adamgunn 1,460 Posted May 9, 2020 In a novel I’m reading there was a comment by a heroine that she is used to being undressed by men’s stares. I’ve often seen men undress my wife with their stares, in vanilla situations, and certainly at our swing club where there often is very little for them to take off in their imaginations. Women, do you mind being mentally undressed? Would you mind discussing your reactions? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted May 10, 2020 I love the attention. Even loved it before we started swinging. I try and give them a little peak. And if they are subtle about it...show me their erection. Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,024 Posted May 11, 2020 On 5/10/2020 at 5:27 PM, FullSwapCLT said: I love the attention. Even loved it before we started swinging. I try and give them a little peak. And if they are subtle about it...show me their erection. There seem to be no excuses too small for to you to post provocative pictures with your replies. Your pictures do very little to move conversations forward. What reason do you imagine you have for this behavior? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Alura 2,774 Posted May 12, 2020 Of a Wardrobe Manager: "He doesn't undress women with his eyes. He looks at a gal and thinks, 'Wow! What a body! I'd love to dress you up!'" 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted May 12, 2020 FullSwapCt answered the question by saying she loves it, then and now, and then gave us an example of how she likes to be an active participant, not just a passive one. A picture is worth a thousand words as they say. Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,703 Posted May 13, 2020 Couldn't agree more. Mrs CLT can flash me anytime!! Here or in person! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
lovefest04 699 Posted May 16, 2020 Ladies, you have my permission to undress me with your eyes anytime. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted May 17, 2020 I tend to enjoy it most times. Like most anything else, some guys manage to turn it into more of a seedy stare. Quote Share this post Link to post
TricianMike 772 Posted May 17, 2020 I sometimes dress to get people to notice me. A short skirt, a top showing a little, even jeans that hug my butt. What woman doesn’t check the mirror to see what their butt looks like. I am guessing men will wonder what I look like undressed. Answering this I’m thinking as I get older that maybe they would be disappointed. Mike and I agree on most people look better with some clothes. We will go to our nude beach and will say that this one or that one should have left their clothes on. Thinking others are saying that about us. Of course a nude beach is more of being nude, not dressing to impress. We also agree a big breasted woman is sexier dressed as we both prefer smaller breasted women undressed. I guess I do undress a well built man. Check out his butt, his body. Smiling now as I think I do the same to women. Do I look at men below the belt, not unless his pants are tight. I know I’m not the only woman who will notice a big bulge even though I don’t need a big one. I think my eyes are just noticing and wondering. I have read other women saying that they wonder what a man has before undressing for sex. To me a man’s butt is more attractive dressed. My thoughts almost always tend to undress a man in my mind as I undress him physically. One of my favorite parts of foreplay is wondering what that bulge will really be. I don’t think it’s a size thing, more of what it will be. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,416 Posted May 17, 2020 On 5/11/2020 at 4:07 PM, SW_PA_Couple said: Your pictures do very little to move conversations forward. Two people liked it, not counting me. It's like putting clip art into a PowerPoint, may not be relevant, but adds a visual cue to focus the mind. Quote Share this post Link to post
PSULioness 848 Posted May 18, 2020 11 hours ago, TricianMike said: I sometimes dress to get people to notice me. A short skirt, a top showing a little, even jeans that hug my butt. What woman doesn’t check the mirror to see what their butt looks like. I am guessing men will wonder what I look like undressed I have always had doubts about my body. I was always the thin gawky girl or that was the way I looked at myself. I was not well developed on top or my bottom. I prayed guys would look at me. I had friends reassure me about my looks. In the summer I wore what I thought was sexy, shorts and crop tops. I guess I hoped guys would notice. I never mentally undressed my friends with better bodies even I wished my body was better. 11 hours ago, TricianMike said: guess I do undress a well built man. Check out his butt, his body. Smiling now as I think I Secretly I did check guys out. Not that I thought of me with the real hot guys. I was the shy one while my friends were more outgoing. How do you not notice? A guy with a big pack scared me. I did wonder though. Oh things have changed and like Tricia said, there is an excitement the first time with a new partner. I am still not as confident as I should be. I do want people to mentally undress me and when I think someone is looking at me that way I guess I’m thrilled by it. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,641 Posted May 20, 2020 On 5/17/2020 at 8:07 PM, PSULioness said: I was always the thin gawky girl or that was the way I looked at myself. I was not well developed on top or my bottom. On 5/17/2020 at 8:07 PM, PSULioness said: I prayed guys would look at me. .. I guess I hoped guys would notice. That was me, except maybe not so gawky, I was/am athletic. Did wear the glasses though. Swinging, however, brings new confidence. Playing a little has for me, along with the comments that have accumulated over the years by men (and women) who have expressed interest in my body. For some, me having little in the chest or ass brings more curiosity, not less. Things said to me in a professional setting that shouldn't have been said, I actually found flattering. A couple of guys and one woman later apologized, but I told them not to worry about it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post