How to set up a safe gangbang for the wifey

[fire&ice2425 8]

We are new here so be gentle.  Husband loves to watch wife with other men.  We have actually taken the step and brought another man into our bedroom.  It was an amazing experience for both of us and something we both definitely want more of.  Since then we have moved several states away, and then COVID-19 brought social interaction to a screeching halt.    

 

The husband is not a cuckold in the sense that we are not into humiliation.  Husband is more than capable in pleasing the wife. That most definitely is not the problem.  He just derives pleasure from watching the wife pleasured by other men.  The wife is totally ok with this arrangement... totally ok.       

 

One of the things we have talked about for some time now is a gangbang.  The husband really has a couple of fantasies involving a number of other men (talking 3-4 is probably what both of us are comfortable with) pleasing the wife at the same time.  We have got to the point where we are interested in making some of these fantasies come true as we BOTH are interested in this happening.  What we are struggling with is how to make this happen safely and to where everybody has a great time.  

 

Ultimately we both really want to just have fun and at the same time be safe about this.  Are there folks out there with any pointers on how to set up a gangbang for the Mrs. and being clean, and safe while focusing on just having lots of fun and lot of orgasms?  How do people select partners as we don't have a many friends or contacts moving just before COVID-19 restrictions set in?

 

We are fun-loving and are really looking for people who can have fun, laugh, enjoy life, and not afraid to have full on unattached sex with a beautiful woman with her husband watching.  We are just struggling with how we can potentially make this happen and be safe about it at the same time.  Experiences, pointers, and techniques are welcome.     

[fire&ice2425 8]

Forgot to mention some of the rules we currently have in place:

1. Protection is required, and we will provide

2. Husband will always be present

3. Safe words are in play and will be openly communicated beforehand

4. Anybody has the ability to stop play at any time for any reason, no questions asked.  

 

Are there any other rules we should have in place?

[njbm 2,901]

It would be nice if you got to know the men before. You could have a few MFMs before the gangbang. Then invite the top 3 or 4 participants to the GB. 
 

Do you have a profile on SLS or a similar site? They have GB parties in some larger metro areas and at some swingers’ clubs. If you go to a major swing club like Trapeze or Colette’s, you could probably start a GB. 
 

I think things are generally on ice till the pandemic ends. 

Edited March 2, 2021 by njbm

[Lionheart72 2,191]

The gang bangs we've done in the past have all been semi-spontaneous events set up at swingers clubs... most just involving letting a few guys there know we're interesting in doing a gang bang and just letting thing go from there. Sometimes it worked really well. Other times, not at all. Depended on the crowd on any given night.

 

I've heard that setting up a gang bang online is a difficult task. I've never tried myself, but most stories I've heard involve couples inviting 10 guys, having 5 guys say yes and 0-1 guys actually show up on the night.

 

In general, I'd say your rules are right in line with what ours have always been. Simple, clear, easy to communicate. As for finding people, my experience says look for a club once COVID is over, start slow and let things happen. Hopefully others will have some advice more suited to the digital age. Have fun.

[adamgunn 1,461]

Okay, I'm taking this one off topic . . .

 

My wife has never had a gangbang, if you mean that we set it up for a bunch of guys to concentrate solely on her. She's never been interested. But . . .

 

One night we were at a fairly large house party. After the two of us had played with another couple, a single guy (a rookie) and she decided to play and since the newbie was also interested in exhibition, Mary let him lead her to the common room. He was joyfully having his way with her when she was joined by a guy that we knew well, that takes it to three for the night. I was then surprised when she crooked her finger at yet another, and another . . . After a couple of hours, at least ten guys had been with my wife, I wouldn't be surprised if it was more than a dozen.

 

Now, does this count as an 'official gangbang'? We go back and forth on it.

[njbm 2,901]

14 minutes ago, adamgunn said:

Okay, I'm taking this one off topic . . .

 

My wife has never had a gangbang, if you mean that we set it up for a bunch of guys to concentrate solely on her. She's never been interested. But . . .

 

One night we were at a fairly large house party. After the two of us had played with another couple, a single guy (a rookie) and she decided to play and since the newbie was also interested in exhibition, Mary let him lead her to the common room. He was joyfully having his way with her when she was joined by a guy that we knew well, that takes it to three for the night. I was then surprised when she crooked her finger at yet another, and another . . . After a couple of hours, at least ten guys had been with my wife, I wouldn't be surprised if it was more than a dozen.

 

Now, does this count as an 'official gangbang'? We go back and forth on it.

That is pretty gang bangy. It’s funny when one’s wife exceeds her dating life intercourse number in one night. Which may or may not be the case. But I’ve had much more sex as a swinger than I did single. 

[njbm 2,901]

I’ve mentioned it before, but we have a friend who hosts GB parties. He calls it a “multiple man” party because he fears that the term gangbang has negative connotations for violence or lack of consent. 
 

The host does not permit single men to drink alcohol at the party. If a female guest objects to anything a male does, she just has to tell the host and the offender is asked to leave. I’m guessing it’s about 3 or 5 to one.

 

Honestly, despite the male ratio, I’ve had more action there than at some couples only house parties. Since my wife attends, people are very nice to me. I’m sort of a gatekeeper watching out for her. The key phrase for the woman: “I need a break.” 

[Lionheart72 2,191]

43 minutes ago, adamgunn said:

Now, does this count as an 'official gangbang'? We go back and forth on it.

I vote yes... and it's a great way to spend an evening.

[adamgunn 1,461]

3 hours ago, njbm said:

It’s funny when one’s wife exceeds her dating life intercourse number in one night. Which may or may not be the case. But I’ve had much more sex as a swinger than I did single. 

No, not even close to that, we were pretty experienced by that time. I kept an eye on her for maybe forty minutes, then I was approached by a wife who wanted to get me in a room. I asked Mary if it was okay, if she was okay, she told me not to worry. That's why I don't have an exact count, Mary's recollection was, understandably, a little fuzzy.

[adamgunn 1,461]

This story of Mary is gaining so traction, so . . . I wrote this up for Literotica some time back, I've reposted it here in the Swinger Stories section. 

 

Enjoy!

[fire&ice2425 8]

13 hours ago, Lionheart72 said:

I've heard that setting up a gang bang online is a difficult task. I've never tried myself, but most stories I've heard involve couples inviting 10 guys, having 5 guys say yes and 0-1 guys actually show up on the night.

 

That's an interesting point we hadn't really thought of... the dates not showing up.  Just thinking out loud, We are not sure we would want that in the case the wife might be disappointed at the turnout and think it was something about her. 

 

Only the flip side 10 is too many for our comfort right now.  Hell 5 might be too many for now.  Looking to start slow.  

 

Thank you for your reply, this has given us a lot to consider.  

Edited March 3, 2021 by fire&ice2425

[NWAtlSwing 526]

22 hours ago, fire&ice2425 said:

That's an interesting point we hadn't really thought of... the dates not showing up.  Just thinking out loud, We are not sure we would want that in the case the wife might be disappointed at the turnout and think it was something about her. 

 

Only the flip side 10 is too many for our comfort right now.  Hell 5 might be too many for now.  Looking to start slow.  

 

Thank you for your reply, this has given us a lot to consider.  

OMG the not showing up is always going to happen.

[fire&ice2425 8]

1 hour ago, NWAtlSwing said:

OMG the not showing up is always going to happen.

Wow, that is so disappointing to hear.  

[Lionheart72 2,191]

41 minutes ago, fire&ice2425 said:

Wow, that is so disappointing to hear.  

Yeah, seems pretty strange to me but it's a fairly common bit of shared wisdom when it comes to recruiting guys for gang bangs online. Most just don't show up.

 

Personally, I've never had any luck with find play partners online anyway. I've always preferred clubs.

[njbm 2,901]

A lot of swingers are flakes. Only time my wife and I were ever stood up in our long lives were with a swinger couple who no showed for a dinner that was a 45 minute drive away from our home. 

I texted them the next day just to make sure that they did not die in a fatal accident. The husband claimed he cancelled by email. I told him he didn’t have my email. He then claimed he cancelled by text. He didn’t. 

 

We later found out they stood up other friends of ours. Have not seen their profile on SLS in a long time. Maybe swinging wasn’t for them. 
 

So yes, potential gangbangers will no show in a heartbeat. 

Edited March 4, 2021 by njbm

[Fitlakecouple 451]

Go to a club that limits the number of single guys as part of their membership group. Those guys will be on their best behavior because they don't want to risk losing their membership which was difficult to come by in the first place. You can attend the club on a GB theme night or simply collect 3-5 singles on any relatively busy evening. Lay out your rules and head off to a room and enjoy your "party". By being at a club you'll sidestep many of the hassles and pitfalls you'll encounter trying to do it on your own. You can even advertise the GB in advance to prospects letting them know she'll be choosing from who is at the club on this night...

[fire&ice2425 8]

We're not sure why, but we had never really thought of becoming members at a club, but we are starting to see the potential benefits both in terms of safety and knowing who might actually be available to play.  It is something for us to reconsider, especially once the pandemic restrictions are lifted and it is safe form a health perspective. 

 

An added feature is that we have had a couple of experiences of finding people online who aren't in real life what they claim to be in their profiles.  We see the positives of being able to meet somebody, know what they are all about and determine how or if we want to move forward from there.     

[adamgunn 1,461]

3 hours ago, Fitlakecouple said:

Go to a club that limits the number of single guys as part of their membership group. 

Just to add to this, our club has a policy that a single man must be sponsored by a member couple and the first night they attend they must be with that couple. On any given night they limit the number of single males to 10% - 1 guy for every 10 couples. Add to this the fact that a single guy pays more than a couple, ($70 / $80) and you do get a better grouping of them. 

 

As a result, the single men act better, you have very little of the leering that I've seen at other clubs, and they know their way around.

 

If you're thinking about it, Fire&Ice, call the club and ask about the single male policies.

[NWAtlSwing 526]

17 hours ago, fire&ice2425 said:

Wow, that is so disappointing to hear.  

Well, now we have a good group so they tend to show up

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Just to say it...

 

I know that conventional wisdom in swingers clubs is that single males are a problem. They are generally considered creepy, leery, rude, pushy, etc. I am therefore sure that we have been unreasonable lucky with the clubs we've gone to, because I can pretty much count on one hand the number of problems we had with single males in our time. Our experience has almost always been that guys are polite, respectful and accommodating. Even our negative experiences were resolved by telling the guy to stop or back off, and that was the end of the matter. In contrast, my experience of clubs that only allow couples has been generally less positive (in my experience, they have been snobby and cliquish).

 

Everything says my experience is atypical, but I wanted to put it out there. Just because a club allows single guys doesn't necessarily mean the atmosphere is that of a pack of starving wolves hungrily circling raw meat. Doesn't mean it isn't it either. It's important to get to know the community. You never know what you'll find until you look.

[njbm 2,901]

My wife was attending to her needs with a pocket rocket at a swing club. I was nearby.
A single male took out his massive tool and was stroking it near her. He asked me if it was ok if he watched. I said yes, as long as you don’t shoot that thing on her face. He said “That would be impolite!”

At the time, we were totally inexperienced. At a later time, my wife would have done him. 

Edited March 4, 2021 by njbm

[fire&ice2425 8]

Thanks you all for the advice.  We have shied away form clubs in the past because we thought couples would want to play together and right now we are just looking for the wife to play and didn't want to disappoint.  We now think that maybe we need to do some more research into our local scene.  We have been very disappointed with our online options which is why we came here.  So far so good!