Have you ever seen a play partner two years later and....

[njbm 2,871]

You wonder what the hell happened to them? It happened to us twice. We ran into couples one year and two years after playing with them, respectively. The wives looked ten years older than previous. What happened? Illness? Pressure? Sorry to be catty, maybe we are aging also. My wife agreed that these women went from hot to not in a hurry. No we weren’t drunk the first time. Ever happen to anyone else?

[Anon321 522]

We actually ran into a guy we knew who fucked my GF a few times and had a MFM with.  It was probably 2 years later and he got huge muscle-wise.  He was fit before but now he was freak show big.  There is no way you can get this big without steroids.  My GF went off to blow him and she said he was soft the entire time.  She said he eventually busted his nut in her mouth but his dick was still soft.  Don't know if that could be related to steroids or not because he's only 29 or 30.

[njbm 2,871]

56 minutes ago, Anon321 said:

We actually ran into a guy we knew who fucked my GF a few times and had a MFM with.  It was probably 2 years later and he got huge muscle-wise.  He was fit before but now he was freak show big.  There is no way you can get this big without steroids.  My GF went off to blow him and she said he was soft the entire time.  She said he eventually busted his nut in her mouth but his dick was still soft.  Don't know if that could be related to steroids or not because he's only 29 or 30.

Steroid related for sure. 

[Guest]

So interesting you ask this today. I just finished a long conversation with a friend that has remarried and wants to date us. We had gone to a party several years ago at his house and he and his then wife were great. They lived about 2 hours from us so reconnecting as a foursome took about a year. And OMG, she had blown up. She had turned from a juicy little Latina into a big fat mama. And it wasn’t long after that, that they got a divorce. This guy was a sweetheart and we did invite him over several times. I fucked him. But, after a couple years, he just kind of went away. He didn’t respond to any messages and their old couples profile disappeared from a dating site.

 

Now I know that he was going through the traditional dating ritual. And now he has a new wife and she is a secret slut like me.  He sent me her picture and my husband is going to like this one. My friend says to me, “She doesn’t speak a word of English, but she can fuck almost as good as me.” How sweet.

[couplers 4,640]

On 6/2/2020 at 2:38 PM, njbm said:

Have you ever seen a play partner two years later and....You wonder what the hell happened to them?

That's sort of happened with Walter, Lora's ex-husband.  When they were first dating I recruited Lora to have sex with hubby.  She did, told Walter, Walter joined us and started playing with Clair and me in our family.  They both seemed to be good with it, got engaged, got married, and we kept playing with them.  When Walter got a great job offer in California, Lora said that she wasn't going and furthermore wanted a divorce because she was in love with David, my husband (I understood).  Lora was attached to Clair and me as well, so she joined our family.  Walter was upset, but continued to play with us, including Lora, both when he visited us all and a couple of times when I or Lora went to La Jolla.  We have since, however, all moved on and we haven't seen him in a couple of years, although we still sometimes exchange messages.  He has aged, but the more mature look suits him and he is still in great shape.

[njbm 2,871]

3 hours ago, couplers said:

That's sort of happened with Walter, Lora's ex-husband.  When they were first dating I recruited Lora to have sex with hubby.  She did, told Walter, Walter joined us and started playing with Clair and me in our family.  They both seemed to be good with it, got engaged, got married, and we kept playing with them.  When Walter got a great job offer in California, Lora said that she wasn't going and furthermore wanted a divorce because she was in love with David, my husband (I understood).  Lora was attached to Clair and me as well, so she joined our family.  Walter was upset, but continued to play with us, including Lora, both when he visited us all and a couple of times when I or Lora went to La Jolla.  We have since, however, all moved on and we haven't seen him in a couple of years, although we still sometimes exchange messages.  He has aged, but the more mature look suits him and he is still in great shape.

Sounds sad for Walter. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,389]

Yes. Years ago we played with a couple who lived here in NJ and every winter the hubby went to Alaska to work as a crab fisherman. The benefit was that we kept his wife entertained while he was away.

One year she announced she was going to Alaska with him.

5 years later they divorced and she came back, but she was changed. Big time. She seemed to age 20 years and was almost unrecognizable.

We wondered what happened, and decided "Alaska happened".

[Numex 2,416]

2 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

We wondered what happened, and decided "Alaska happened".

An old joke:

"Are you from Alaska?"

"No.  Why do you ask?"

"You look like a husky fucker."

[J&Wu 408]

In "The Time of Covid" some of us will find out, for use it will be almost 2 years away from our club, at least I hope we will be back then.

[SJBluebirds 195]

Happened with us; friends we knew who were pretty dang hot -- and then three years later, not-so-much.

 

She had cancer, and treatment did a number on her looks; he went grey / white with more facial-wrinkles than expected, most likely from stress over her diagnosis and the loss of both parents and a sister in a car accident.

 

Frankly, we're surprised they're both holding up as well as they are.

 

Edited to add: When we say "No Drama" in potential play-couples, *this* is acceptable life-drama; it's the selfish/jealous stuff we don't want to deal with.

Edited February 16, 2021 by SJBluebirds

[njbm 2,871]

Sad when people go downhill. Sorta wish we started swinging younger. We just heard of the passing of a 30ish friend of a friend in the lifestyle. 
 

You’re only dancing on this earth a short time. -Cat Stevens

[couplers 4,640]

On 2/14/2021 at 10:26 PM, njbm said:

Sounds sad for Walter. 

In a way yes, but.  My take on a long story short: I think they were more in love with what the other represented than the person him/herself.  Both recent college graduates, attractive with good jobs and aspirations that were panning out.  They were in love with the idea of what they could be together.  I thought it strange how Lora had no hesitation starting a sexual relationship with my husband David (with my encouragement) while in the beginnings of dating Walter.  She had already told Walter what she was up to sleeping with David and he doesn't object, they keep dating.  We invite them over for a casual dinner, we all have fun getting along, then Lora comes on to hubby and they head to the bedroom.  Walter and I talk while Lora and David are at it for about an hour.  They come back and we go on with the evening for another two hours.

 

Lora tells me the next day that she had talked it through with Walter beforehand.  Over the course of less than a year, Walter, Lora, and David move into threesomes, then me joining for couples swaps.  During the same time Lora and Walter as a couple move onto engagement and marriage.  Walter and Lora were in love with their "power couple" life; Lora and David were in love with each other; Walter and I were just enjoying the sex play.

 

Lora and Walter thought they had it all, Lora could be with my husband pretty much whenever she liked, Walter had a tidy marriage with kinky situations that he liked.  The problem came when Walter wanted them to move to the west coast for a job opportunity, Lora didn't want to go while Walter thought they could just find some other play partners in California.  Lora didn't want to leave David; she told me that she wanted David's baby and was in love with me too.  (Neither of which surprised me, and I deeply loved her too.)

 

They had some talks and realized that they had dreams and aspirations in common, they just didn't necessarily have to be with each other.  He's doing great in California and Lora's part of our family with David, Red, Clair and me.

Edited February 17, 2021 by couplers