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How often do couples also do hotwifing?

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We are a swinging couple, in that we have foursomes and moresomes. But my wife also is a hotwife, in that we have MFM threesomes together and she sometimes solos without me. I got to wondering, how many other couples do stuff like this?

 

And here’s the answer: In 61.7% of couples that swing the wife is also a hotwife.

 

Now, before you go quoting that figure as gospel, or try to tell me I’m full of it, let me say that you should read this whole message. (Preview: It’s quite likely that the figure isn’t true.)

 

So, how did I come to this figure? What I did was I analyzed 120 swinger profiles on SLS. I picked them from various locations, suburbs of large cities, made sure that the profiles were paid, and the couple said they did full swap.

 

I sorted the profiles into three categories:

1) Couples that said they are as interested in single males as they are in swinging,

2) couples that said they like swinging more but they can get into single males,

3) couples that said they have no interest in single males.

 

Category 1 was 37.5% of the profiles.

Category 2 was 24.2% of the profiles.

Category 3, couples that have no interest, is 38.3%

Add Category 1 and Category 2 together, you get that 61.7% figure.

 

So, while I was at it, I also analyzed the age of women who are in such couples. I was surprised to find that the percentage goes down as women get older, I thought it would be the other way around. Heres the table.

 

Age 21-29, 80%

30-39, 60%

40-49, 70.8%

50-59, 52.5%

60 and up, 50%

 

So, that’s my findings, based on analyzing profiles of couples on SLS. Is the study flawed? Hell, yes!

• I only looked at couples who are paid members on SLS, maybe they’re not representative of the whole population of swingers.

• I only looked at couples in the suburbs. If you go either into the inner city or out to rural areas, who knows what that would show.

• The sample size of 120 couples is way too small. If I’d get up to 1,000 I’d feel a little more confident. 5,000, and I’d say yeah. I'm not going to spend that kind of time.

• I trusted that what the couples said in their profiles is true. We all know that you can’t rely on it, ages in particular are misstated.

 

If you have any questions about what I did, go ahead and ask. If you want to see the actual data, IM me with an email address and I'll send you the spreadsheet. Yeah, I’ve got way too much time on my hands.

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Interesting, thanks for sharing!

 

I'm surprised with the age distribution also.  I too thought just the opposite would be the case.  I've got two possible explanations for that.

 

One would be the younger couples have been more exposed to (and consequently likely are more accepting of) alternate relationship dynamics like polyamory, etc. instead of the more classic "swingers" as being a couple based thing.  So, they are way more open to this type scenario.

 

The other is more far-fetched and something I suspect you would have picked up on since it is usually pretty obvious.  I've noticed that since the sites formerly favored by sex workers (like Backpage) started shutting down, we have gotten more spammers here along those lines.  It used to be few to none. Even now it still isn't that many since it ought to be pretty obvious that's not what this place is about and so probably not a good place to invest your time in marketing efforts, but there was a definite increase.  I wonder how much the swingers personals sites are being used for the same reason? "Young hot wife loves to play alone. Just contact me and let's meet!"  And then you eventually learn that she is indeed willing to meet, but there is something expected in return for her time and services.

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1 hour ago, cplnuswing said:

I wonder how much the swingers personals sites are being used for the same reason? "Young hot wife loves to play alone. Just contact me and let's meet!"  

That wouldn't have impacted my 'study.' I didn't capture the data, but the vast majority of the profiles I checked had been created at least a year or two ago. Plus, if anyone was simply looking for hotwife activites and not swinging as a couple, I didn't include their profile in my data.

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We're a younger couple and do more hotwifing or I should say "hot GFing" more than swinging.  I think the younger generation today are more desensitized when it comes to sex so they are more open to just about anything.

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We generally swap with other couples. Don’t hotwife. 
My wife has been the object of desire at house parties with many suitors. 

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