FMF Sleepover - Who sleeps where?

[Terrileex 15]

We are going on a sleepover with our playmate. He and I and Her. We rented a hot tub hotel for a night of fun. When we have played before she has never stayed the night. My queston is- Who should sleep in the middle since there is only one bed?

[dayhiker 83]

being a guy, I'd say the guy should sleep in the middle .. hehehe

I guess you could fall where you are when the fun ends!

[shoreguy 15]

I think only the two (maybe 3) of you can answer this question. What do you feel comfortable with? Could you deal with her in the middle? Are you sure she'll even sleep at the hotel all night?

 

Last month we ended up sleeping at another couple's house, even though we were less than 10 miles away from home. They invited us to stay the night in the play room (mattresses on the floor). We figured they would end up in their room, but instead they slept with us. We ended up him-my wife-her-me. We were both ok with it the next morning. But let's just say no one exactly slept through the night. I'd imagine there'd be some middle of the night messing around, especially if she sleeps in the middle.

 

Even though I'm a guy , my recommendation is to have some combination where the women sleep next to each other. Maybe it's just best to have husband-wife-friend at least until you're comfortable with the whole thing.

[EternallySingle 32]

If you are thinking about who sleeps where, one or both of you that sleeping is more intimate than havin sex. In that case, it would be better for the husband/boyfriend to be as far away from the other woman as possible. I would suggest your wife should sleep in the middle.

[wrnakedru 38]

My first trip to New Orleans, I was meeting long time friends there. They had been in a two double bed room but the day I was to join them there, hotel management let them know they would have to be moved as someone else had a reservation for that specific room. They called me and said if we were to stay with a balcony on Bourbon, our only option was a room with a single king-sized bed.

 

If we wanted to be in a room with two beds, we would NOT be directly on Bourbon. I opted to stay on Bourbon - especially since this was to be my first visit to the party city. They were fine with that as well. I appreciated their consideration in asking me.

 

While we were on the phone, the male volunteered for the middle position. [ ] And when we got ready to go to bed that first night, that is actually how we ended up sleeping. The reason being that both she and I prefer to sleep as we do at home - her on the left side, me on the right side - and both of us like to be able to get our feet out from under the covers during the night.

 

The male is a cuddler when he sleeps and liked being able to cuddle no matter the side he was sleeping on. The other lady could then spoon with him - or not - as she chose to do. This worked well for us, so well in fact that over the years for all the many times I travelled with them - we always got a king-sized bed. We had more "room" space that way, which was a boon with the three of us each having luggage.

 

It really depends on the closeness of the three people involved. It may be more comfortable for all if the room has two doubles in it so that the extra female has a bed of her own for sleeping when the time comes. She can always be invited back into the couples bed for play.

 

P.S. You can always request a rollaway to be brought in so that it is available in case sleeptime seems more comfortable for all that way.

[fun_pairTX 26]

The times that this has occurred with us and a female friend I have been forced to sleep in the middle. As they say its a tough job but someone has to do it. I guess I'm just one of those self sacrificing guys that ya hear about from time to time.

[thekolonel 15]

I wrestled with this very question several times last weekend. Our solution was to alternate from night to night. If you truly want to spoil your friend, let her sleep in the middle. She'll feel like a princess.

[Elusive BiFem 70]

I would agree with the single female in the middle....just think I would feel more comfortable that way.

 

- EBF

[VegasLee 1,486]

I would feel more comfortable with EBF in the middle also.

 

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by fun_pairTX

The times that this has occurred with us and a female friend I have been forced to sleep in the middle. As they say its a tough job but someone has to do it. I guess I'm just one of those self sacrificing guys that ya hear about from time to time.

Your noble sacrifice will doubtless be rewarded at some point in the future!!

 

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by EternallySingle

If you are thinking about who sleeps where, one or both of you that sleeping is more intimate than havin sex. In that case, it would be better for the husband/boyfriend to be as far away from the other woman as possible. I would suggest your wife should sleep in the middle.

On reading the question, my gut instinct was to say Dito. Depending on the closeness of your relationship, you might want to consider letting your playmate take centre stage (assuming that she's comfortable with that). That would be my 1 and 2 suggestions.

[Elusive BiFem 70]

Am I reading your post correctly, ES? That sleeping is more intimate than having sex? If so, I find it interesting how people vary in their thoughts on intimacy.

 

For me, sleeping, per se, is not necessarily an intimate activity and certainly one of the least intimate activities that would occur in the context of a threesome. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

 

And Vegas Lee...there are distinct advantages to the middle sleeping position. No matter which way the covers get pulled, the middle sleeper is bound to stay warm.

 

- EBF

[EternallySingle 32]

Originally posted by Elusive BiFem

Am I reading your post correctly, ES? That sleeping is more intimate than having sex? If so, I find it interesting how people vary in their thoughts on intimacy.

 

For me, sleeping, per se, is not necessarily an intimate activity and certainly one of the least intimate activities that would occur in the context of a threesome. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

 

And Vegas Lee...there are distinct advantages to the middle sleeping position. No matter which way the covers get pulled, the middle sleeper is bound to stay warm.

 

- EBF

I don't think that sleeping is more intimate than sex. Then again, I don't think that kissing or cuddling is more intimate than sex either. But some people do. Simply asking this question means that the couple is concerned about how far to seperate something they see as intimate from the act of sex. I've had several women tell me that having sex in every room of the house is one thing but waking up next to a guy, even if they've known each other for years and has shared everything else, is something totally different. I've had other women think nothing of getting undressed and falling asleep with me, as long as no sex was involved. Once sex entered the picture, sleeping together discontinued (even though sex did). One woman I was involved with wouldn't even let me see her get dressed or undressed, but had no problems with me seeing her naked. When things got heated, she would go into the bathroom and get undressed, or we would do it partially clothed. Getting undressed in front of someone, to her, was just too intimate.

 

So, once again, its about comfort levels. The sleeping thing crosses a comfort level line with them, which means they see sleeping together as something special to them...thus more intimate than the sex.

[Elusive BiFem 70]

Thank you, ES. Like I said, I find it interesting how people vary in their opinions of intimacy...and many other things, too! - EBF

[JBirdsxs2 15]

1. I would love to be in the middle.

2. Who gives a shit! I'm in bed with two women.

3. Let them decide.

[Vjklander 138]

With two guys, MrsVjk will sleep in the middle. For FMF, the girls will take turns sleeping in the middle. I can't sleep on my back and really don't want to turn my back on either girl. Also, sleeping on my side I can reach and play with both girls. And they can play with each other.

J

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by JBirdsxs2

1. I would love to be in the middle.

2. Who gives a shit! I'm in bed with two women.

3. Let them decide.

 

Succinctly put!

[shoreguy 15]

Originally posted by JBirdsxs2

1. I would love to be in the middle.

2. Who gives a shit! I'm in bed with two women.

3. Let them decide.

 

Yeah, really. Maybe all the rest of us guys are overthinking the situation.

 

BTW, even though we never had an FMF, I did once of the pleasure of sleeping MFF in a bed. It was one of her close friends, at a shore house with way more people sleeping there than should be so space was at a premium. The above 3 points pretty much guided things and it sure worked for me. Even though I expected nothing to really happen, I was horny all night. And from what was talked about later that week, the friend was as well.

[customhardtail 17]

The only sleepover 3somes we have had has been MFM, so I sleep in the middle:D It's great. No matter which side I sleep on I can reach a cock and have hands on my tits...

 

Seriously...in FMF, I'd say sleep where you end up when the play is over.

[Paul&Audrey 21]

Baremama & I have slept FMF once and MFF another time... Being that Baremama gets off watching the "friend" & I in action, any which way we sleep is great for us, as long as the "friend" and I have easy access to each other...

 

~~bare~~

[BettyAnnMBSC 24]

Even though we nearly always play as a couple, we find that often the thrid person (playmate) really "belongs" to one or the other of us. What I mean is this. If the other F playmate is one of my girlfriends invited to play then her playing with him may be a secondary issue. If she is one of his girlfriends invited to play then her playing with me is a secondary issue.

 

Even in the two cases where the other F is pretty attached to both of us -- it is clear that one is "my girlfriend" and the other is "his girlfriend".

 

We consider the overnight in the same bed scenario to be a very intimate thing. For that reason, we don't invite folks to spend the night in the bed often at all. They can crash at the house but not in my bed

 

My GF sleeps next to me cuddled in my arms -- that puts me in the middle. His GF likes the middle facing me with her back to him and for him to wake her up slowly in the morning Dividing a married couple can cause some problems for some couples though and should be carefully considered. In this particular case, I don't mind the rest and I trust this girl.

 

On the very few occasions that we've had a MFM overnight in the bed -- I've been in the middle. That just seems to be a guy thing.

 

Just a few thoughts....