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How many men is too many?

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On 5/31/2022 at 5:58 PM, AndrewandAnn said:

The physical part, while important, is not nearly as important as the mental and emotional parts. The largest sexual organ is the brain. The more and deeper you get to know someone, and the better they get to know you, the better the quality of sex. That only comes with a substantial investment of time and attention. 

 

Studies have shown, repeatedly, that sexual satisfaction is closely associated with the quality of the relationships. We wholeheartedly agree.

My wife and I have the same approach.

 

From the very beginning, more than ten years ago now, we said that once we found sex partners that were really good, why not keep them around? Why keep flitting from person to person? Ok, not that you have to stick with just one, but if you find great sex don't tell them to go away just because you've had sex with them once or twice already.

 

With that came an understanding that the more you had sex with someone, the more likely it would be you'd develop emotions for them. That too, we felt, would likely make the sex better. It hasn't been a goal per se, but we've embraced it when it's happened.

 

For us, we pay close attention to how those emotions impact things, including us. There's never been a problem, but if there were we'd shut it down. Our relationship is our focus.

 

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On 11/25/2020 at 3:48 AM, JessicaJamison said:

So I stopped talking about the number of Guys I've had sex with a long time ago as it tends to shock people.  So this is a two part question.  

 

How many men can a woman sleep with before she is considered a slut?

 

What is the number of men that a woman could sleep with that would shock you or make you reconsider playing with her? 

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I and the wife have never been concerned about the number of guys she’s been with- as far as I’m concerned it made her into the slut she is today, the count is irrelevant lol. All that experience, different lengths, age groups, positions are what makes her absolutely fucking amazing in bed. There is no number I can think of that would dissuade me from being/ fucking a woman- if I’m interested and so is she that should be enough- ya know? 😉😉

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On 5/31/2022 at 3:58 PM, AndrewandAnn said:

The largest sexual organ is the brain.

I'm not sure that is true for everyone.  Some men would consider it an insult.

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There is no number to small or to large as far as I am concerned but if there were no limitations of cleanliness/safety for us the more the merrier. We have have each been involved in large number sex groups and even together some decent sized groups. No major issues from any of those but we consider ourselves lucky. Nowadays we try to be more safe conscious, though we can still have our overly turned on moments and almost slip. With all the being said, if we cold have a perfect non sickness world we'd be up for as many people as our energy allowed for. 

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On 11/25/2020 at 4:48 AM, JessicaJamison said:

A) How many men can a woman sleep with before she is considered a slut?

 

B) What is the number of men that a woman could sleep with that would shock you or make you reconsider playing with her? 

A) In a bad way or a good way?

B) My wife had like five times the number of sex partners (not counting women) than I had, but there was never a second thought about marrying her.  As she has pointed out, being older and having been married before, I had much more sex than she had.  I was fucking the same woman just about every day and sometimes twice on weekends, while she had like five new partners in a year, which overlapped, but fucked only two or three times a week.  (When she talked about the overlapping part, I knew that she would be happier if she had lovers even after we got married.)

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On 11/25/2020 at 6:48 AM, JessicaJamison said:

So I stopped talking about the number of Guys I've had sex with a long time ago as it tends to shock people.  So this is a two part question.  

 

How many men can a woman sleep with before she is considered a slut?

 

What is the number of men that a woman could sleep with that would shock you or make you reconsider playing with her? 

 

 

How many men can a woman sleep with before she is considered a slut? I would consider this more of a mental state or a declaration by others.  I'm up in the higher numbers so I suppose I am but I'd say in high school I was and in college I definitely was, and now I am not so sure.  I do have a lot of sex but I do not feel slutty, naughty and VERY naughty at times but I have sex with the same group, only very often. 

 

What is the number of men that a woman could sleep with that would shock you or make you reconsider playing with her? My husband will tell you that there is no number. You only need to wait to make certain she is safe. He dated a girl who was taking a break from group sex and she'd had well over a hundred so far. He of course waited on all her test results before they ever had sex.  I am the same with men, no number, it is all about cleanliness, safety, attraction, and how much fun they are. 

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One man at a time has been perfect. I never found the need for more than one to be satisfied. Group sex was not our scene. This weekend we spent to time with a group and I had sex with three men 🤭 and their wives. Not a bang bang bang, it was over many hours and my husband was not one. You can say 4 men if you include him last night. I can’t believe we both had the energy for that. All three men were fun and different. Nothing to prove just a good time with friends and the women were just as much fun. 

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