Youngcouple123 0 Posted September 26, 2020 I want to get wife into swinging. I’m a white male into black women. My thought is a couple massage with a black couple that turns into more... she has had a 3sone with me so i know she would be down. Quote Share this post Link to post
christnthms 326 Posted September 26, 2020 Things that begin with deception, rarely end well. This is your wife. This is your marriage. Try talking to her. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,637 Posted September 26, 2020 Welcome Youngcouple! Talk it out with your wife. Tell here what you would like and why, and let her talk about her wants and desires. Do so without any judgment, or even any light sarcasm as it can set the stage for defensiveness. Being utterly and completely open can take time, but it's important for a healthy relationship, as well as for a couple who swing. Also; you can't get your wife into swinging. There are LOTS of guys who try and fail for precisely the reason of trying to get their wife to do it. You don't. Instead, you talk and open the door of possibility and give her the time, space, and love necessary for her to make a decision. For my part, that took about seven years, though I wasn't even asking her to consider it as something for us; non-monogamy was just something we discussed from time to time in the context of other people. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Adriledama 1 Posted October 3, 2021 (edited) I think you should talk to your wife. Any sex you participate in should be with your wife. Even if you have a group orgy, she should be with you. Then it won't be considered treason from her point of view. She won't be depressed if you invite her along and invite her to participate. Besides, you can persuade her. For example, give her a sensual massage, call some black lady. Try to please your wife with joint efforts. I saw this when I signed up for a tantric massage london session. Married couples or just couples can come there together. You can choose several massage therapists and so on. Edited October 3, 2021 by Adriledama 1 Quote Share this post Link to post