Guest Posted March 18, 2020 Husband That Likes Watching? Hi folks, could perhaps use a little advice regarding this subject. I was recently approached by a married couple and have to say the wife is absolutely stunning, we are talking 100% hot wife situation, and to be honest the husband isn't bad either and seems to have a wonderful clean body and is dam good shape for his age. However...... It basically seems his main interest is just “Watching” me do stuff to his incredibly hot wife. Now whilst I have been into this lifestyle for a dam long time my primary goal has always been “Group Sex” that sure on many occasions I have had guys and girls watching me have sex, but they have also joined in / been part of the team / where this guy specifically seems interested in watching. My simple questions is..... How could I touch / please his wife in the very best way that would bring the husband pleasure? I sense that really my performance with the women actually wont matter so much, that as long as I'm clean and know where to shove my dick I can't see that mattering so much. What I can see mattering is the SHOW I put on for husband, that if the husband is pleased I'll get invited back. If can offer any advice on this subject it would be appreciated? If you want to read on and listen to some more of my thoughts / questions / worries about this subject then feel free. You see been honest I'm a swinger and honestly I don't really want to watch someone have sex, I want to join them and have sex with them. Now whilst I agree that “Watching” someone can be fun, is nice, that it is something I have done before. Its NOT something I have done specifically, that I have never attended a meet where the husband specifically just wants to watch. The idea however has began to grow on me and basically if I ever did do something like that then I'm a little unsure how best to proceed. You know usually in a threesome situation the husband would be there to help / direct where just been watched suddenly seems to add a lot of pressure. I guess one of my primary questions is..... Should I walk in a treat this women romantically, with great care, softly? Should I walk in and just break her, you know take full control? Somehow a mixture of both? I am also a little unsure if this guy wants to just watch from a a distance, that he wants to sit in a chair in the corner of the room and watch me and his wife on the bed. I don't mind that, however really I'd not mind standing her up off the bed, walking her over to him and basically putting it all right in his face. Like literally stand right in front of him fucking and playing with his wife so he his close enough to touch. Taking things SLOW............ Would maybe help? I feel that this man wants a show, that if I just rush straight into his wife's knickers he would not be very happy. He has a strong urge to see me touch her, so I am assuming I'd be best really taking my time. Focusing on her neck and stomach, focussing on her breasts, stroking her, softly kissing her, then very slowly begin to tease her knickers, let her husband see me “Nearly” put my hand in her knickers. If I ever did end up meeting them I'd like to put on a really good show for the husband, any suggestions would be welcome there? THE WOMEN Honestly this man has landed himself an angel, I'd honestly say she is a women I'd go after myself if she was single or whatever. However her husband seems to like the idea of a “Stranger” basically fucking his wife, that seemingly he does all the picking / choosing of men and his wife goes will the flow and trusts his choices. This feels a little strange to me because in some respects this guy wants me to walk into his wife “Blind” and do all of this stuff to her, during which I may need to dominate her, or treat her with care and I'm kind of feeling stuck on exactly how that would be best done. I'm not sure if that makes sense but basically I'd like to somehow give the husband this “Stranger” type of show that he wants but somehow letting this women know that I am safe / am a nice person / would like to return again. Kind of like saying this dude might want me to throw his wife around the bedroom and fuck her hard without hardly even knowing her, but somehow I'd like to portray that I'm a safe enough, honest enough, person who is willing to adapt and should be invited back, that a friendship could grow. The couple do have a small amount of very positive and genuine reviews and seem they have only recently started this journey (within the last 5 years maybe) they seem to have a very nice home, family life, potentially good jobs, a working to higher class like family. I'd imagine a semi detached house and several cars in a good area of town by the looks of things. I'm not sure that made sense but basically this guy doesn't really want me to have any social time with his wife (not at first) in fact the first time I even see her I'll probably walk in a bedroom to either find her fully naked and waiting, or only in underwear or something like that. That he wants the feeling of a stranger meeting his wife and just fucking her, but during this I'd someone like this women to know that I'm safe, fun, and would be a good choice to invite again. One of the big problems I'm having with this couple is they really don't talk very much, I sense maybe they are very busy at the moment / working / maybe dealing with family stuff and whilst messages are always positive, always friendly they give little real detail about what they want, the main overall theme however seems to be this guy wants to watch. In some respects I'm I'm trying to give the husband the show he wants but also impress a slightly upper class totally hot wife with a nice home and family to have me back. I'm kind of even unsure how I should dress, you know usually I'd just throw on a black pair of jeans and t-shirt but in this case and maybe thinking something different, looking at their lifestyle I'd say I'm dealing with a couple where the husband spends half his time in proper shirts and trousers, and the wife wears sexy little dresses and summer outfits and things. You know I'm half tempted to turn up in some kind of casual posh jumper and a brand new off the shelf shirt that would maybe fit that a more middle to higher class theme. In fact looking at their pictures I guess you could say there are a middle class family, maybe not truly upper class but can tell they have some serious money and family power behind them, look like a really clean and somewhat wealthy family, so you know walking in with a metal music shirt might not go down so well. I noticed on one of their reviews they basically praised the guy for been polite, casual, friendly so again the idea of just walking in and smashing his wife does appeal, but the softly softly approach maybe better. I am sure the husband would speak with me first, I'm sure I'd get some kind of run down on what was expected. Like stated I do agree watching can be fun, but really I see watching more of a “I'm taking a breather” say for example when you organise a meet and it just happens to be roasting hot that day so sure I'll sit back for 10 minutes and watch, have a drink, cool myself down as sure I'll fuck a sexy women don't really want to lay there raining her in sweat. However to specially “Just” want to watch all seems a bit alien. I believe the man would join in later but my guess is this guy would want a full 30 to 60 session of just me and his wife. HOW TO TALK? I'm also a little unsure how to talk in this situation, should I talk to HIM. “Can you see me fucking your wife? Can you see me taking her? You know I'm going to have her right? You know this little girl is mine tonight don't you?” OR should I be focussing more on her, telling her she is mine tonight / that I'm having her / that she is taking me the easy way or the hard way. OVERALL I feel strange here, I actually like him and his wife, I sense they have many things in common with us as a couple, that we have even spoken briefly about a wife share kind of deal, but sure I feel strange because really I'd much prefer to actually meet his wife / talk with her / have a social / actually find out if she even likes me or not, but this isn't what this guy wants. You know if her pictures are 100% real which they seem to be and have been flagged as genuine then sure I'd happily walk in virtually any room and nail that princess all over, you know fuck it I'd do it on the presidents desk with him watching, she is fucking gorgeous, but still what if this women doesn't even like me, what if she takes one look at me and screams NOOOOO in her head. Sure I want to give this guy his fantasies and work within their rules and desires, but really I'd rather not even touch a women for 1 second that doesn't want me touching her. Would be kind of nice if the wife would meet me first even just for a few minutes, you know YES or NO? But like stated that isn't really what this guy wants, think maybe he gets off on his wife fucking the guys he chooses which doesn't seem to be many from what I can see. I am kind of excited by his offer because from what I can tell they met someone maybe a year ago and am thinking that friendship may have fizzled and they are now back on the scene looking for a new friendship. If I played my cards right I could be a replacement for the friendship that just fizzled, maybe I can offer this couple a better time / better show / more reliability or whatever. Guess any suggestions would be welcome, am dam use to swinging but not putting on shows for people who just want to watch if that makes sense. Thanks guys x Quote Share this post Link to post
Anon321 523 Posted March 18, 2020 I guess I can relate to this because I enjoy watching guys fuck my GF. You have two options: 1) Just ask them 2) Go with the vibe Most people on here would recommend the first option, but not every couple likes that. My GF can be a little stubborn and just wants guys to "get it" without having to explain it to them. But she is really into the whole scene of rough sex and being dominated and humiliated - it's quite a show with the right guy! But some other couples might be more into the soft romantic type of sex. If you're stressing this much about it then I would just ask them upfront what they like, what they are into, and what they are expecting. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted March 19, 2020 11 hours ago, Anon321 said: I guess I can relate to this because I enjoy watching guys fuck my GF. You have two options: 1) Just ask them 2) Go with the vibe Most people on here would recommend the first option, but not every couple likes that. My GF can be a little stubborn and just wants guys to "get it" without having to explain it to them. But she is really into the whole scene of rough sex and being dominated and humiliated - it's quite a show with the right guy! But some other couples might be more into the soft romantic type of sex. If you're stressing this much about it then I would just ask them upfront what they like, what they are into, and what they are expecting. Thank you, this helps. Guess my fear is I'd have 0% social time with the wife at first, any more suggestions on how to put on a good show would be helpeful, any specific things I can do / say / ECT. Quote Share this post Link to post
GeeDubb69 2 Posted March 19, 2020 22 hours ago, Sun&Moon said: Husband That Likes Watching? Hi folks, could perhaps use a little advice regarding this subject. I was recently approached by a married couple and have to say the wife is absolutely stunning, we are talking 100% hot wife situation, and to be honest the husband isn't bad either and seems to have a wonderful clean body and is dam good shape for his age. However...... It basically seems his main interest is just “Watching” me do stuff to his incredibly hot wife. Now whilst I have been into this lifestyle for a dam long time my primary goal has always been “Group Sex” that sure on many occasions I have had guys and girls watching me have sex, but they have also joined in / been part of the team / where this guy specifically seems interested in watching. My simple questions is..... How could I touch / please his wife in the very best way that would bring the husband pleasure? I sense that really my performance with the women actually wont matter so much, that as long as I'm clean and know where to shove my dick I can't see that mattering so much. What I can see mattering is the SHOW I put on for husband, that if the husband is pleased I'll get invited back. If can offer any advice on this subject it would be appreciated? If you want to read on and listen to some more of my thoughts / questions / worries about this subject then feel free. You see been honest I'm a swinger and honestly I don't really want to watch someone have sex, I want to join them and have sex with them. Now whilst I agree that “Watching” someone can be fun, is nice, that it is something I have done before. Its NOT something I have done specifically, that I have never attended a meet where the husband specifically just wants to watch. The idea however has began to grow on me and basically if I ever did do something like that then I'm a little unsure how best to proceed. You know usually in a threesome situation the husband would be there to help / direct where just been watched suddenly seems to add a lot of pressure. I guess one of my primary questions is..... Should I walk in a treat this women romantically, with great care, softly? Should I walk in and just break her, you know take full control? Somehow a mixture of both? I am also a little unsure if this guy wants to just watch from a a distance, that he wants to sit in a chair in the corner of the room and watch me and his wife on the bed. I don't mind that, however really I'd not mind standing her up off the bed, walking her over to him and basically putting it all right in his face. Like literally stand right in front of him fucking and playing with his wife so he his close enough to touch. Taking things SLOW............ Would maybe help? I feel that this man wants a show, that if I just rush straight into his wife's knickers he would not be very happy. He has a strong urge to see me touch her, so I am assuming I'd be best really taking my time. Focusing on her neck and stomach, focussing on her breasts, stroking her, softly kissing her, then very slowly begin to tease her knickers, let her husband see me “Nearly” put my hand in her knickers. If I ever did end up meeting them I'd like to put on a really good show for the husband, any suggestions would be welcome there? THE WOMEN Honestly this man has landed himself an angel, I'd honestly say she is a women I'd go after myself if she was single or whatever. However her husband seems to like the idea of a “Stranger” basically fucking his wife, that seemingly he does all the picking / choosing of men and his wife goes will the flow and trusts his choices. This feels a little strange to me because in some respects this guy wants me to walk into his wife “Blind” and do all of this stuff to her, during which I may need to dominate her, or treat her with care and I'm kind of feeling stuck on exactly how that would be best done. I'm not sure if that makes sense but basically I'd like to somehow give the husband this “Stranger” type of show that he wants but somehow letting this women know that I am safe / am a nice person / would like to return again. Kind of like saying this dude might want me to throw his wife around the bedroom and fuck her hard without hardly even knowing her, but somehow I'd like to portray that I'm a safe enough, honest enough, person who is willing to adapt and should be invited back, that a friendship could grow. The couple do have a small amount of very positive and genuine reviews and seem they have only recently started this journey (within the last 5 years maybe) they seem to have a very nice home, family life, potentially good jobs, a working to higher class like family. I'd imagine a semi detached house and several cars in a good area of town by the looks of things. I'm not sure that made sense but basically this guy doesn't really want me to have any social time with his wife (not at first) in fact the first time I even see her I'll probably walk in a bedroom to either find her fully naked and waiting, or only in underwear or something like that. That he wants the feeling of a stranger meeting his wife and just fucking her, but during this I'd someone like this women to know that I'm safe, fun, and would be a good choice to invite again. One of the big problems I'm having with this couple is they really don't talk very much, I sense maybe they are very busy at the moment / working / maybe dealing with family stuff and whilst messages are always positive, always friendly they give little real detail about what they want, the main overall theme however seems to be this guy wants to watch. In some respects I'm I'm trying to give the husband the show he wants but also impress a slightly upper class totally hot wife with a nice home and family to have me back. I'm kind of even unsure how I should dress, you know usually I'd just throw on a black pair of jeans and t-shirt but in this case and maybe thinking something different, looking at their lifestyle I'd say I'm dealing with a couple where the husband spends half his time in proper shirts and trousers, and the wife wears sexy little dresses and summer outfits and things. You know I'm half tempted to turn up in some kind of casual posh jumper and a brand new off the shelf shirt that would maybe fit that a more middle to higher class theme. In fact looking at their pictures I guess you could say there are a middle class family, maybe not truly upper class but can tell they have some serious money and family power behind them, look like a really clean and somewhat wealthy family, so you know walking in with a metal music shirt might not go down so well. I noticed on one of their reviews they basically praised the guy for been polite, casual, friendly so again the idea of just walking in and smashing his wife does appeal, but the softly softly approach maybe better. I am sure the husband would speak with me first, I'm sure I'd get some kind of run down on what was expected. Like stated I do agree watching can be fun, but really I see watching more of a “I'm taking a breather” say for example when you organise a meet and it just happens to be roasting hot that day so sure I'll sit back for 10 minutes and watch, have a drink, cool myself down as sure I'll fuck a sexy women don't really want to lay there raining her in sweat. However to specially “Just” want to watch all seems a bit alien. I believe the man would join in later but my guess is this guy would want a full 30 to 60 session of just me and his wife. HOW TO TALK? I'm also a little unsure how to talk in this situation, should I talk to HIM. “Can you see me fucking your wife? Can you see me taking her? You know I'm going to have her right? You know this little girl is mine tonight don't you?” OR should I be focussing more on her, telling her she is mine tonight / that I'm having her / that she is taking me the easy way or the hard way. OVERALL I feel strange here, I actually like him and his wife, I sense they have many things in common with us as a couple, that we have even spoken briefly about a wife share kind of deal, but sure I feel strange because really I'd much prefer to actually meet his wife / talk with her / have a social / actually find out if she even likes me or not, but this isn't what this guy wants. You know if her pictures are 100% real which they seem to be and have been flagged as genuine then sure I'd happily walk in virtually any room and nail that princess all over, you know fuck it I'd do it on the presidents desk with him watching, she is fucking gorgeous, but still what if this women doesn't even like me, what if she takes one look at me and screams NOOOOO in her head. Sure I want to give this guy his fantasies and work within their rules and desires, but really I'd rather not even touch a women for 1 second that doesn't want me touching her. Would be kind of nice if the wife would meet me first even just for a few minutes, you know YES or NO? But like stated that isn't really what this guy wants, think maybe he gets off on his wife fucking the guys he chooses which doesn't seem to be many from what I can see. I am kind of excited by his offer because from what I can tell they met someone maybe a year ago and am thinking that friendship may have fizzled and they are now back on the scene looking for a new friendship. If I played my cards right I could be a replacement for the friendship that just fizzled, maybe I can offer this couple a better time / better show / more reliability or whatever. Guess any suggestions would be welcome, am dam use to swinging but not putting on shows for people who just want to watch if that makes sense. Thanks guys I'm not gonna sit here and pretend to be the expert on something I have never even experience, but I do believe more communication between the three of you before anything happens would probably be best. Less questions during the act, and probably no awkward moments. Hope that help. Good luck, and fun!!! Quote Share this post Link to post
Anon321 523 Posted March 20, 2020 On 3/19/2020 at 2:56 AM, Sun&Moon said: Thank you, this helps. Guess my fear is I'd have 0% social time with the wife at first, any more suggestions on how to put on a good show would be helpeful, any specific things I can do / say / ECT. Ask the husband what the wife likes. As for the "show," did he give you any indication on what he wanted to see? Whether he wanted to see you make love to her or dominate her, etc.? Quote Share this post Link to post
GeeDubb69 2 Posted March 25, 2020 On 3/19/2020 at 7:23 AM, GeeDubb69 said: I would say always keep both people involved in some way shape or form. Sometimes you're the tool for a couple to enhance their sexlife. Always remember the person outside the couple relationship is the person brought in to fulfill the couples fantasy. If yours get filled in the process, so be it. I will be flattered the day a couple ask me to be their #3. Quote Share this post Link to post