My cousin needs advice

[David Lovell 160]

Hi, this is Amy, and my husband Dave told me to post this topic to get some feed back from other members.

My cousin Natalie is 27 years old. She's ultra attractive, super slim, clever and has a fabulous sense of humor. She lives at home with her parents.

Due to surgery associated th gynalogical problems she was advised to abstain from all sexual activity for at least five years. Recently she has begun questioning me about my sex life and after I told her that we were swingers she has become interested almost to thd point of excitement. 

Natalie is a virgin, she will never be able to bear children.  She believes that guys chase her just for sex. She asked if we could take her to a swinger party. When I told her that we usually swing as a foursome with the same friends she said she would go along with that idea. 

Now here is the problem. Two couples  plus one doesn't make a foursome.  I believe that  she needs some coaching before getting too involved. I know my husband Dave and my lover Ken could help with her initiation but is there a different way?

Please give me your suggestions regarding the best way to get Natalie up to speed.

Edited December 31, 2020 by David Lovell
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[Lionheart72 2,190]

Communicate, communicate, communicate...

 

I'm reading some mixed messages in your post... like she's concerned guys only want her for sex and she wants to go to a swingers party where, by definition, guys will want her sex. She wants to play in a foursome but she is a single woman... and as you say 2+2+1 does not equal 4.  It sounds like a lot of confusion to me.

 

All in all, it sounds to me like you need to have some calm, clear-headed, detailed conversations with her.

[PeterJ 954]

“Due to surgery associated th gynalogical problems she was advised to abstain from all sexual activity for at least five years.”

Really? I’m unaware of (and unable to find information regarding) any gynecological conditions which would require sexual abstinence for a minimum of a half decade. Could you clarify, so I could find more credible the remainder of your post? ??

[Alura 2,774]

A foursome plus one makes a five-some. Or a threesome and a twosome. The combinations and permutations sound like fun!

[NoAngels 334]

Natalie is 27. Due to surgery she can’t have sex for five years. Natalie is a virgin but guys chase her for sex. 

27 virgin who can’t have sex now wants to go to a swingers party with relatives. 

Think you all have her sense of humor as this has to be funny. And she is model material, ultra attractive and very slim. 

Did you forget she only likes anal and that’s why she’s a virgin? 

[Anon321 523]

35 minutes ago, NoAngels said:

Natalie is 27. Due to surgery she can’t have sex for five years. Natalie is a virgin but guys chase her for sex. 

27 virgin who can’t have sex now wants to go to a swingers party with relatives. 

Think you all have her sense of humor as this has to be funny. And she is model material, ultra attractive and very slim. 

Did you forget she only likes anal and that’s why she’s a virgin? 

Yeah this seems either incredibly fake or incredibly wrong.

[MidwestHoneys 359]

I am laughing at this whole thread as it is seems that so much that is posted falls into the same vein. It’s nice to share experiences not made up scenarios. 

I primarily joined for information and to see if my experiences are similar to others, along with the hiccups we’ve had along the way. Instead I see the same posters posting the same drivel ad infinitum. I remember reading the same things in my dad’s Penthouse magazines. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

When I say the title of this thread, my first thought was that this was a troll. Just on the off case that it isn't, here's our thoughts:

 

Don't play with vanilla friends, don't play with family. If (and usually when) your swinging activities become public knowledge it can be very difficult and uncomfortable once EVERYONE knows what you do inside the bedroom. At this point, you still have plausible deniability. Second, since she can't really participate, what's in it for you? What's in it for her? Third (and already pointed out), she already thinks that everyone chasing her is looking for sex...which she can't have for 5 years...going to a swingers event where everyone at least is OPEN about wanting her only for sex...which she can't have for 5 years. Seems like taking a starving person into a 5 star kitchen and telling them they can look and smell as much as they would like, but they can't taste ANYTHING. Really, then why bother?

 

Any way we look at this, there just isn't any reason for anyone to move forward and only storm clouds on the horizon if you choose to move forward.