as they have a one penis rule so I’m out (and so are they)

* guys who say they are “LS” but aren’t and are just out here having sex, often trying to do it raw, cheating on their wife, or like the last one, cheating on their wife / boyfriend (and closeted bi and carrying an STI?)

 

I think that also to the female of the couple I wasn’t attracted to. So there is that, I do tend to get bored if I’m not attracted to the couple even if the wife is.

[Numex 2,416]

.. what turns me on better is me getting to play with those two women / those two women playing with me...

Agreed, and I get that fairly often because my wife likes pussy as much as I do, so she's always looking for an FFM. But I must admit, watching a man and woman (my wife or not) screw any which way will get me hard.

 

.... If I have cum I'll be less aroused / less interested / at least for a short while.

 

If I haven't already cum, then I'll be a lot more interested...

Same here, which is why I'll always go second in a serial MFM. It's not that I like the sloppy seconds so much as the show is much more fun for me before I blow my load.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

As always, thank you group for the sagely advice!

 

So today I had the opportunity to watch my wife engage in play with another wife of a couple she has shown interest in. While my wife and this other lady were going at it, I became aware suddenly if being very bored by it. I mean, I couldn’t even finish watching the two of them being engaged and pulled out my phone and began checking out Facebook news instead. I mean I was literally bored. Once they finished and it was time to leave I was all for leaving. My wife of course was upset that I was not entertained. But, I was not even in the least bit aroused.

Has this happened to anyone else...?

 

Since our interest is in everyone playing, yeah, I'd find watching to be sort of boring. So, if Harriet was interested in just playing with the female for a while, I wouldn't find it awkward to go entertain myself until it was time to join in. If your wife was upset, she shouldn't be. You weren't really included as anything but a voyeur and if that isn't all that exciting for you, she should be happy that you can entertain yourself doing something else. I really don't see what your wife has to complain about. She was busy doing what she wanted to do and you weren't included at that time.

 

the reason I was there to watch was because the Male of the couple has had an “incident” where he was “inappropriate” with another lady of another couple. So I was there to watch and watch out. He left after a bit to allow them some alone time.

And apparently, you did exactly what you were there to do, so I can't see why your wife cared what you were doing to keep busy with something you weren't bored with.