How to build trust and approach others. Also do beginners need to be submissive the first time?

[British indian 0]

Let me know how to engage and expect when starting conversations and whether a direct approach clarifys each other’s expectations, also whether or not to 

[njbm 2,901]

We do not subscribe to any of the BDSM dynamic. In our experience, there is a Venn diagram in which nudists, swingers and BDSMers can overlap, but many people are only in one of those circles. Our nudism and swinging overlap. 

[lcmim 1,086]

Be honest. Be yourselves.

[adamgunn 1,461]

How do you talk to your friends? if they think you're a nice person, talk to anyone in the LifeStyle just as you talk to your friends. (If they don't think you're a nice person, stop everything and make yourself into a nice person before you do anything else.) 

 

You've been a rookie in other things before, right? Maybe you're a good cricket player, but at some point you weren't right? Understand that when you're new, you've got a lot to learn, but if you give it your best, using the talents you already have, then develop those talents, everybody gives you a break, right? Same thing in the LifeStyle.

[couplers 4,718]

On 12/30/2020 at 6:10 PM, lcmim said:

Be honest. Be yourselves.

Be kind, be polite, and put others pleasure ahead of yours.  From that you will be generously rewarded.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

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How to build trust and approach others?

As already stated, be yourselves. The hardest part is just saying that very first 'hello'. It's surprising how many are stumped by this first step...just say hi and see where things go from there.

 

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Also do beginners need to be submissive the first time?

Absolutely not. Once again, we have met lots of couples that just seem to be afraid to even talk about '...sex'. We do usually let the other couple know that when we meet for the first time (usually dinner or drinks) it is just for meeting...no pressure to expect more the first meeting. After that, THEN there is a chance for more, but someone still has to make the first move (we usually try to start the ball rolling, but it's better if both couples are wanting to start the same thing). I know it can be hard the first time or two, but in the end, everyone there is hoping for the same thing to happen. Either be ready and looking for that first sign, or be the ones making that first move will make things go smoother and faster. Also, confidence is usually considered very sexy. Good luck and let us know how things are going for you.

[JessicaJamison 864]

On 12/30/2020 at 7:22 PM, British indian said:

Let me know how to engage and expect when starting conversations and whether a direct approach clarifys each other’s expectations, also whether or not to 

Attempting to pickup another person or couple as a swinger is seduction.  When I meet someone I'm physically attracted too, I strike up a conversation and flirt my ass off.  I compliment them, I touch their arm lightly and keep it there slightly longer than comfort allows.  I laugh at their jokes, I love when they have on a bracelet, watch or ring, as I will take their hand in mine and look at the item in detail, and when we move on I keep my hand on theirs for a few minutes.  Try to create little moments of connection or intimacy.  Things that will make them take notice and desire more physical contact.  At the end I ask them if they want to get out of here, go do something fun, live a little.  It works.