Stories - real or fake?

[adamgunn 1,460]

 

Quite often on this and other sites like this, people will tell stories about their sexual misdeeds. Often they do not ask for advice, just put it out there for us to read.

 

Sometimes, I believe the story, other times I think it’s a fantasy. So, let me ask you. Do you have the same feelings, that some stories are real and others aren’t? What indications do you look at to make a decision as to the veracity of any particular story?

 

I’ll leave my own conclusions for a few days so the rest of you fine people can chime in. Please, no shaming about individual members.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Yes, I too find some some stories credible, other stories not. 

 

1. The longer the story, the greater the probability that it's bullshit.

2. I consider the braggadocio factor; e.g. "I cum in quarts." 

3. If a member's first post at a social-media Web site, Swingersboard or any other, is a story rather than a friendly greeting or a solicitation of advice, there is a large probability of bullshit. 

4. A new member posts a story. The other Website members point out flaws in logic or deviation from conventional behaviour. Two days later, the new member comes back with a report that the situation has been completely corrected. The report of the course correction is probably a fiction. 

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Some are real, and yes, I'm sure some are fantasies.  I don't really have any specific criteria that makes me call bullshit, but usually there are some details that don't add up.

 

I don't worry about it much though.  People on this website are smarter than the average bear and can use their own bs detector on what to believe and what not to believe.  I also look at it like this - even a crazy made up story can elicit some good advice, and that can help someone in a similar situation that is very much real. 

 

One should keep in mind too that what seems like a crazy unbelievable story might not be all that crazy.  Most if not all people who know me in vanilla life absolutely wouldn't believe me if I told them the things we have seen and done, every bit of it the absolute truth, so who is the crazy one there? ?

[findinganswers 369]

Sometimes I don’t know if I’m reading an advice forum or a sex fantasy column. I read some posts and thinking if something is wrong with me. Quarts of cum? Shit, I know I’ve never been more than an ounce or so. It had me looking up how much a man ejaculates. Women begging for a gangbang? It may be possible just not my wife. How many dicks can fit in a vagina at the same time? Even a harder task, how many in an ass? I can understand the deal with oversized cocks, it’s just that I know I am normal sized and normal means I’m about the same size as most men. After reading posts on here normal is way bigger from what I see. 

Posts being over graphic I began to understand. I don’t know if it’s bragging or over exaggeration or just feeling you think others want to read salacious posts. At times I relive an experience as I post. 

I came looking for advice and to see if others experienced what I have experienced. I have given back by posting my real experiences in the hope others can see what happens to real people. 

I did not come here looking for pictures of you or the people you play with. I wonder why pictures are posted in a thread. There is a gallery for those who must post a picture. I have looked because I was curious. I don’t need to see your picture in a post.  

[Numex 2,416]

Certainly some people post their fantasies that are hard to believe.  But I also remind myself that not so long ago I wouldn't believe that anyone would engage in the relatively mild and limited swinging that we do now.

 

 

[EastInWest 1,524]

Sometimes I write fairly specific details here for fun, because I enjoy writing and also because I hope other people enjoy reading. Talking about sex and sharing sex is enjoyable to me and this is a good place to do it, but if I wanted to write fiction, there's a stories tab for that. I'm always very interested in talking about real experiences and peoples' interpretations of them.

 

Then I do see people who show up with what are often clearly sadomasochistic fantasies about their wife. Like clockwork, you can hit Ctrl+F and find the word 'black' 12 times, and their reaction to their wife being traumatized never makes sense. I find those obvious fictions troubling on multiple levels. I also have seen a couple of posters who seem to be "toppers", IE, "oh yeah? 12 dicks is nothing, let me tell you how many dicks..."

[Numex 2,416]

10 minutes ago, EastInWest said:

Then I do see people who show up with what are often clearly sadomasochistic fantasies about their wife.

That whole world is disturbing to me, even the consensual stuff.  There is one couple in our group (not married to one another) who have "found" their mutual BDSM kink.  It is very mild stuff, but the rest of us make them go off when the slapping and degrading talk starts. 

[EastInWest 1,524]

4 minutes ago, Numex said:

That whole world is disturbing to me, even the consensual stuff.  There is one couple in our group (not married to one another) who have "found" their mutual BDSM kink.  It is very mild stuff, but the rest of us make them go off when the slapping and degrading talk starts. 

That's the thing. For some people, it's disturbing, and for others, it's mandatory.

 

That's OK. I've been with women who ask for that, and got to act as a bull for one in February. Mrs. E doesn't go in for anything painful, and it's not fun for me if it's not fun for her, so no problem.

 

Then you've got somebody needing to play out some fantasy so badly that he's making up stories for strangers about the "tragedy" where his wife got impregnated during a swinging-related motel rape (this has turned up on here more than once). You can read between the lines that this story is not actually a tragedy to him, but that it would be to his wife/marriage. We all mismatch a little, but it's just depressing to think two people are so disconnected that he's that desperate for an outlet, while she would be crushed if she knew what he really thinks.

 

That's just my take on it, anyway.

[Idahocouple6969 294]

1 hour ago, Numex said:

That whole world is disturbing to me, even the consensual stuff.  There is one couple in our group (not married to one another) who have "found" their mutual BDSM kink.  It is very mild stuff, but the rest of us make them go off when the slapping and degrading talk starts. 

We were/are into kink long before we decided to swing. Except for degrading and potty stuff. We don't judge and we don't engage in kinky stuff unless everyone is into it. We have been to parties where the kink and the swinging communities are together. The FetLife people say " they sleep with anybody!" and the swing people say "they HIT each other!" We like both sides of the coin. TBH we rarely if ever practice BDSM in a group setting. For us it's more something we do for just the 2 of us. It certainly isn't disturbing to us. Like swinging it isn't something most people jump right into. But done correctly it is, without a doubt, it is some of the most erotic things we have ever done. If someone is interested please feel free to msg me. We usually don't post graphic descriptions on the swing boards. We are members of boards that cater more to the BDSM side. Just because of posts like this and people being"disturbed" because we like some kinky stuff. The 2 things that the swinging communities are extremely biased against are bi-curious males and people into kink.  

[couplers 4,641]

I found The Swingersboard twelve years ago when searching the internet for validation of what I was doing: getting married to one guy while having a boyfriend, and they both knew about the other.  This place made me feel, if not normal, at least among fellow perverts.  More surprising, everyone was so nice and finding that others had their own doubts comforted me.  It also enabled me to first open up to having my husband play with other women, then to myself recognizing my Lesbian side.  Now I am more happy than I was or could have been otherwise.

 

So thank you to all who shared, whether it was reality or fantasy.  I do, however, recommend the reality of it.

[kittyswinger 260]

If the gold standard is - "deviation from conventional behaviour" - then the whole of Swingersboard is fake news! :-D

[Alura 2,774]

I've thought it would be fun to write (call it a) radio play and enlisting Swingers Board members to act the parts.

 

[Numex 2,416]

15 hours ago, EastInWest said:

That's the thing. For some people, it's disturbing, and for others, it's mandatory.

I sort of learned that long ago in college.  A nice girl I was dating and I started having sex. She had a thing where the second time she started saying, "Hurt me! violate me!" and other things that bothered me.  I stopped seeing her.  I hope that she found someone who was good to her, but engaged in her kink.  But it wasn't for me. 

 

And I'm glad that she didn't hide it and either shock me with it later after we were invested in one another or she kept it unhappily repressed. 

[TricianMike 772]

We have a friend on this forum and when we talk we sometimes talk about posts we read. We label the posts with names. BS is one of the labels. We will call some funny, good info, exaggerations, ouch, and interesting. 

Correct about kinks. We all have kinks or why be here. Some kinks we have we have tried others are out of our comfort level. 

Some acts on here are so outrageous that I must flash the BS sign. 

Some of the posts are mostly true. I have reread our posts and I smile. I asked Mike, did we really do that. His memory and mine are sometimes different. 

I too ask why is there are pictures in posts. Then I say that’s their kink. 

We all know who the fake posters are. I skip the posts. 

[adamgunn 1,460]

Trician, but the question is "How do you know the posts 'are so outrageous that I must flash the BS sign'? What indications lead you to believe that.

 

Again, what I'm looking for is how you decide a post is real or fake.

[couplers 4,641]

15 hours ago, Alura said:

it would be fun to write (call it a) radio play

Is that like a podcast?