Performing Oral Sex

[discreetplay 235]

Two sides of this question:

For the ladies - what is your thought on giving oral sex (i.e. is it only foreplay, are you ok with just blowjobs without accompanying intercourse, etc)?

 

For the straight guys - have you ever tried it in a swinger encounter? If so, what were your thoughts/feelings the first time you tried it? Was it a one-and-done, or do have you continued to occasionally do it?

[MrMrsswinger 205]

The first side - from my point of view (Mrs), oral sex tends to be foreplay, to get things started. And sometimes, towards the end of the night, it is the way I finish off the guys. Just depends on the situation. Some guys like to cum via sex but with a condom it isn't as fun. So they'll pull out, pull the condom and I'll finish them orally.

 

When we're not swinging, We'll follow a similar script - oral to start and then sex, with an oral finish. I also will just give blowjobs if that is what is wanted. 

 

 

[cplnluv1 872]

I will try to answer for her

She has given many many blowjobs to completion. We have talked about this and I know she enjoys a new partner. More than once men have apologized and she has reassured them that she enjoyed it too. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want it to be reciprocated. 

 

The second part

no, I never tried and have no desire too. 

[KnkyCoupl4Coupl 24]

I actually like my wife to finish guys orally. She likes seeing their pleasure, and I like watching. For those who responded, does “completion” mean swallowing, or pulling it out at the last second? 

[MrMrsswinger 205]

We define "completion" as a blowjob to orgasm, regardless of where it goes.

[JessicaJamison 862]

I enjoy giving blowjobs quit a bit and I like giving till he pops, but I definitely expect some reciprocation.  If it's his preference, I will often finish guys off with my mouth.  

[EastInWest 1,524]

11 hours ago, KnkyCoupl4Coupl said:

I actually like my wife to finish guys orally. She likes seeing their pleasure, and I like watching. For those who responded, does “completion” mean swallowing, or pulling it out at the last second? 

This is also us. Wanting to watch her give head was the very specific kink that got us started. I still enjoy it most.

 

...and to the OP's point, it's a mood. When she's gotten motivated to pick up a male, we have not tried the club scene, but sometimes she has been interesting in going further, other times she's not been in a daring mood and knows I like it. Vanilla men, by and large, don't complain about "just" getting their cocks sucked.

 

I do understand where it would be limiting with experienced full swap couples. We do full swap with the two couples we see semi-regularly, and both did the times we each played separately. With the couples, we do have to travel to meet and usually spent enough time together for a few sessions. Nobody has ever mentioned any concern when one round isn't completely reciprocal.

[cplnluv1 872]

22 hours ago, KnkyCoupl4Coupl said:

I actually like my wife to finish guys orally. She likes seeing their pleasure, and I like watching. For those who responded, does “completion” mean swallowing, or pulling it out at the last second? 

It’s great when a man answers for a woman, just kidding. 

My first sexual experience was a blow job to completion most likely with a hand on my head. I was afraid to move and afraid of something getting on my clothes. I don’t remember gagging or choking, I just swallowed and felt like I was now a grown woman and I pleased an older guy. My pleasure was not physical and no orgasm happened for me and I was saved from what I heard might be a painful first time. I had heard there was a porn star that had orgasms from giving blow jobs, Linda Lovelace didn’t really have a clit in her throat, it was just a story. 

Am I okay today giving a blow job and not getting anything physical in return, it depends. I know my husband enjoys watching me give a blow job and if my partner wants I will give him a great finish. What I prefer is oral leading to much more. If it is mutual oral and my partner is good at it, it could be just as good as full sex. 

[Lee714 82]

On 11/29/2020 at 10:50 AM, JessicaJamison said:

I enjoy giving blowjobs quit a bit and I like giving till he pops, but I definitely expect some reciprocation.  If it's his preference, I will often finish guys off with my mouth.  

As a guy it would drive me nuts (so to speak) not to be able to reciprocate. 

[TricianMike 775]

We enjoy meeting new people, there is an excitement of the new experience. We have found it fun to entice a man or men to a hotel room and see what happens. Mike is always watching as I approach random men and ask them if they want fun. It’s not as easy as one might think as they think I want to get paid and even harder when they hear my husband wants to watch. 

There are several questions as to what we will do, will you suck my cock or can I fuck your ass are the normal questions. I find it funny that almost all will use those expressions. I always say no to anal. It’s also funny that they never ask for straight sex. 

Mike is not a cuckold, he doesn’t watch to be humiliated, he watches to see me enjoy. I never realized I have a ritual when I am about to do oral. From partially undressing the man, taking his dick out and then Mike says I inspect before finishing taking his pants off. Some men will then undress me others just lean back. 

I do enjoy our meetings and Mike enjoys watching me have fun. I learned many years ago how to relax and go deep down on most men. Some guys cum and it goes straight down but Mike likes when it makes me gag and comes out of my mouth or nose. I never know how the pick up will go from there. Some men just want to leave and others can’t wait to go again. Our best meetings are when our new meet up agrees to screw while I blow Mike, something that doesn’t always happen. Most are afraid to have Mile naked, like he would do something to them. To answer the second part of the question Mile is not interested in that at all. 

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

On 11/28/2020 at 5:46 PM, discreetplay said:

.... For the straight guys - have you ever tried it in a swinger encounter? If so, what were your thoughts/feelings the first time you tried it? Was it a one-and-done, or do have you continued to occasionally do it?

Does your question relate to my performing oral sex on a woman? Or are you asking, rather, whether or not I would perform oral sex on a man? 

[couplers 4,654]

On 11/28/2020 at 3:46 PM, discreetplay said:

For the ladies - what is your thought on giving oral sex (i.e. is it only foreplay, are you ok with just blowjobs without accompanying intercourse, etc)?

I will give a blowjob to completion and swallow, but much prefer to orgasm with a dick in my pussy (being licked is good foreplay and postplay) and having those swimmers in my vagina, as a souvenir to live in me for several days.

[discreetplay 235]

On 12/1/2020 at 8:30 AM, SW_PA_Couple said:

Does your question relate to my performing oral sex on a woman? Or are you asking, rather, whether or not I would perform oral sex on a man? 

In the second part of my original question I was asking whether the male half has tried giving oral to the other male (either sharing with the wife or just by himself). I'm well aware this is a taboo subject, with so many males in the lifestyle outraged at the mere mention of the touching of another male (even incidental contact). For those that had, I was inquiring whether it was something they tried once and never again, or something that has occurred sporadically since.

 

I assume every male in the lifestyle performs oral sex on the women they encounter. I also assume every woman performs oral on the males they encounter.

 

[Anon321 523]

My GF has given MANY blowjobs without receiving anything in return except the joy of giving.  She really enjoys it.  For the most part I see it as foreplay though as a blowjob or facefucking doesn't really get me to cum like it seems to for other guys.

[TheBiggerMan 83]

7 hours ago, discreetplay said:

In the second part of my original question I was asking whether the male half has tried giving oral to the other male (either sharing with the wife or just by himself). I'm well aware this is a taboo subject, with so many males in the lifestyle outraged at the mere mention of the touching of another male (even incidental contact). For those that had, I was inquiring whether it was something they tried once and never again, or something that has occurred sporadically since.

 

I had always thought of myself as straight and then in my 40's.  I started thinking that some erections were sexy. I had dreams that I was sucking one. I'd wake up fully erect. During one of those dreams, my girl friend said that I was going wild and wanted to know what I was dreaming. I told her.

 

She was so excited and we made plans for the first time I would do it and she would watch. She wanted to pick the guy. I told her that he had to have an attractive penis. She got hot with my description of what I need in a penis.

 

Three nights later it happened. I was just looking at the man's dick as he got undressed my girl friend was on the sofa stripped and giving me words of encouragement. I slid down off the corner of the bed and took his beautiful 6 inch dick in my hand. I was nervous. This was really going to happen. I ran my lips and tongue on the under side. Then I got a wiff of his nuts and I new I was going to be doing this more than once. I will never forget how it felt parting my lips the first time and the stroking in my mouth and throat. I found out that I am good at deepthroating.

 

My girlfriend got off the sofa to get me undressed. She was glad to see that I was fully erect. She wanted to see us 69. I was surprised how much I liked it. We both came in the back of our throats and he left soon after. My girlfriend wanted me to enjoy the experience with out her participating.  But after that time, we would share. 

 

I am addicted to good looking dick. I'm bi now.

 

 

 

[Lee714 82]

Has anyone here tried 3 way 69 with her being entered doggie style? (MFM)  It seems like something that would be really fun to try.

[Fitlakecouple 451]

7 hours ago, Lee714 said:

Has anyone here tried 3 way 69 with her being entered doggie style? (MFM)  It seems like something that would be really fun to try.

Absolutely. Look up "fuck licking". Fun and sexy time for all; and a great view for the guy below. The guys need to be comfortable with close quarters - but she'll love all the attention.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

On 12/2/2020 at 3:00 PM, discreetplay said:

In the second part of my original question I was asking whether the male half has tried giving oral to the other male (either sharing with the wife or just by himself). I'm well aware this is a taboo subject, with so many males in the lifestyle outraged at the mere mention of the touching of another male (even incidental contact). For those that had, I was inquiring whether it was something they tried once and never again, or something that has occurred sporadically since.

 

I assume every male in the lifestyle performs oral sex on the women they encounter. I also assume every woman performs oral on the males they encounter.

 

Ah, I understand. That being the case I can reply: I have not ever. Not during a swing encounter or any other kind of encounter. 

[Lee714 82]

On 12/4/2020 at 4:06 AM, Fitlakecouple said:

Absolutely. Look up "fuck licking". Fun and sexy time for all; and a great view for the guy below. The guys need to be comfortable with close quarters - but she'll love all the attention.

Would love to see the look on her face. But the view from underneath would be wild. I guess entering her from behind knowing what's going on underneath would be a turn on. (Just a fantasy for me.) 

[enhancer 1,585]

For her giving oral to a man is just foreplay!  Due to being a suffer of TMJ (lockjaw) extended oral is a painful experience for her.

 

She does however love extended foreplay given to her which I am always a willing participant for. 
 

As far as the second part of the question I am straight and do not suck cock!  If I did I wouldn’t be straight. 

[Numex 2,420]

19 hours ago, enhancer said:

Due to being a suffer of TMJ (lockjaw)

Isn't lockjaw tetanus? 

[PSULioness 857]

Many many times my husband and I only have oral sex and I am fine with it. How far our foreplay goes is determined  as we go not something that is preplanned. I am fortunate I guess that I can be satisfied orally too. 

Our good friend, who is the one I most often will be with, enjoys my blowjobs, he is always telling me. I have no problem just giving him a blowjob as he will always reciprocate. He is also the one I will play with when my husband plays too. Our play is usually me doing oral to one while the other is busy one way or another with me. 

The second question can be answered that neither of these men have ever blown the other. At the parties we have attended I never watched and of the guys performing oral on another guy. 

[Jk420squirt 2]

On 11/29/2020 at 10:50 AM, JessicaJamison said:

I enjoy giving blowjobs quit a bit and I like giving till he pops, but I definitely expect some reciprocation.  If it's his preference, I will often finish guys off with my mouth.  

Mmmm. I want to please your Sweet Pussy and make you squirt!

[Jk420squirt 2]

Kik Us! You Look Like Fun!

[enhancer 1,585]

1 hour ago, Numex said:

Isn't lockjaw tetanus? 

There are many things that can cause lockjaw!  One of them is TMJ along with many other fun painful side effects.  Luckily the occasional trip to the chiropractor helps relieve the pain temporarily.

[Playman64 205]

1 hour ago, PSULioness said:

Our good friend, who is the one I most often will be with, enjoys my blowjobs, he is always telling me. I have no problem just giving him a blowjob as he will always reciprocate.

He is a very lucky man and you a lucky woman. 

[udsarge 119]

Just for clarification, lock jaw and TMJ (or TMJD) are two different issues. Lock jaw is caused by a spasm of the muscles of the jaw causing the inability to open of close the mandible. TMJD is the erosion or wearing down on the joint ( the temporomandibular joint), which is where the mandible articulates with the temporal bone of the skull and allows the hinge type joint to be formed. So one disease process involves the muscles, where as the other process involves the musculature. You get to learn all kinds of things on the "swingers board"

 

[lcmim 1,082]

At some point someone will Google tmjd and oral and end up here. ?

[Numex 2,420]

3 hours ago, PSULioness said:

Many many times my husband and I only have oral sex and I am fine with it.

Interesting.  I often receive oral, but it is either foreplay or postplay.  I almost always cum in a woman's pussy, sometimes her butt.

 

Women easily have multiple orgasms, so it's usually lick, fuck, lick for them.

[Lee714 82]

On 12/4/2020 at 4:06 AM, Fitlakecouple said:

Absolutely. Look up "fuck licking". Fun and sexy time for all; and a great view for the guy below. The guys need to be comfortable with close quarters - but she'll love all the attention.

A to-do list item for me. What's your fav "placement" for that?

[J&Wu 408]

Hate to answer for Wu but she does like to fuck as a chaser to oral for either or both of us, although in years past in a pinch as  with me driving or for a few weeks postpartum she would just do oral for me and manual for herself.

 

Our club has gotten more open to male on male, I enjoyed my first cock back before COVID, I happen to like the guy involved and am open to including others but condoms if it progresses to anal.

[couplers 4,654]

On 12/3/2020 at 9:11 PM, Lee714 said:

Has anyone here tried 3 way 69 with her being entered doggie style? (MFM)  It seems like something that would be really fun to try.

Many times when an MFM situation arises and I have two men to handle.  But it is usually foreplay with both of them cumming in my pussy eventually.

[kittyswinger 260]

On 12/3/2020 at 10:11 PM, Lee714 said:

Has anyone here tried 3 way 69 with her being entered doggie style? (MFM)  It seems like something that would be really fun to try.

Not tried it yet but I could imagine the guy on the bottom will just be watching closely the action but won't dare to lick while the other one is pounding me.

[Lee714 82]

10 hours ago, kittyswinger said:

Not tried it yet but I could imagine the guy on the bottom will just be watching closely the action but won't dare to lick while the other one is pounding me.

Why not?  ? ?

[MrMrsswinger 205]

I find it interesting how some have answered the OPs question with harsh "no way!" type answers regarding a man performing oral on another man. It is interesting how it is almost expected the women perform oral on another woman but NO WAY a man could do the same to another man. I wonder if the stigma of 'guy guy contact' will ever fade. I understand how some women who performed oral on another woman and respond with 'wasn't my thing' or 'eh, could take it or leave it'. But the mere mention of a guy doing it is repulsive, insulting, etc. Strange.

 

Is it a masculine thing to have such a harsh reaction to the mention of guys touching another guy? I know guys who are adamant that 'there will be NO contact between the males, even incidental'. I'm not bi. I'm not gay. I don't find men attractive at all. Yet I don't respond with vitriolic hatred when the topic is touched upon.

 

 

 

[discreetplay 235]

MrMrsswinger - my question wasn't meant to bring up such reactions. I was just curious whether those men who had tried oral on another man were a 'one and done' or thought 'not bad' and continued to incorporate it going forward (if the opportunity presented itself).

 

I'm like you, I don't find guy guy contact to be repulsive, it just isn't a strong desire for me. We started in this lifestyle to explore, experience new things. We've found some things we really like and some things we don't. Maybe I'm the strange one but nothing really causes a harsh reaction in me.

 

I was out with a couple buddies and their girlfriends in San Francisco a few years back. We were at a dance club having a good time. I'm extremely familiar with all the clubs in San Francisco, and the clientele each attracts. Anyway, I dance rather poorly so I was leaning on the bar watching, enjoying my drink. A guy came up to me and asked 'do you come here often?' My response was 'come on man, you have to have a better line than that if you want a stud like me'. He laughed. We laughed. All good. It was pretty funny. We chatted about some better lines to use in the future. When I mentioned this story to a few friends over the years nearly all of them responded with 'I would have punched the guy!'  Really??  Why are guys so crazy about this?

 

[kittyswinger 260]

2 hours ago, Lee714 said:

Why not?  ? ?

Each man is different and I respect that. Like in my other comment in a DP post, the 2 guys I did it with are comfy with their skins touching as they sandwiched me. I'm not sure if they would go that far in this 3-way 69...but if they do, that would be more fun for me! ?

[Idahocouple6969 294]

I have said many times that I don't understand the homophobia in the LS.  For a group that is supposed to be pretty broad minded I'm always surprised at the reaction if the male half happens to identify as bi-curious. Not just saying no but a complete revulsion of even touching.

While I'm straight, under the right situation with the right person and after a couple of drinks I'm not sure how I would react but it would not be with any revulsion. As I have said we have several LS friends that the male has privately said that they feel the same way as I do. But would not share that information with everyone. 

 

[kittyswinger 260]

On 12/11/2020 at 12:59 PM, Idahocouple6969 said:

I have said many times that I don't understand the homophobia in the LS.  For a group that is supposed to be pretty broad minded I'm always surprised at the reaction if the male half happens to identify as bi-curious. Not just saying no but a complete revulsion of even touching.

While I'm straight, under the right situation with the right person and after a couple of drinks I'm not sure how I would react but it would not be with any revulsion. As I have said we have several LS friends that the male has privately said that they feel the same way as I do. But would not share that information with everyone. 

 

My SO doesn't mind if his skin touches the other guy during play. In a DP, even their balls touch but they dont mind at all. But one time after i gave the other guy oral, I kissed him and he accepted it but you can see the expression on his face! I later asked him if he finds it revulting. He told me its not about the gender. He would be repulsed too if it is another woman's juices that he barely knew; he said I know the guy, but he is a stranger to him. He never liked eating a sloppy second creampie too! He has few lovers compared to me. It's more of a germaphobia for him than a homophobia. So I realized, each person is different.  I have to respect that no matter how quirky it is.

Edited December 12, 2020 by kittyswinger

[JennySwallows 45]

When I started swinging, I only gave blowjobs. If you're starting out, especially in judgmental swinging circles, you're quickly labeled the blowjob girl. I remember I was so shy during my first few swingers events/ parties that I'd take guys into a closet to suck him off. It's a great place to start if you're shy at first.

[Numex 2,420]

14 hours ago, JennySwallows said:

I'd take guys into a closet to suck him off.

Had that happen in high school.  Lots happened in closets in high school. 

[couplers 4,654]

16 hours ago, JennySwallows said:

When I started swinging, I only gave blowjobs. If you're starting out, especially in judgmental swinging circles, you're quickly labeled the blowjob girl.

But since then, you've proven them wrong? ?

[JennySwallows 45]

5 hours ago, couplers said:

But since then, you've proven them wrong? ?

Well, some request, some want more. Who am I to turn them down??

[couplers 4,654]

On 12/13/2020 at 2:51 PM, JennySwallows said:

Who am I to turn them down?

Among the three guys and two women I have sex with now, that is my philosophy.  It always turns out that even if I'm not in the mood at the moment, I accommodate them to be nice then it quickly gets me into the mood, I have a delightful time, and am glad that I gave in.