Home or Hotel - Preferred Place to Play

[bear_n_bunny 43]

One of my favorite things to do is to head off to a hotel room with Bear and go for it. It seems like hotel room sex is just wilder, over the top. I noticed when I was playing at the Resort this weekend, I was able to really let go.

 

While I have great fun when we play at our house, I am always aware that I'm in my childs room, or our bedroom or living room. You would think that would make me more relaxed, but it doesn't. I've only played once at someone elses home and noticed I felt a bit inhibited there as well. However, that might have been because I was so new. Or maybe it is just the fact that is home, and swinging is non-traditional.

 

So here is the question, do you prefer to play at home, or in someone elses home, or a hotel/motel.

 

-- Bunny

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house.

[b_and_sc 16]

Although I PREFER a hotel...you are very right about it allowing for more freedom and being uninhibited We have hosted and been hosted at homes while kids were sleeping. Although play time wasn't until the kids were asleep for HOURS, you can't NOT forget they are there and it does make it difficult to get wild

 

'b' likes to make noise

 

 

b

[fun_pairTX 26]

Hotel, I'll let someone else clean it up.

[bear_n_bunny 43]

Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house.

 

No, never kids. Not sleeping kids, or awake kids on the same block. Unless they are the under 2 year old variety which is still an inhibitor. I like out of town at Aunt's house kids. That is where my daughter is if we play at our house. We do set up her room for play when we have couples over. I don't think I could even sneak a pat on the ass with the children around.

 

-- Bunny

[bear_n_bunny 43]

Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house.

 

Where in the Wide, Wide World of Sports did you get the idea that she was talking about playing with kids around? That is so over the top as to be beyond belief...

 

Haven't any of you all ever been to a house party, or even a small get-together at someone's house before? Every single one I've ever been to has used every available bedroom, and if the host/hostess had kids, that included the kid's bedrooms as well. There's nothing at all unusual or wrong with that. (Although sometimes two adults fucking on a twin bed can be a bit of a pain, but you use what you have... )

 

Now, what Bunny said was "While I have great fun when we play at our house, I am always aware that I'm in my childs room, or our bedroom or living room." That's making one helluva leap from this to "We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping." And you can bet your boots that we would never do anything so idiotic as having people over to swing while the kid(s) were at home either.

 

This is what is known as "jumping to confusions". Sheesh...

 

-- Bear

[SluttyWife 17]

"Hotwives and hotels go together."

I saw this on a porn site the other day, I swear...

 

I find absolute truth to that statement, particularly

if we are getting together with another man.

It's such a turn-on to get out of yourself for a short while

and a hotel is as neutral a place you could be and do just that.

I cannot count the number of times I've just totally surrendered

to the situation and the devil woman came right out of me!

 

I must admit, I do have a penchant for four and five star hotels but sometimes there's nothing like a get down to it,

Slutty Wife man-pleasing, knees-to-the-floor, lick-o-rama at the

Holiday Inn.

 

 

Now as far as my escapades with women go... I far prefer a little slumber party at home with my bestest grrlfriends. It's just so much more cozy and intimate than we could ever get in a hotel room and we can do grrl things, sip as much champagne as we like and raid the fridge at midnight.

How conveeenient!

 

If it's just my Knight and me or the FFM threesome a weekend away somewhere scenic or plush is the only way we can see doing it.

 

Kudos to you! Great question...I am eager to hear everyone else's take on this.

 

;-*

 

Slutty Wife

[bear_n_bunny 43]

The slutty side of me wants to get away to some XXX motel that has theme rooms, mirrors on the ceiling and 24 hour porn on the TV. Or course it would have to be absolutely clean, suburban sleaze if you will.

 

-- Bunny

[2neophytes 16]

I like doing it outside! In the swimming pool at a Hotel. I sued to sneak into apartment complexes and have sex in their swimming pools.

 

2N

[DandS 15]

I prefer home, I'm more comfortable there. Part of it is probably that I love to cook, entertain and host.

 

Of course we have the advantage of being empty nesters (daughter is 22) giving us the freedom to move about the house as we like...hot tub on the deck...pool table in the basement...

 

I love empty nesting!!

 

Mrs DandS

[Vjklander 138]

For small groups, we like a hotel room with an in-room hot tub and a king bed.

J R

[gsu22 187]

The few times I've played its been in a house b/c the couple prefered it but I'd have to agree with sluttywife and say that sometimes getting down and dirty at the Holiday Inn can be exciting. Then again, I wouldn't turn down a four/five star hotel either.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Posted by Bear:

Where in the Wide, Wide World of Sports did you get the idea that she was talking about playing with kids around? That is so over the top as to be beyond belief...

 

Bear why dont you relax a bit.

 

I simply answered the question as to where we prefer to swing and why.

 

We prefer hotel/motel because we have kids at home.

 

I also stated that we would not want to swing at someone elses house who had children at home.

 

Meaning if we went to a couples house to swing and found out there were children there we would leave or at least not swing.

 

No where in my post did I suggest that bunny was swinging with kids in the house.

If that is what you got out of my post you completely misunderstood it.

 

 

This is what is known as "jumping to confusions". Sheesh...

 

Ya think??

 

Seems like that is exactly what happened here. Except I wasnt doing the jumping.

[Brit_Pair 62]

We've certainly felt more relaxed when we've played somewhere other than at our own home. In fact, our most rewarding encounter was at a neutral venue, so I guess that puts us in the 'hotel' corner. And there is something decadent about hiring a place in which to satisfy your fleshier urges, which adds to the experience.

 

(One thing we've noticed is that a good many of the raunchier photos used on UK contact sites look as though they were taken in hotel/motel rooms. Handing over your credit card to a hotel receptionist is evidently an inhibition remover in more ways than one.)

[bear_n_bunny 43]

Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Posted by Bear:

 

 

Bear why dont you relax a bit.

 

I simply answered the question as to where we prefer to swing and why.

 

We prefer hotel/motel because we have kids at home.

 

I also stated that we would not want to swing at someone elses house who had children at home.

 

Meaning if we went to a couples house to swing and found out there were children there we would leave or at least not swing.

 

No where in my post did I suggest that bunny was swinging with kids in the house.

If that is what you got out of my post you completely misunderstood it.

 

 

 

 

Ya think??

 

Seems like that is exactly what happened here. Except I wasnt doing the jumping.

 

BZZZT! Wrong answer, Ace. I didn't minsunderstand a damn thing. On the other hand, you most assuredly did, based on your earlier post, and now you are boucing off the walls trying to obscure that fact.

 

Oh, and I am very relaxed, as you will presently see (although I suggest you go take a Valium or a shot of Jack Daniels before reading further...

 

Here is what my darling Bunny posted:

 

"One of my favorite things to do is to head off to a hotel room with Bear and go for it. It seems like hotel room sex is just wilder, over the top. I noticed when I was playing at the Resort this weekend, I was able to really let go.

 

While I have great fun when we play at our house, I am always aware that I'm in my childs room, or our bedroom or living room. You would think that would make me more relaxed, but it doesn't. I've only played once at someone elses home and noticed I felt a bit inhibited there as well. However, that might have been because I was so new. Or maybe it is just the fact that is home, and swinging is non-traditional.

 

So here is the question, do you prefer to play at home, or in someone elses home, or a hotel/motel."

 

And here is what you posted in response:

 

"Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house."

 

Now, you are invited to show where Bunny said ANYTHING about children. At one point she mentions the "child's room", along with "our bedroom or living room", but that is all. Indeed, the SOLE ISSUE of her post (which you can discern if you read the other responses in this thread) was whether people found having sex in a hotel room to be more fun and exciting than doing it at home.

 

Yet you felt the need to mention, not ONCE but TWICE, and in an very short post, the truly outlandish issue of children being present in the home while swinging is taking place; that you would not swing "with kids in bed sleeping", and that you would not feel "comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house".

 

Why?

 

There are only two possible conclusions that can be drawn, based on your OWN words. Either you saw her reference to playing in the "child's room", and somehow came to the downright silly conclusion that she was speaking of playing in that room while a kid was in there sleeping (I would not even want to be on the same fucking planet with someone as stupid and selfish as to do such a thing as swing with kids in the house),

 

or...

 

You decided, for reasons known only to you, to pull right out of your ass a topic that is totally and completely irrelevent to the subject of this thread.

 

Now which was it?...

 

And now a word of advice, since you look to be rather new around here; the swingersboard.com landscape is littered with the logical carcasses of those who have dared to cross brains with The Bear, with yours being the latest addition. My BTQ (thats Bullshit Tolerance Quotient) is very low at the best of times, and is downright at rock bottom where my wife is concerned. You have been warned...

 

-- Bear

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Actually Bear, I think you did misread their post. I know that when I initially read it I didn't take it as anything towards you but a comment that they would not swing at home when kids were around or at someone else's house when kids were around. And I think that you are the only person here who read this and did take it as an attack on you.

 

Chill out and perhaps even apologize.

 

Don't be so defensive, everyone isn't out to attack you.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Once again ,

I just answered the question as to why we prefer a hotel/motel rather than our home.

 

 

My post was not in response to what Mrs Bunny wrote. It was in response to the title of the thread itself.

 

 

I can see there is no convincing you otherwise.

 

So be it.

 

I can live with that.

[hotcpl4unfla 19]

We'd have to go with the hotel. It's nice being able to play at our home once in a while (when the kids are away), but we prefer the hotel. It adds to the whole "taboo" thing... the last time we played with a couple at a hotel, we had the music up too loud late at night, and while we were all pounding away naked in the room , the hotel manager knocked at the door and told us to turn it down. The wife loved that; it made her feel like she was being naughty...if the manager only knew what we were doing in there!

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

BEAR-

 

edited since I have too much class.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've read posts you've responded to and have thought they were personal attacks on more than one occasion.

 

That could be the only reason you would think Mr. would do that to you.

 

I have way too much class to say any more on the issue.

 

Oh-maybe 1

 

 

edit

[bear_n_bunny 43]

I’m afraid all this is my fault. When I read Mr. and Mrs. Naughty’s reply I was a bit hurt. While there is no direct connect between my original topic, where do you like to play; hotel or home, and theirs, uncomfortable playing with children around, I did feel it was implied. The very thought that anyone would think I would play with children in the home, let alone in the same room upset me. Clearly, no one else felt that leap implied anything except Bear and I. Or if they did, they choose not to say anything.

 

While Bear’s style of posting maybe considered combative, it is simple the fact that if he has an opinion, he feels strongly about. This passion is one of the things I love most about him. No, it does not endear him to most people, but I can guarantee you he doesn’t express himself without a great deal of thought before hand. This is not something I can say for all the posters on this, or any board.

 

This is reason I doubt very much there is an apology forth coming from Bear. You’ve made it clear his insights are no longer welcome on this board. I think in the long run you will find this to be your loss. While my loss won’t be as missed, I would never go where my Bear was unwelcome.

 

Which is a shame; I greatly enjoy this board and have recommended it to many people, particularly those just thinking about the lifestyle. Bear and I have enjoyed posting here since we first considered entering the swinging. We’ve enjoyed the people that we have met, in person and on line. We enjoyed the different perspectives whether we’ve agreed with them or not. And believe me, I am one of those that does not always agree with Bear. So it is with great sadness I wish you all the best.

 

-- Bunny

[OhioCouple 41]

Let's break this down here:

 

The Question, posed by Bunny:

So here is the question, do you prefer to play at home, or in someone elses home, or a hotel/motel.

The Respnse to the question by Mr. Naughty:

Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house.

I fail to see how this is in any way an attack to your original posting. Mr. Naughty expressed why they prefer a Hotel/Motel. Maybe they have kids, I don't know, maybe they and the folks they know all have children. Maybe they have been asked to play in a home where children are present? Who knows? I would have gone on that line of thinking long before I would have taken it as a personal attack. Basically what you have here is the reason why THEY prefer a Hotel/Motel. If you were only seeking an either/or answer and no reasoning why...then a poll would have been much simpler option giving little or no feedback.

 

However you posed it as a discussion topic, in which you gave your opinions on how much more relaxed you seem to be when you play away from the house or others homes, in turn prompting others to say more about why the prefer WHAT---they prefer.

 

I'm sorry Bear and Bunny, but I disagree that no apology is warranted. This thread headed south for absolutely no justifiable reason, in print, in this thread.

 

My .02 worth

[bear_n_bunny 43]

I told Julie last night that I would not post for a while, but after seeing some of the nonsense subsequent to that, one last explanation is warranted, after which I will never post here again.

 

Here is what Bunny said:

 

*****

One of my favorite things to do is to head off to a hotel room with Bear and go for it. It seems like hotel room sex is just wilder, over the top. I noticed when I was playing at the Resort this weekend, I was able to really let go.

 

While I have great fun when we play at our house, I am always aware that I'm in my childs room, or our bedroom or living room. You would think that would make me more relaxed, but it doesn't. I've only played once at someone elses home and noticed I felt a bit inhibited there as well. However, that might have been because I was so new. Or maybe it is just the fact that is home, and swinging is non-traditional.

 

So here is the question, do you prefer to play at home, or in someone elses home, or a hotel/motel.

*****

 

And here is that the prodigal son of Wichita Falls said:

 

*****

Hotel/Motel or someone elses place where there are not children. We would never have anyone over our place to swing with kids in bed sleeping.

 

We wouldnt feel comfortable in someone elses house either if they had kids in the house.

*****

 

Now, if you actually READ what Bunny wrote, you are invited to explain how one gets from "do you find swinging sex in a hotel more exciting than swinging sex at home", to "we won't play when there are children around", mentioned not once, not twice, but THREE times in a three sentence post.

 

As far as the very notion of swinging with kids around is concerned, our feelings are along the lines of "Well, DUH! Ya think?".

 

Just as an aside, our position is that swinging with kids around is just a notch or two below pedophilia, and anyone who would do such a thing should be taken out and horsewhipped. Indeed, we have never even heard of such a thing happening in the lifestyle.

 

And to say that one should not play with kids around is such a blinding statement of the obvious as to be totally beyond belief, never mind that the topic she brought up in no way related to such a concept in the first place.

 

I pointed this out to him; he got pissy and defensive, and so I gave him a much-deserved bitch-slap, because aside from the downright insulting implication he was making (and his "explanation" for having spouted such nonsense was as limp as a six-inch piece of wet string), the sort of "leap" he made indicates some downright scary thought processes, or the individual is an idiot of the first magnitude, take your pick.

 

And if it's still not clear to you all by now, let me spell it out for you; say what you want about me (I've been reamed by professionals; you all are rank amateurs), but you disrespect my woman at your peril. And "Mr. Naughty" has the 14 freshly-torn new assholes to prove it.

 

And apologize? When hell freezes over, or after Goober Boy up in the Falls sincerely apologizes to my wife, take your pick, neither of which is going to happen any time soon.

 

Now, unlike some, I do have the balls to apologize, if an apology is warranted. Only problem is, no one, not Julie, not Ohio Couple, nor anyone else has presented a case that justifies an apology from me to anyone. A lot of whining and misdirection, yes, but no justification.

 

So be it.

 

Goodbye and have a nice life.

[Alura 2,775]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny

You’ve made it clear his insights are no longer welcome on this board.

I, for one, have enjoyed Bear's insights, Bunny. Often he makes a lot of sense. The thing that is not enjoyed, in my case, is Bear's personal insults and attacks on those whose opinions differ from his. Too often, he makes his point, then adds (essentially) that folks are stupid for disagreeing with him. If he would just leave off the latter part, there would be no problem. Passion is no excuse when the posts become downright threatening. That is why this situation is Bear's fault, not yours.

 

I think in the long run you will find this to be your loss.

I've no doubt of this. It's always sad to lose a board member who has contributed over four hundred posts, most of them assets to the board.

 

While my loss won’t be as missed, I would never go where my Bear was unwelcome.

 

-- Bunny

 

Your loss will be missed just as much, if not more, than Bear's. While you haven't been as prolific, your thoughts have been expressed in a positive way without insulting anyone. That 's what is expected on this board and what sets it apart from the majority of boards on the internet.

 

I suppose you'll never read this and that, too, is a pity.

 

Mr. Alura

[OhioCouple 41]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny

Goodbye and have a nice life.

We shall and best wishes to both of you.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Bunny,

 

It's really too bad that you got caught in the midst of this. Your loss will be missed much more than Bears from the looks of things. You actually added something to this board without constantly attacking it's members. Not to say that Bear did not as well. It just seems that lately if you don't agree with Bear you will be attacked, personally attacked.

 

It is possible to disagree with people without actually attacking the people involved.... it happens here all the time.

 

Calling people names and constantly attacking them for their opinions do not fit into those guidelines now do they? As I told your husband via PM I have no intention of punishing you for his actions. But since he refuses to live up to his word of leaving until he can return here and act like an adult instead of insulting and flaming every single person that he feels disagrees with him (which I think is pretty much everyone by Bear's book) then if he returns I will be forced to remove you both.

[tazzie_n_truck 17]

With us where we swing dosn't matter as long as the kids are not around. We have entertained here in our home when we have had a couple over, we have met at their home, and even in a hotel. Any place is fine with us as long as the kids are not around.

 

[TerryforSex 14]

never mix swinging at home. always to a motel otel

[subtoMistressT 22]

Hotels are so much easier. We have played at home and in others before and we always felt like you had to be more careful. Prying neighbors, family, or worse case kids could drop by at unexpected moments. The farther away from home the better for us.

[bill&sabrina 22]

Thank you Mr. Naughty!

[todesireu 16]

We we started swinging it was always at a hotel. Now that we are empty nesters, we can play at home.

j+d facelick

[SuAndBud 23]

A hotel is best but not always convenient.

 

We've hosted and been hosted and maybe it's just us, but we try to hide all evidence of our kids and feel guilty, somehow, when we see evidence of other's kids.

 

When we host, our kid's bedrooms are completely AREA 51. You will be arrested at best and shot at worst if you dare cross that line. We always gently but firmly make this clear beforehand.

 

There's plenty of other places to play in (and if there aren't, invent a few).

 

Our kid's rooms are sacrosanct (even the eldest's who has spent the majority of the last two years living on campus at Uni).

 

Have a feeling that even after they've all flown the nest, the memories of our kids in their own sanctuaries are too special to risk overshadowing with memories of ourselves &/or others copulating there.

 

Neither could we fuck in someone else's nursery or child's or teenager's private space, even if invited.

 

A hotel (especially adjoining rooms so there's more than one bathroom) has got to be preferred for so many reasons (not the least of which is being able to more easily escape from the scene if matters dictate - which they haven't yet, but you never know).

 

Just our thoughts. Whatever works for you guys is cool, but hotels get a thumbs up and kid's space a thumbs down from us.

[sexychoclit 32]

If I am comfortable with a couple I don't have a problem playing at their home but do agree that it is more restricting if the couple has children that still live at home.

 

I enjoy playing at a club, hotel or my own home because I can make as much noise as I like.

[bill&sabrina 22]

Just our thoughts. Whatever works for you guys is cool, but hotels get a thumbs up and kid's space a thumbs down from us.

 

Be careful, the Bear might come out of hiding, to rip you 14 new ones.

[SuAndBud 23]

Be careful, the Bear might come out of hiding, to rip you 14 new ones.

 

We'd say LOL (if the thought of that weren't so scary).

[cubnamy1995 124]

Cubby's opinion:

 

Wow! Whole lotta' drama goin on here! We very seldom play at our own house, and even when we do, the kids are never home. I like the idea of playing at home if it is an intimate deal (like a threesome), but any more than that, and I'd like to change venues. The reason has nothing to do with sex. It's just a funny thing about me.

 

For whatever reason, I just never have been big on having a bunch of people at my house. Even for vanilla stuff. Maybe it's because we have a small house. I don't know. I just feel uncomfortable in my own house, and there isn't much good about that feeling. Amy gets ill because we can never even have vanilla dinner parties.

 

I'm better about this than I used to be, but if we are having a larger get togther, I'd rather have a neutral site like a hotel.

 

Amy's opinion:

 

I have played in my own home and at other people's homes in a more intimate setting (threesomes), but personally prefer a hotel for the sheer fact that we have three very messy boys, and do not want to spend two days worth of disinfecting and cleaning for two hours of great sex. Let the maids and the room service staff do what they get paid for and that is half of the foreplay for me.

 

Not to mention, it's a real mood killer when reaching for a dildo and inadvertently picking up a power ranger figure instead.

[Swing*8701 887]

Susan here-- We don't have kids, so home can be a great place for us as I'm very comfortable there. However, we are financially well off and a suite at a five star hotel with room service is a wonderful indulgence. I have noticed that other couples can have more fun in a neutral place like an elite hotel. Also, when you're in the suite you pretty much know you're there to fuck.