First time swinging - Lots of great, not so great. A microcosm of life!

[TaylorJ 3]

Hi everyone. I’ve read a lot of the topics and details on the forums and figured I’d share the good and the not so good with our first run and second the day after. First I’ll give a little background as reference. Even after this week I can still say my sexual partners can be counted on one hand. The way I was raised along with being really hard on myself with what I have to offer sexually also went into that (foolishly) My wife on the other hand has lived a much more adventurous sexual life and has found great fulfillment from it. Occasionally through the years she’s let out pieces of her past which eventually played out or led to great sex. Her client and the clients husband are both involved in different ways in the adult industry. For a while she spoke of her trying to get my wife into the business and almost daily for months was asked by my wife if I’d be ok with it. I’ll fast forward a bit by stating an understanding, initiated by them was come to and we had our first experience earlier this week. 
 

First I’ll say I’m glad we didn’t just jump in random with random people. I completely see how communication, trust, and friendship can go miles toward it going well. As the night got going I was hit with my first hurdle which was I could not get hard! As aroused as I was I could not, at least initially get an erection. The moment got to me not because I was unhappy but because the moment got to me is the best I can say. That’s the first point I realized an established relationship can go miles as F was able to work me through it and was not judge mental at all. It wasn’t until my wife came to help with her that I was able to perform. It took all of about 30 minutes after to get a script for some sildenafil. I will be taking some beforehand next time. 
 

It’s hard to put into words but M struck all the right cords with myself and my wife. Beforehand we all talked about do’s and donts and likes and dislikes. My wife can be a bit of a puzzle whose pieces change minute by minute. The majority of the time she is adventurous and likes rough sex while sometimes it’s the opposite. M catered to her to make us both comfortable and to please her I would assume. That’s the most interesting thing about the sex is it filled likes that we can’t offer each other. I may be dense but never considered that beforehand. For instance, my wife does not like cum going anywhere but inside of her ass or pussy. As I had sex with F she asked me where I wanted to cum. Not having cum by oral in almost 15 years I made my case and I finished in her mouth as she stuck a finger in my ass. Absolutely amazing! Unfortunately I came about 5 minutes after we started having sex and was out of the fun for a long time. That was another negative for another reason as my wife was very disappointed I did not fuck her along with M at the same time. Within minutes though F came out with a strap on and her and M had their way. Relatively frequently my wife requests a dildo gangbang as I’ll call it but it was nice to have an outside of view of her getting fucked by two people. 
 

I wouldn’t say my wife had the time of her life but she said it was up there with her experiences in the past. My wife and I are mostly anal sex as she cums during that much more frequently. Typically after I finish she will toy with one of her larger dildos for a few orgasms vaginally. M was very accommodating to say the least  as she came over and over as he fucked her vaginally. Both M and F and my wife had great chemistry and we’re borderline violent as a result of the passion. It was amazing watching my wife’s eyes gaze at me as they both fucked her beyond where ive ever gone. As they switched positions I got back involved and began to fuck F again before M came in my wife. My wife asked me to lick her pussy before I fucked her which caught me off guard and I denied. She gets really turned on when I eat her out after I cum in her but couldn’t wrap my head around doing that after another guy. Not yet at least. I did get a bit bothered when I started having sex with my wife as she was talkative with M & F and actually started talking about what to go eat after. Nonetheless I came and it felt good knowing I was fucking her after she’d been cum inside. Before the night wrapped up we played a truth or dare style cell app game. That was a little beyond my level as cumming twice for me is an achievement in and of itself. 
 

The following day, due to living almost an hour away they stayed at our place, and the sex was great again. This time around we were at least at first with our spouses. Again I was way over aroused and ended up coming in my wife after about two minutes. Yes I need to work in that. That was a lot to try to hold off with no drinks in me between my wife and having them having sex next to us. M alternated fucking both which was not a bad way to fill a morning either. 
 

I appreciate the ears everyone as I’ve seen a lot of good and bad posted on the site. Hopefully those who struggle will take the same approach as me and realize that’s just the reality of just about everything in life and to stay positive. We both have our lists of desires coming out of this and that was a great start. Any advice on either pharmaceutical help or otherwise with the cumming too fast or a different approach would be apprecaited.
 

 

[Playman64 205]

Sounds like everyone had a great time. 
very hot. 

[njbm 2,871]

Sounds great. God bless vitamin V(iagra) for next time. Erection trouble for males is common. You know you have a nice partner when they are patient about it. One nice woman once said to me “Hey, we’re not porn stars!”