How old are you?

[VegasLee 1,486]

I have this poll running elsewhere and have also done it in the past. Seems "swingers" are getting older so I am trying to update my data.

 

I know this is a question that I am not supposed to "ask the ladies" but since this is not tracking "who" you are, just your answer I wanted to do a poll about how old the avg. person in the lifestyle is. This is for both men and women.

Lets be truthful here since it is not tracking you please.

 

Thanks!

[frenzb4sex 15]

I checked out one of the larger sites we belong to, and did a sample of those within a 700 mile radius of us. I did not exclude any types (i.e. Single males, Single Females, and couples were included). I realize that this may have an error rate based on what OhioCouple's situation is with the age differences, but I believe that the statistical significance is probably less than 3 percent.

 

The stats:

 

Those within 20-29: 13.477%

Those within 30-39: 42.323%

Those within 40-49: 35.447%

Those within 50-70: 8.753%

 

Just thought I'd add some perspective....

 

 

Tim

[yawanna 17]

This is an interesting poll...to me for one I've been noticing an increase in younger couples....married or just b/f & g/f going online with ads and into chat rooms...not so much on the message boards.

 

By younger I mean 18, 19 and into their early to mid 20's....also see many young men - same age group - posting ads on swinger sites saying they want to meet with couples.

 

I'll be watching this poll and yes I've responded. Mr will do so under his own nick here

[BiCoupleNJ 15]

Originally posted by yawanna

I've been noticing an increase in younger couples....married or just b/f & g/f going online with ads and into chat rooms

 

We agree with yawanna - although the swinging population in general IS getting older, simply because many of us have been in the lifestyle for quite some time, there seems to be a recent influx of younger couples and singles becoming interested in the lifestyle.

Perhaps the younger generation joining us in the lifestyle can be attributed to those of us that have been in the lifestyle for some time - we are now the group that runs many businesses and hold positions of authority... and have impressed upon others that it is OK to try this lifestyle. I think that those of us that are tail-end baby boomers (born 1964 & prior) and those born into the mid 70s have had a "try it, you'll like it" attitude that has been passed on to the next generation. I am sure that all would agree that it is MUCH more likely that a girl of 18 has tried bi sex now that it was 20 years ago. And the same can probably be said for guys, too - 20 years ago, trying bi was a death sentence, at least socially. Today, it seems the cool thing to do.

And don't feel bad about being a numbers guy, Lee... I have the same affliction - I am ALWAYS looking at how the numbers stack up, even if it is on a subject that holds no interest to me! Damn Pythagorus! Damn Newton! LOL.

Jerry

[Chicup 42]

Originally posted by BiCoupleNJ

Perhaps the younger generation joining us in the lifestyle can be attributed to those of us that have been in the lifestyle for some time - we are now the group that runs many businesses and hold positions of authority... and have impressed upon others that it is OK to try this lifestyle. I think that those of us that are tail-end baby boomers (born 1964 & prior) and those born into the mid 70s have had a "try it, you'll like it" attitude that has been passed on to the next generation

 

I wouldn't go that far, being still a 'young' swinger, we knew NOTHING about the older generation. I knew swinger = wife swapper and that was it.

 

The KEY was the internet. It let us explore without sticking our necks out. There is no way we would have gone to a club cold, or put an add in a swingers magazine, but we could put an add on the internet with an anonymous email and go from there.

 

I predict a MAJOR increase in swinging in the next 10 years, but again, it will be the internet driving it.

[BiCoupleNJ 15]

Originally posted by Chicup

The KEY was the internet.

 

Chicup,

Although I will still say that those of us in our age group had a hand in on making it easier - I'll explain a little more in a sec - you are 100% right that the Internet made swinging take off in a huge way.

Had it not been for the easy access and, more importantly, the anonymity that the Internet offered, swinging would have continued its downward spiral that we all saw in the early- to mid-90s, when many clubs, organizations, newsletters (ours included) and other swinger related business went under.

Now I still will argue that those of us in the 35-50 range had a big hand in on keeping swinging alive and helping it grow - because it was those of us from that age group that created many of the Internet websites that were so prominent in the late-90s and into the 2000s. Those of you in the younger age groups have helped make it explode by being so much more computer savvy than many baby boomers and by, as you said, exploring the lifestyle without sticking your necks out.

I think that we all can take a bit of pride in knowing that we have all helped to some degree in keeping the lifestyle alive and kicking... as well as helping it grow and expand its age groups, whether old or young

Jerry & Liz

[angihay 15]

We fall between 2 catagories with an 8 year age difference but hey 16% in each not doing to bad I guess

[bccpl77 15]

Originally posted by BiCoupleNJ

Chicup,

Although I will still say that those of us in our age group had a hand in on making it easier - I'll explain a little more in a sec - you are 100% right that the Internet made swinging take off in a huge way.

Had it not been for the easy access and, more importantly, the anonymity that the Internet offered, swinging would have continued its downward spiral that we all saw in the early- to mid-90s, when many clubs, organizations, newsletters (ours included) and other swinger related business went under.

Now I still will argue that those of us in the 35-50 range had a big hand in on keeping swinging alive and helping it grow - because it was those of us from that age group that created many of the Internet websites that were so prominent in the late-90s and into the 2000s. Those of you in the younger age groups have helped make it explode by being so much more computer savvy than many baby boomers and by, as you said, exploring the lifestyle without sticking your necks out.

I think that we all can take a bit of pride in knowing that we have all helped to some degree in keeping the lifestyle alive and kicking... as well as helping it grow and expand its age groups, whether old or young

Jerry & Liz

 

 

Very well said Jerry & Liz. Although we had already swapped with friends before we really knew what swinging was, I don't think we would have ever known what the "lifestyle" was without the internet, let alone knew there was a club in a community within driving distance. Without the internet we would most likely still be waiting patiently for those rare opportunities when we were drinking with friends and things just sponaniously happened. Although we both knew we both wanted to do this, we never really discussed it in any detail before, now, thanks in a huge part from this site and the people on it, we are able to actually communicate what we want and I truly believe our relationship is stronger for it.

 

Sorry for going a little off track for this thread. Your poll works for us were both 26

[navyflyer 15]

55 The olde speed limit...

[NtyKittensMan 16]

That's an interesting poll. The wife and I are both 35. So we almost fall into the majority of the poll results as of now. Its nice to see that.

[DaveNSheila 16]

For us we are on two different age cat. D is 36 and S is 34. D

[djjwp 129]

At 42, I'm on the downhill slide. OH NO!!!

[djdvcmu 16]

I am 31 but feel much younger!

[lostnwilds 15]

no swingers are not getting older the rest of the world is just getting younger

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I have this poll running elsewhere and have also done it in the past. Seems "swingers" are getting older so I am trying to update my data.

 

 

Man Lee, if Swingers are getting OLDER, by our results here, they must have started out pretty young! LOL

 

I always thought swingers were getting younger, that the whole internet and openness of swinging in general was attracting in younger people/ couples where as it had previously been something that spread more word of mouth and people didn't tend to hear about it till they were a bit older and more settled.

[VegasLee 1,486]

Out of the four places we have had this poll running this is the youngest group.

 

The other sites all show 41 - 45 as the largest group in the poll.

 

Most other polls that others are taking we have found the avg. age to be 42 years old.

 

We have also found that most of the hardcore players tend to be over 40.

 

Your mileage may vary!

 

Guess you attract the young ones Julie.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

You're only as old as you feel Lee, how often do I have to tell that.... and if you need to feel younger, just feel me

[fun4Ds 1,098]

we are both 43 so i guess we are in the norm eccept,had we known about it eirlier in life we probly would have fit in. we probly should have just used the name fun4ties or sumthing

[Mr&MrsSwing 16]

Just wanted to let you know I am 20. Mr. is 21. Hope it helps. =)

[echo7 15]

Hi, I Guess we would be of the nor norm, for the wife & I Are 73 & 62, Still haveing fun in our age group.Laugh , you are never to old to have fun in the lifestyle.You just do things at a slower pace. J&F

[OttawaCuple 15]

I'm almost 55 and the Mr is almost 50 (we were both born in May so our birthdays are very soon).

 

I think if one wants to vote as a couple, but the ages are vastly different, just add up both ages, divide by two, and use THAT number as the age of the couple.

 

MrsOttawaCuple

[Bottombitch 15]

Nice poll....Glad to see older men here

[Bad Sandy 15]

I voted for myself, (33) but Hubby is in a different catagory, (40). Thought you might want to add him to your data.

[Chip_n_Muffy 16]

We are 53 (Chip) and 46 (Muffy). Personally, I have a wider range of potential ages than Muffy. I like my from my age (approx) to 30 or so. Muffy definitely prefers older men. Guess that is why she snagged me! It is somewhat limiting but not insurmountable. Besides, those are preferences, not absolute limits. You never know what will happen as you meet people. Never say never in the lifestyle!

 

Chip

[Amanda69 24]

We are Female - 44 and Male - 48 (sorry couldn't figure out how to get the poll to allow more than one choice).

 

We play with people approximately 35 - 55 but keep that a little flexible for those special people who we make a connection with.

[Dooode 18]

I'm coming up on 47 and generally I play with others who's ages are within 10 years either way of my own.

 

I've gone with younger (as low as 22 yo) and as old as in their early 60's ... but the problem there is that too young and it's like they're both from different planets and if they're too old the physical appeal is lost.

[r_poseidon 17]

I am 20, she is 22 (no cracks, please). We have no limitations tho on age. Looks, sure. We have seen 39 year olds that look awesome, and 30 year olds that are horrendous. As a generality tho, over 40 is usually the cut off, not always tho.

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

T is 45

A is 30

P is 44

 

We enjoy a wide variety of ages when it comes to play. We have played with people as young as 20 and 57 on the other end of the scale. It really depends on the people, a lot of the times age is just a number. For us it is all about personality and attitude.

 

The Menage's

[AZ Dreaming 15]

We are both 36.

 

Our age range for playing I would say...28-50. It really all depends on the people.

[EvilMJ 65]

I'm 34 and hubby is 42. So that give us a good range to work with

 

I don't go by age range. I go by attraction. If I'm attracted to a 55 year old then so be it...if he's 20 so be it....but that works both ways..they can be 35 and about appealing as a sack of three week old snakes.

[CB_n_Red 16]

I'm 50 and Red is 51. While we generally look for potential playmates in the 40-60 range, we're quite happy with other ages. it's about attraction, not numbers.

 

CB

[Thrax 384]

I'm 50. I don't have any fixed boundaries on age but since I started dabbling in this several years ago the range has been from late 20's to about 55.

 

Thrax

[VanHlebar 187]

Well I am 33 and MrsVan is 30. I have a much wider range than MrsVan, but we both just go with the flow. As long as we have an attraction to the other couple then that really is all that matters. In general it would be 20ish - late 50s and 25 - 40 for MrsVan. As I said, these are more guidelines, if we meet a couple/single that we find that we really hit it off with and are attracted to, then we still would be fine.

 

-Van

[riswingcpl 16]

I'm 47, G will be 43 next month.

 

Age ranges? It varies depending on the person/people, but 35-55 is about where we usually land.

 

M

[singleagain 26]

I am 62. I have played with those as young as 25 and as old as 70. Age (as long as its legal) is no problem for me. Clean, respectable, intellegent, sexy, fit, active, and horny (not necessaryily in that order) are always more important than age. I have met those who are 13 mentally and 40 physically.

[mrs good times 73]

I am 43 and I don't have an age restriction for play partners. I have played in the wide range of 22 to 65 and it's all good as long as they are fun and I find them attractive.

[good times 991]

I am 47, I have no set age limits.

[ohash01 20]

I am 23...he is 28...we don't have a age-range "rule"...but we usually find it's just easier for people in our general age area. i'm a mature 23...so we're usually looking at 25-35 year olds.

[rpu3 630]

38 for her

48 for him

 

No defined range at this time as to whom we will swing with.

[Spoomonkey 421]

1) Your age or ages

 

I am 37. Mrs Spoo turns 50 this month. The funny thing is - everyone guesses her age as about the same as mine. Talk about a woman who has aged well facelick

 

2) What age range do you play with, if you have any restrictions in this area?

 

Our age ranges are not terribly strict. But we tend to look for people closer to my age than hers, since not everyone ages as well. Lately we have been with folks between 20 and 35 - so we tend to be attracted to people a little younger - and they seem pretty attracted to us as well

 

I think it really has a lot to do with how they look - not how old they are. If a 60-year-old hit on us - the number would not be nearly as important as the attraction.

 

Our only rule is on younger. Any men who aren't 30 tends to turn off Mrs Spoo. Sure there are some guys out there who are younger - but more mature - who she would play with, but not many.

 

On the other hand, though, as long as the women are old enough to get into our club, we have no such age restrictions.

 

Spoomonkey

[ShellyM 0]

I am 34 and jay is 36

[prettylady 221]

I am 34 and Dog is 49. So I guess our age ranges would be wide.

I prefer, or atleast I think I prefer, people my age or older.

Your friend,

Prettylady

[sbjr3 17]

I am 45 and Jr is 49. As we haven't swung/swinged (?) yet, we haven't determined what our age range will be, but if what we are attracted to in the vanilla world is an indicator then our preference would be somewhere between 35 and 55.

 

sb

[Dynamar 246]

I'm 42. People I've played with have been between the ages of 27 and 55. In general, I've not found many people over the age of 50 who've tripped my trigger, although one of my favorite playmates is 55... he just doesn't look it, nor act it.

 

I gotta admit a particular weakness for younger men... particularly aged 27-35. facelick

[Chicup 42]

36-33

 

No 'set' limit but we like to stay in 10 years higher/lower as a rule.

[flkeyscouple 21]

We are both in the 46-50 group. And having a great time at our ages!

 

Sarah

[Guest cplskbif]

I am 40 and my husband is 38.I went to the spa and they told me my face was of a 20 year old.I am not afraid to say my age.I think when you get older you get wiser thats my philsophy anyway.

[queenofhearts 15]

This is an interesting poll...to me for one I've been noticing an increase in younger couples....married or just b/f & g/f

 

This is me. I am younger (23) and I am just dating. There is an age difference of about 8 years between my other and I. Which made it a little hard to vote.

 

I think the reason that younger people are trying swinging earlier than most is because sex is so mainstream. Its everywhere. You can search for housewife gangbangsand get thosands of sites. I don't think that you could do this years ago.

 

Just my 2 cents.

[CandTinLorainCo 16]

Biiaancaa.. from what i gather off this poll.most are 26-55 if that helps. Good Luck on your quest.

-C

[Ellyanne77 81]

We are both 30