Very first shared sexual experience?

[tn_softswing2 59]

How old were you when you had your very first shared sexual experience, and how old was the other person, either same sex or opposite sex?  What did you do together?

[mark51687 6]

I was 23 or 24. It was at a swingers club, so the other person was in her 40's I am guessing? 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Very first time (for Mr Gold) was in college when I was in a band in the 80's...nuff said. Ms. Gold was in her first marriage in an attempt to save it...it didn't. For us together, about 10 years ago...but it sure doesn't seem like it was ten years, more like 3-4 years.

[JessicaJamison 861]

It was six years ago, he was 32 and I was 30.  I was working on a year and a half of sexual frustration and fantasies so I let that man do pretty much everything to me.  It was an erotic day and night.  

[couplers 4,640]

On 12/21/2020 at 8:24 PM, JessicaJamison said:

It was six years ago, he was 32 and I was 30.  I was working on a year and a half of sexual frustration and fantasies so I let that man do pretty much everything to me.  It was an erotic day and night.  

I don't understand, how is that your "Very first shared sexual experience?"

[couplers 4,640]

What I count as my first shared sexual experience was when we were in our early 20s.  I had broken up with my ex-fiancé Red, who I was still seeing, sharing the details of my personal life with, and screwing, while dating David, the guy who would become my husband.  David and I had sex after a date, then I went to see Red, told him what had happened, and had sex with him as well.  Or maybe it was several weeks later when David said that he knew I was still screwing Red (I talked about him a lot) and was OK with it.  Or maybe it was months later when we had our first not-so-awkward and normal feeling MFM.  It felt strangely normal and empowering for me that two men could love me despite me loving the other.

 

BTW, David is still my husband, Red is still my boyfriend and I have children with both.

[MidwestHoneys 358]

I was 17 and I shared a girl with a friend. She was home from college and we were in HS and she wanted my friend to ask me to join them. 

[adamgunn 1,460]

I was in my early thirties, my girlfriend and I swapped with friends of ours.

 

Earlier, in my mid-twenties, my wife had lovers while I was deployed with my approval. But that doesn't seem to me to be a "shared" experience since we never had an MFM.

[David Lovell 160]

Twenty three years ago. But we never thought of it as swinging. We were single, In our early 20's, and recently engaged. We swapped one time with friends, who had recently gotten married. Then nothing for 20 years, till 2017 when we started swinging with our friends. These two occurrences do not really relate.

We never discussedmswinging in the period between. I am an enthusiastic participant but give my wife Amy all the credit for our involvement in the swinger lifestyle. 

[barefoot_so_goo 46]

11 hours ago, MidwestHoneys said:

I was 17 and I shared a girl with a friend. She was home from college and we were in HS and she wanted my friend to ask me to join them. 

Any chance you can share about what year this was, or what decade? I'm curious how attitudes about sharing have changed.

[barefoot_so_goo 46]

I guess it would be 41 for me. (yeah, sad ? ) It was at a big PNW swinger party. A woman asked me if I was interested in her. We started out together, and as the evening went on we ended up with her husband and his girlfriend, in the same bed.

 

Not only was it strange for me because I was still at the deer-in-headlights phase of starting swinging (and as a single male), but because this woman's muscles were so strong she'd clamp down and spit me all the way out when she came. I'd never had that happen before. Or had sex with a man's wife next to him in the same bed while he was having sex with his girlfriend.

 

The wife got frustrated that she kept shooting me up out of her; her husband thought it was funny. "Don't worry, she does that to everybody," he said. His girlfriend and I hit it off and she was impressed that I was in my 40s and could cum more than once over a few hours.

[MidwestHoneys 358]

2 hours ago, barefoot_so_goo said:

Any chance you can share about what year this was, or what decade? I'm curious how attitudes about sharing have changed.

Most likely 2006. 

[adamgunn 1,460]

15 hours ago, barefoot_so_goo said:

Any chance you can share about what year this was, or what decade? I'm curious how attitudes about sharing have changed.

We've been in this since 2003. I don't believe much about the LIfeStyle has changed. The majority of society doesn't participate, but doesn't really care if somebody else does. There's a segment of society that condemns us. And the percentage of people who are into the LifeStyle may have increased, slightly, but we're still a very small minority. (Most everyone else cheats, see Kinsey.)

 

As to what we do when we participate in the LifeStyle, until somebody invents a new hole or stick, it's not gonna change. Been that way since the Romans and before.

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,389]

i had a 3some on my 21st birthday. it was an MFM but i was too drunk to really appreciate it.

[barefoot_so_goo 46]

17 hours ago, MidwestHoneys said:

Most likely 2006. 

That's interesting to me. When I was 17 in the 1980s, I can't imagine that kind of discussion or sharing taking place, but I was very repressed, and in a very conservative area.

 

My guess is that with the freer availability of porn, more people are exposed to more possibilities, so by 2006 you at least know it's something you can do.

[PeterJ 948]

My first multi-person sexual experience was a soft swing session with my first wife and a couple who were close friends of ours. It was the mid-1970s and we were all in our mid 20s.  After a few glasses of wine at our friends’ home one winter evening my wife persuaded the rest of us to take off our clothes. We proceeded to some slow dances with each other’s spouses. I was fascinated watching my nude wife holding another man close and move sensually to the music, her breasts pressed closely against his chest and his hands pulling her hips close against his. (I was so taken by this vision that at one point my wife had to remind me to pay more attention to the other woman.)

 

There was no intercourse or even oral that evening, but I was fascinated watching my wife masturbate the other man to a series of loudly-announced orgasms. Meanwhile, I was kissing and fingering the other wife on an adjacent sofa. I would have been happy to have proceeded to intercourse, but neither of the wives were up for that, although by that time the activities have moved to the bedrooms upstairs. I remember being in bed with the other woman, both of us still nude, and suggesting we should fuck. She declined. ????

 

I went off to join my wife in the guest bedroom and suggested we should fuck. My wife said she was too tired and suggested I should jerk off off on her. Which I did.

 

My wife and I were both interested in swinging, but the combination of the challenging logistics of that era (the mid 1970s) and the press of our respective professional and educational lives meant for the time being our curiosity went unaddressed. Later our friends marriage broke up, and my wife and I suggested the woman should become my lover. But, by that time she had a boyfriend and declined the invitation.

 

My curiosity about having casual sexual partners in a setting of three or more remained, including past the end of that first marriage. I was in grad school by then, and though I had sexual partners almost too numerous to count, all of those encounters ere one on one. I knew threesomes (and moresomes) was something I wished to pursue.

It took another half-dozen years before I was able to enjoy that experience for the first time. This encounter was also unplanned and was also with a couple who were friends. We unexpectedly found ourselves sharing a hotel room at an event and unexpectedly discovered the room had one king bed rather than two queens. While the husband was showering, the wife made clear they were interested in playing. I was so excited I was literally shaking. She had to assure me everything would be fine. I’m not sure she understood the trembling was not anxiety but anticipation.

 

The three of us got into bed in our nightclothes. Soon the woman said “this isn’t how we sleep at home,“ and began pulling her nightie up over her head. She had ample and gorgeous breasts. Her husband and I got out of our night clothes almost as quickly. There was a little kissing and then soon I was sitting up against the headboard with my legs spread she was sucking me. Her husband sidled up behind her and began fucking her doggy style. watching his face as he thrust into his wife was very hot. After he ejaculated in her we switched positions. While she sucked him to another erection I fucked her until I had come as well. Rinse, repeat and we fell asleep, all exhausted.
 

I awakened in the middle of the night and found her still receptive. I climbed on top of her and began to fuck her in the missionary position. She call softly to her husband “he’s taking me again.” I found her words exciting, and apparently her husband did as well. He fondled my balls while I fucked his wife until I came yet again. (Ah, the energy of youth.)

 

I played with the wife every now and then over the next 20 years, though sadly the husband never joined us again. There’s been no sexual play with her for a decade now, but I am still friends with both of them. In fact, I spoke with them on the phone earlier today to congratulate them on recently becoming grandparents.

 

Happily, I’m also good friends with my first wife, after some years of estrangement. We exchanged New Years greetings and spoke about mutual friends we’ve known for half a century. 

 

Oh, and I did get to fuck the woman in that first couple. In fact, I just fucked her again yesterday. More than a dozen years after our first marriages ended we were platonic friends, until we had dinner one evening and after the meal we ended up in bed. One thing led to another and in January we will celebrate our 31st wedding anniversary. ??

[MidwestHoneys 358]

16 hours ago, barefoot_so_goo said:

That's interesting to me. When I was 17 in the 1980s, I can't imagine that kind of discussion or sharing taking place, but I was very repressed, and in a very conservative area.

 

My guess is that with the freer availability of porn, more people are exposed to more possibilities, so by 2006 you at least know it's something you can do.

I can’t answer that you were repressed. I think the 1960’s was supposed to be free sex and orgies and porn has been around forever. And that wasn’t the first time I fucked someone and I am sure she had done this with others before. 

[EastInWest 1,524]

I don't know if it counts or not, but my high school girlfriend was 18 and I was 17. We'd sometimes call into those singles chat lines and have phone sex while we masturbated each other. We didn't think of it as swinging/group sex-related at all, it was just a game. The first same-room group sex was with Mrs. E and only a few years ago.

 

17 hours ago, barefoot_so_goo said:

That's interesting to me. When I was 17 in the 1980s, I can't imagine that kind of discussion or sharing taking place, but I was very repressed, and in a very conservative area.

 

My guess is that with the freer availability of porn, more people are exposed to more possibilities, so by 2006 you at least know it's something you can do.

I can say that growing up in the 1990s, by the end of the decade talking about threesomes was not at all unusual, as a hypothetical, but following through was still fairly scandalous. I think FMF threesomes are considered fairly vanilla at this point, where two committed couples swapping is much further down the scale.

[tkntd 59]

For me, it was in college and I was 21. I had been to a party with a guy friend, and by the end of the night we were both kinda drunk and ended up leaving with another male friend (also a little hammered) from one of our classes. They walked me home and came in for a bit because it was cold. I noticed they were both looking at my chest a lot (I’m kinda top heavy). Being drunk, I asked them if they wanted to touch them. They did, and that led to much more. By the time they left, I had let one of them do me, sucked both of them off and one jacked off on my breasts. Crazy night. And my husband still wants to hear the story sometimes while we do it ?

[tkntd 59]

Well, my wife posted hers yesterday. Here’s mine/ours. We went to visit her folks over Christmas, and always set aside at least a night to visit her best friend from college and her husband. Those two have known each other since college, and her friend has always had a thing for my wife’s tits - talking about them, joking, sometimes touching. My wife had already admitted all that turned her on more than she ever let on. We talked about possibly sharing a year or two ago, and have bought some toys and pretended others were in bed with us / including those friends. We had been drinking wine and talking, then her friend started touching my wife’s hair, face, running her fingers over her breasts. Her husband and I just grinned at each other and watched. Her friend suddenly said WE NEED MORE WINE! We all laughed and my wife went to the kitchen with her to help. Got to admit I was curious after a minute, so I went to the kitchen, too. Nothing was happening, but K told me her friend had kissed her on the cheek a couple of times before going downstairs for another bottle. I could tell she getting turned on, so I took a chance, snuggled her ear a bit and whispered to her that I thought it was time. I got behind her, and when her friend came back up, I lifted K’s shirt and bra and said we think it’s time you did more than just talked about them and touched them through her clothes. Her friend’s eyes got huge and she rushed over, grabbed my wife’s breasts and started squeezing and rubbing, talking about how beautiful and big they are. K was moaning almost instantly, because her nipples are super sensitive. I started kissing and biting her neck and talking dirty in here ear, and then her friend called her husband in. He was stunned at first, but walked over and after a minute asked if he could join in. K nodded, I said yes, and then they were both playing with them, squeezing and sucking, and K was going crazy. Her friend pulled her to the table and pushed K into a chair, got on her knees between K’s legs, and starting kissing and sucking again. Her husband and stood there watching getting hornier by the second. Then K’s friend looked at her husband and said come here. He looked at me, I shrugged and nodded, and he stepped over to the chair. K’s friend looked up at her and asked if she wanted to suck her husband’s cock. K was panting and whimpering by now, and she looked up at him, then at me. I said go ahead, and K’s friend went back to her breasts and the husband unzipped, pulled it out and stuffed it in K’s mouth. I was losing my mind! After a minute, K looked at me and told me to get over there. I did, and next thing you know I was watching her friend suck and lick her big breasts while she took turns sucking our cocks. K’s gf started rubbing her pussy and K’s through their jeans while still sucking her tits and they both ended up cumming that way. It was mind blowing to see and hear. K kept sucking us both until we each came in her mouth, and at the end we all were looking at each other like did that really just happen?? lol K and I did it again after we got back to her folk’s house, and it was so hard trying to be quiet! Our friends will be visiting this summer, and we’ve begun exchanging sexy text/pics and agreed to some ground rules. We’re not sure exactly what the future holds, but we’re expecting it to be fun!

Edited January 31, 2021 by tkntd

[Playman64 205]

 

I was a single guy in the military. I was at a bar having lunch. Then a last walked up and asked are you in the military, I said yes, she said please join us at the table.  We sat an talked, I was from Oregon, they were from South Carolina. 
loved their accent and she was hot.  
 
I said I need to get back to my barracks, they invited me to their motel to visit more. Sure, we got there had a couple drinks, sometime she went and changed into T shirt & shorts.  She & I started talking, he put music on, we started dancing. 
 

As we danced she got super close, whispered grab my ass, I looked at hubby, he smiled. Started kissing, the rest is history.  Her pussy tasted so beautiful.  
 

Afterwards we laid their and talked and she said she was a cougar, and I was the fourth guy in 2 days to fuck her. I told her she was my first married lady and my first adult 3some. That started my swinging life with couples.  
 

then years later I would get married and get my first wife into swinging.  

 

[Numex 2,416]

On 1/30/2021 at 6:15 AM, tkntd said:

my husband still wants to hear the story sometimes while we do it

That's what got us into the lifestyle!  Even when we first dated, we both freely spoke and eagerly listen to nonsexual stories about our past relationships.  As our relationship became sexual, we talked about the sexual details of those past relationships.  It became part of our foreplay, and we were uninhibited (and unjealous) about describing who and what acts from the past that we enjoyed the most.  After we got married, I got up the nerve to suggest to my wife that she contact an ex who really rang her bell and arrange to screw him for old times sake.  She ended up doing two ex boyfriends (separately), we did MFMs with them, and this led to couples swaps.  Even now I like hearing stories from my wife of what she did when I'm not there, even if I had seen them together hundreds of times. 

[Numex 2,416]

May I add that I've concluded that while my wife is the best sex partner I've ever had (both her physical attributes and her attitude), my wife has had men she has enjoyed more than me in certain ways.  She is reluctant to say so straight out, but I coax her because it turns me on tremendously.

 

I'm always thinking, how to her did he feel differently from me?  Did he feel her sweet pussy the way that I do?  Did he appreciate her as the total woman who I love so much?  How could he have let her go?

 

Daniela has told me of one guy who she had a long-term relationship with who begged to fuck her again after they broke up.  She did; I love that story, and the many other interesting stories. 

[KatrinaandDriverX 101]

The wife here---- We were both 23 and had been married less than a year. Neither of us had much experience before . We thought it would be worth it to, if only once, have the experience of a foursome.  We decided to go to this really amazing Club to give it a go. We got introduced to an amazing couple by the club hosts and decided to full swap. The sex with the other husband was incredible. It was amazing. I came like I had never came before.  That same night they even introduced us to a second couple, the experience was like a drug, and they were just as nice (but not quite as good   ).  I realize a lot of people have not so great first experiences, but we had an amazing one.

[couplers 4,640]

On 12/30/2020 at 1:27 PM, David Lovell said:

We swapped one time with friends, who had recently gotten married.

I am always curious about couples who began nonmonogamy early in their marriage as we and a few others here have done.  It seems to me that they have less uncertainty, drama and hand-wringing than those who after being together for 20 years are thinking of "dipping their toes" into the lifestyle.  Latecomers are the ones who have all these rules, worry about who may know, what feeling may develop, etc.  I don't know if it is a generational thing, or having started early in the marriage or what, but it's interesting.  In my mind it depends on whether you have the attitude that if a mistake is made it is a problem or something from which you just say, not for me/us, and move on.