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This is a real hangup/massive insecurity of mine. I posted a similar topic a few years ago and I still struggle with this. I'm an average sized guy. If my wife has/had sex multiple times with men who are larger (specifically girthier) than me, will she feel looser as a result? Would she feel tighter if I had been her only partner to date? Or does it bounce back 100% every time? How many encounters with larger men would it take before she feels looser, or does every encounter take something away tightness wise? Ideally I'd love to hear that peoole here have wives who have been with much bigger guys, yet remain just as tight as they always were pre the big guys. 

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11 minutes ago, stupidquestion said:

If my wife has/had sex multiple times with men who are larger (specifically girthier) than me, will she feel looser as a result?

No.  It has to do with muscle tone.

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On 7/8/2021 at 6:37 AM, Numex said:

No.  It has to do with muscle tone.

So from your personal experience, your wife has had sex with bigger men, and fully returned to 100% the same tightness as she had before? 

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3 minutes ago, stupidquestion said:

your wife has had sex with bigger men, and fully returned to 100 % the same tightness as she had before? 

Yes, definitely. 

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7 minutes ago, Numex said:

Yes, definitely. 

Thank you. So there was even no change after the first couple of times with a significantly bigger man? It genuinely honest to God makes no difference? Tightness is set and stretching is just a porn myth (bar childbirth)? 

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Having a child pass thru is much bigger than any cock that may be inserted. There MAY be a temporary 'looseness' or perceived feeling of looseness but it will rather quickly go away. If a vagina stayed the size of the largest object that passed thru, then most families would consist of one child only. Don't be concerned about sizes (it seems way too many people are...they are either too big or too small, but in reality all are 'just right'). Worst case scenario: kegal exercises. Back in my single days, I was with a woman who had done them for quite awhile (being without a boy friend and fearing that she was too loose as baggage from her ex husband). She had had two children and was worried about the same thing. First of all, she was just fine under normal circumstances, but when she would orgasm, her well toned and exercised muscles would crush down and (depending on if it was an in stroke or an out stroke) force me out or not let me enter. While interesting and different, it could also be painful to me. If only the world could quit spending so much time worrying about the size of things...

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23 hours ago, stupidquestion said:

So there was even no change after the first couple of times with a significantly bigger man?

After we met and started having sex, my wife started fucking (one for several months, one for almost a year) two guys who have cocks significantly fatter than mine.  No short term or long term difference. 

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23 hours ago, HerSweetness said:

M has had three children and is still the tightest woman I’ve ever been with (lucky me!)

The pussy tightness of both my ex-wife, two kids, and my current wife, one kid, were unaffected by childbirth, all vaginally. 

 

You are worrying about this too much.  One of the wives in our group has a "loose" pussy.  When I'm in her with my average size dick, it is a struggle to orgasm, especially if there's already cum in her.  But you know what?  When I do come, it is incredibly intense.  Her cunt is like teasing my dick, my whole body.

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It's like asking if a woman's mouth will be looser after sucking bigger dicks.

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On 7/8/2021 at 6:26 AM, stupidquestion said:

This is a real hangup/massive insecurity of mine. I posted a similar topic a few years ago and I still struggle with this. I'm an average sized guy. If my wife has/had sex multiple times with men who are larger (specifically girthier) than me, will she feel looser as a result? Would she feel tighter if I had been her only partner to date? Or does it bounce back 100% every time? How many encounters with larger men would it take before she feels looser, or does every encounter take something away tightness wise? Ideally I'd love to hear that people here have wives who have been with much bigger guys, yet remain just as tight as they always were pre the big guys. 

 

You're right. This is an emotional insecurity of yours. No amount of factual, objective data, or anecdotal evidence, is going to persuade you because this is a problem that exists in your emotional realm, not the factual one.

 

My best advice is to talk it over with your wife, explain to her how you are feeling, and allow her to give you some reassurances. Perhaps have her play with a dildo that is larger than you are and then watch as her vagina "magically" returns to its normal condition. You might even enjoy the show ?

 

However, I will note that a woman's body does change as she transitions through different stages of life. Post-menopause, it relatively common for a woman to experience increased vaginal tightness (and subsequent dryness) due to significant hormonal changes. These issues are fairly easy to remedy with a visit or two with a gynecologist. One of the common recommendations is simply to have more sex. Hooray! ?

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It's already been said, but I'll chime in with agreement...

 

I'm not a very big guy, and I've been with partners who had bigger partners, and also partners who have had multiple kids. 

 

Not only did the size of her other partners, or having had kids, not matter. I'd even say that in a roundabout way, it helps. From my side of the equation, the thing that seems to be the greatest deciding factor for "tightness" is her level of arousal. It may be that a woman who has been around for a few more years and experienced a few more things, is capable of becoming more aroused, simply because she's less insecure and more comfortable.  

 

...which also leads indirectly to an obvious "insurance policy" for any guys that aren't packing a massive personality... be sure that you're a generous lover, taking the time to get her as turned on as possible. It may be fun for her, but I promise that you'll benefit as well. 

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The things people believe regardless of actual reality.  I do not think anything we say here from personal experience will change your concerns.  As men are different so are women in every respect.  I would say to read and educate yourself with actual science, physiological facts……but I image the next porno or sex story you read/see would weigh heavier on your mind.  Being the lifestyle for twenty plus years and an active participant in many group sex events there has never been any issue for men involved including myself not being able to enjoy a woman vaginally to climax no matter who was before or after….no matter the size of cock they had and that includes toys and women using strap ons.  
 

my suggestion would be to prove it to yourself purchase a safe well made dildo that is bigger then you in girth and length (modestly large, not a King Kong dick) and introduce it in to you and your lady’s play sessions.  Be a gentleman about it.  It is to heighten pleasure for you and her.  A vagina has the ability when sexually aroused to expand and contract to accommodate a wide variety of penis sizes.   

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There is no making her loose. That is a myth. After a gangbang, I tend to respond by closing up. The little lady downstairs is done and closed for business for a day or so!

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If on any particular occasion you need really tight, put it in her butt.

 

The women in our group, including my wife, do anal.  Given the choice, I much prefer a sloppy, well-fucked, loose pussy.

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My problem is that after a man has had his penis within the walls of my vagina, it comes out noticeably smaller than it went in, squeezed beyond its elastic limits, never to go back to its full size.  And his testicles are shrunken, withdrawn inside his body.

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15 hours ago, couplers said:

My problem is that after a man has had his penis within the walls of my vagina, it comes out noticeably smaller than it went in, squeezed beyond its elastic limits, never to go back to its full size.  And his testicles are shrunken, withdrawn inside his body.

My husband will say I’m Shrinnnnking after he cums and stays in me. Think he said it’s from a movie. If he’s in my mouth it’s fun when he shrinks and his balls tighten up and I get him bigger again. 

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11 minutes ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

it’s fun when he shrinks and his balls tighten up and I get him bigger again. 

Yes, indeed.  Daniela says that works better than Viagra.

 

And I love it under any circumstances when I'm totally flaccid and a woman takes my entire penis in her mouth, only to have my dick slowly outgrow it. 

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1 hour ago, Rock n Tits said:

problem was it kept pulling the rubber off so finally the just went bareback

That's not a problem, it's an advantage.

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19 hours ago, Rock n Tits said:

the just went bareback

Did you follow up with sloppy seconds?

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5 hours ago, Rock n Tits said:

No his wife was doing clean up lol

 In our group, one of the wives cleans up after sloppy seconds. 

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A study in the UK I've seen, only 15% of mothers that gave birth vaginally self reported some vaginal looseness (or change) still 18 months after childbirth.   Otherwise, there's rarely a permanent change.  ~ 85% are not feeling looser after vaginal birth.

 

Regarding bigger toys or cocks, my ex did feel a bit looser after bigger dildos, but only for about 30 mins or so.  

 

I've read over many large dildo discussions online, and I think the ones that use very large toys say the same, looseness is only right after, and slowly the looseness disappears over the next hour or so.   I'm talking about 8" to 11" girth dildos being used.  That's huge compared to actual penis sizes.

 

If they are looser 5 mins after a really thick penis, the front and rear wall of the vagina collapse on each other, and that will still give enough friction to an average or small size penis for orgasm, especially if there is not excessive lubrication.

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21 hours ago, GoNatural said:

 

If they are looser .., especially if there is not excessive lubrication.

Loose and sloppy seconds excessive lube have challenged me and given the most intense orgasms.  God, I love that slut, another man's wife.

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