Looking for a girl who is experienced to show us

[Justinbeene 8]

We are looking for a female to join us in a trial run to an upcoming vacation to a hedonism resort and wanted to see what we are into.  My husband wants a double blowjob and I want to do that and see what else I would be opened to.  I know I don’t want to have sex with another man and he don’t want to with a girl.    Just each other’s pleasure in the form a a talented lady.  

 

Should we experience this act before we go next year or save it for the moment? We have never done anything like this.  

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, there's some good recommendations about this on CDC.org

[Lionheart72 2,190]

It's a reasonable thing to want, and a fun thing to do... but the problem is what you are looking for is what is commonly called a Unicorn (a single, bisexual female who is willing to have no strings attached sex). What's more, you are looking for a very, very specific Unicorn (a single, bisexual female willing to give a no strings attached blowjob to a stranger with no reciprocation).

 

Unicorns are called unicorns because they are highly desired, so vanishingly rare as to be nearly mythological and therefore almost impossible to find. Unless you have an open minded female friend or are willing to hire a prostitute, I expect you will like have a very hard time in setting up the encounter you describe.

 

I might respectfully suggest that consider what it is you really want out of the encounter and why.

[cplnluv1 872]

You are looking for the same thing we were a few years ago. Our experience was many fakes answering ads. My wife was doing it for me, I wanted to watch her do something she did before we met, be with a woman. I didn’t even care if I was involved, I was going to watch. We almost hired a professional and then didn’t. 

We figured we would advertise for a couple as long as the wife was bi. We found a couple and I watched the women which was great and I got to be with the woman, also great. The guy was an asshole. 

We have read dozens of ads like yours where the wife is curious and decided no couple should go through what we went through. We have answered many couples that we would meet, as a couple with me just there to watch. Linda will go as slow as they want, mostly for the wife. We have had couples change their minds, we are  not pushy. 

Maybe if you open your minds and see your way with a couple you might convince them to go by your rules. 

I hope it works for you. 

[JessicaJamison 862]

It sounds like you are just looking for a double blowjob with no payout for her.  If you don't wanna have sex with someone else and he doesn't wanna have sex with another woman, it sounds pretty unfullfilling for the third wheel that just gets to suck a dick.  I like sucking dick but its foreplay and eventually I wanna fuck someone.  I think most will feel that way.  I'd personally never agree to be throat fucked and then be forced to watch two other people fuck knowing i get nothing..  Good luck.  

[Justinbeene 8]

It’s my husband that will get the double bj.   I think I want to try a girl in the middle to play with for both of us with open to learning.   I’m reading this is called a soft swap.    I believe this is up our ally for a first.   Thanks for the help 

[Justinbeene 8]

I’m down to play with another Woman.   That’s the entire reason we are going to hedo.   15 years of a great marriage and we are just venturing out a little.  Everything goes except penetration on our first few times is our rules.  I’m curious for girls.   I want to have another girl help me suck his dick and we can all suck and lick each other.  I know I don’t want another man in the picture.  He is with me on this journey to just explore for some fun.   Whatever it may be.   I’m sorry I wasn’t more clear.    This is all really new.   I mean really new.   So if we are on a path that’s impossible we will just wind up enjoying our vacation with each other getting freaky with one another.   Thanks for your input. 

[Lionheart72 2,190]

27 minutes ago, Justinbeene said:

I’m down to play with another Woman.   That’s the entire reason we are going to hedo.   15 years of a great marriage and we are just venturing out a little.  Everything goes except penetration on our first few times is our rules.  I’m curious for girls.   I want to have another girl help me suck his dick and we can all suck and lick each other.  I know I don’t want another man in the picture.  He is with me on this journey to just explore for some fun.   Whatever it may be.   I’m sorry I wasn’t more clear.    This is all really new.   I mean really new.   So if we are on a path that’s impossible we will just wind up enjoying our vacation with each other getting freaky with one another.   Thanks for your input. 

Thank you for the clarification... and don't worry. We were all new once.

 

You are still, I fear, unicorn hunting however. Not an impossible task (I found a unicorn once) ... just be aware that it is often a very difficult one that requires a mixture of patience, the right approach and pure luck. However, I think you are somewhat on the right track for it. As legend tells us, the best way to hunt a unicorn is with a maiden. Most unicorn hunters are men who want a second woman but are threatened by a second man. You may have the ability set yourself apart from that crowd because you are a woman, looking for another woman. So, don't give up hope.

 

Finally, I love your attitude... if you don't find what you want, you can spend time getting freaky together! That's the great way to approach it.

[ROCKlandCpl 452]

I would love to go to Hedo now that we are a little experienced. From what I read it is almost all couples and no singles. 

Unicorns are very hard to find in the real world yet I have read about them and could be there are unicorns out there. 

Don’t discount the reality that there are couples where the male just wants to watch and not participate. We also thought it would be weird unless you can block that out of your head. 

Good luck whatever you end up doing, just go with the idea of having a good time. If it’s just you and your husband and you are happy it seems to me it would be a great vacation. 

One question, are you going to watch others having sex? I understand there is a play area that is open to play and watch. 

[Justinbeene 8]

33 minutes ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

I would love to go to Hedo now that we are a little experienced. From what I read it is almost all couples and no singles. 

Unicorns are very hard to find in the real world yet I have read about them and could be there are unicorns out there. 

Don’t discount the reality that there are couples where the male just wants to watch and not participate. We also thought it would be weird unless you can block that out of your head. 

Good luck whatever you end up doing, just go with the idea of having a good time. If it’s just you and your husband and you are happy it seems to me it would be a great vacation. 

One question, are you going to watch others having sex? I understand there is a play area that is open to play and watch. 

They do.  We do want to watch and have sex in the same room.    We are going to let it out at the resort.   We’ve discussed our boundaries.   No other men and just play so we are hoping to relax and see what transpires.    Thanks again for your advice.  

[tbone1 79]

Just go to Hedonism and have the time of your life.  It is a beautiful place with a sexy vibe.  No rules except respect and no means no.  You will meet awesome people from all walks of life who may be good friends for years.  There is no pressure there for sex, but opportunities for you do to whatever you want.  Beautiful weather, nice beach and pools, great food and restaurants, entertainment is excellent, various water sports including scuba, kayaks, etc.   Go and have fun together or with others! 

[Idahocouple6969 294]

Do you have a profile on SLS or one of the swingers site's? I would be more inclined to try something closer to home. At least before I spent the $$ on hedo (yeah I'm cheap) we can find unicorn's even here in the middle of bum fuck nowhere. But as was mentioned you CAN go and have a great vacation. 

I am in full agreement that you should have a trial run. I can tell you that for us anyway, Mrs ID absolutely loves giving blow jobs but it's foreplay. And it's the same for me. I love a BJ but that isn't the way I want to finish.  While there really IS someone for everyone finding a threesome where the third is willing to watch you have sex without having sex as well, can be a lot harder. My whole goal is for Mrs ID to have the most mind blowing experience possible. Hopefully better than at home. 

Once covid-19 subsides and clubs start opening that could be a great place to experiment. You obviously are doing your due diligence and planning so I would hate to see you go to hedo and find it's not for you guys. 

One final bit of advice...... see if you can locate a local meet and greet. They are usually held in a fairly vanilla setting and you can make some great LS friends. We usually get a hotel room for fun with friends and sometimes it's a hotel just for us ? 

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

CpInLuv: If only there were more people like you in the world...

 

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I would love to go to Hedo now that we are a little experienced. From what I read it is almost all couples and no singles. 

Hedo ALLOWS singles...and they are always single men. Sometimes only a few, other times it can be a mine field, usually a polite no will send them on their way. Desires and Desires RM are limited to couples only.

[MidwestHoneys 359]

On 1/4/2021 at 7:11 AM, Justinbeene said:

It’s my husband that will get the double bj.   I think I want to try a girl in the middle to play with for both of us with open to learning.   I’m reading this is called a soft swap.    I believe this is up our ally for a first.   Thanks for the help 

We did this before we were married with a man watching and not involved with any of the sex. I thought it was very weird at first then as our sex started I blanked his presence. Having two girls blowing me was only a wet dream before that and your husband will always remember that blowjob. 

Just wondering if at Hedo if you find someone to help will you allow others to watch? 

[cplnluv1 872]

On 1/4/2021 at 1:13 PM, GoldCoCouple said:

CpInLuv: If only there were more people like you in the world...

Our pleasure?

I thought we were the only couple looking for a unicorn unsuccessfully. I will say it was both fun and frustrating looking. We tried to make even the fake no shows into fun nights. 

We assure every couple we are in contact with that we know what they are going through. I’ll tell you what we hate, husbands forcing their wives to do this. Linda is very good at reading the situation. She also good at chatting and making everyone relaxed. We ask every woman what she wants. We have one rule, I will stay dressed unless I am asked to join in. It is still a thrill for me to watch Linda and a woman. Most of the time the husband wants to get up close to watch before getting involved. There is no set way things go except it goes the way the wife wants it to go.  I will also say that eventually I get involved in good number of meetings. 

[MrMrsswinger 205]

Good luck finding a woman who is expected to just give a blowjob and not get intercourse. We've found that most women in the lifestyle that claim bi or bi-comfortable still want to get laid. 

 

A "soft swap" is an oral swap, where a foursome swaps partners for oral sex. It isn't a single female blowing your husband and maybe getting her tits fondled or receiving amateur oral. I would bet you'd have better luck finding a bi woman and you going solo. 

 

Many couples have tried to find the elusive unicorn because the husband wasn't an FMF threesome. This is rare. You should try inviting over your adventurous friend for some drinks instead of seeking this via the lifestyle. As a few have already said, woman who entertain a couple are rare, and almost always wasn't to get $^%#.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We try to be as 'nubie friendly' as possible for the same reasons. Most 'experienced' couples don't want to bother with nubies, mostly because of potential drama issues, but we were all nubies at one time and had to start somewhere. We always look at it as making new friends (even if we aren't interested) and it's kind of fun being able to talk about sex with others...out in public of all places. At the same time, we try to be much more aware of red flags. Even the red flag couples give us a laugh and something to talk about later.