Tahoe 6 Posted April 17, 2021 We were out of town a couple of weeks ago for a few days. Met this guy and chatted with him on and off for a few days. One day he caught us making out ( we were talking about me having him as my first mmf) I don't think he heard us. Hubby and I had the plan that hubby would make up an excuse to leave so he and I would have a chance to talk alone. I wasn't nervous but I was not attracted to him at all. How do you handle not being attracted to someone? Do you just go through with it or wait? I want to wait until I am at least attracted to him a little. Hubby didn't pressure me at all he said maybe next time. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted April 17, 2021 If you're not attracted, just say thanks but no thanks and walk away. You want your first time to be enjoyable, it won't be if you're not into it. Other guys will come by, I promise you. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
Tahoe 6 Posted April 17, 2021 His voice was a REAL turn off i could imagine having sex with him and that voice would kill the mood. Maybe i am being a bit of a snob about it. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,871 Posted April 17, 2021 Everyone is allowed to have their preferences. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Tahoe 6 Posted April 17, 2021 29 minutes ago, njbm said: Everyone is allowed to have their preferences. The only turn off was his voice( talks way to much). Maybe I can over come that in the future. Heck he may not be attracted to me only time will tell. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,065 Posted April 19, 2021 If it isn't working, for whatever reason, just walk away. Otherwise it's called 'taking one for the team' and is one of our very few remaining rules. Don't compromise, there are just WAY too many men that are more than happy to have been in his place. Just keep looking and the right one will turn up. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
enhancer 1,585 Posted April 21, 2021 You are not a snob by not having sex with someone you are not attracted too! Be as picky as you want. It is your body and your choice. No shortage of other people out there. Take your time and find the right ones so it is worth while. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,637 Posted April 25, 2021 Concur with others; don't play with someone you're not attracted to. It's not worth it. Would you date someone you're not attracted to? Of course not. Same applies in swinging. Plus, if you're not attracted to them, the sex isn't going to be very good either. What's the point? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
