What 'clues' do you give the world?

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,421]

There are lots of urban legends about how to spot a swinger in the wild, and some swingers do indeed provide clues for those in-the-know.  The black wedding rings, upside down pineapples in your shopping cart, gnomes and pink flamingos in the yard etc...

 

For us, we have a growing pineapple collection including our welcome mat (positioned upside down to those who enter), and also a growing collection of anklets worn publicly by the Mrs (some very suggestive and some not).

 

What clues do you provide for the world to see?

 

 

[Idahocouple6969 294]

None. Unfortunately we live in a small town in a extremely conservative state. While we do know a few couples in the immediate area we usually go to a bigger town. Our state has laws about nudity and and more than 2 people being in any sort of undress in any building that is accessible to the public whether or not any admission is charged. And it is rigorously enforced. So out of necessity we don't advertise.

 

[adamgunn 1,461]

We have no desire to publicize our hobby, and so we don't.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

There just aren't any 'good' signs out there so we don't use any. We've said it before, once there is a secret sign, there will be those who are not part of the group who still know what that sign is, and they will let the world know what it is and who is showing it.

 

Wait, the one thing that we always do with our swinger friends is take our clothes off...does that count?

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,421]

On 9/14/2020 at 2:56 PM, adamgunn said:

We have no desire to publicize our hobby, and so we don't.

Totally get it.  As for us we don't mind dropping subtle hints bc you never know who in your vanilla community secretly swings, and occasionally we'll make a connection bc a subtle clue raised a curious question.  Even if we don't make a sexual connection it's still nice to make connections with like-minded people.  We always say that swingers make the best friends and that is true for many reasons even outside the bedroom.

[couplers 4,717]

The signal that we give off

On 9/14/2020 at 9:11 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said:

What clues do you provide for the world to see?

The only clue that I give the world are all the bad-ass kids I drag around that aren't mine but are my husband's, or mine but not my husband's, or neither mine or my husband's.  But they all call me "mom."

[JessicaJamison 864]

I love the pineapple thing lol, I hadn't heard that one, but next time I shop I might try it lol.  So I do the hotwife thing pretty regularly as I travel for work and my husband loves to hear how I sluttied it up.  As a result I've also purchased braclets and charms and anklets.  I stay in a lot of hotels so I generally grab a drink at the bar and I dress accordingly, like a few weeks ago I was in a hotel and there were five black guys in the bar area, I slipped on a braclet with a QOS charm and when one of them said hi and asked what I was up to, I simply smiled and pointed to the charm.  He got the drift, I got the D, and He got the Double D's lol.  

[JessicaJamison 864]

I have anklets that say 

Hotwife

SLUT

QOS

Threesome Symbol

My Husband watches me Fuck

 

 

[let's do it again 416]

No tan lines, and I know that just because we do nude beaches and resorts, that doesn't make you a swinger. But we like to meet people in the lifestyle while on vacation at a nude resort. As I have stated in other threads my kids and siblings know about us swinging, so when I come home from vacation the first thing they ask is do I have tan lines and they just laugh. No tan lines are my only sign of the lifestyle.