Mixing work with pleasure

[mediccouple 45]

So background to this my partner and i both work 12 hours shifts together. Just him and i on an ambulance 3 times a week. We share a small "house" for a station and we eat 3 meals a day together on shift. Its almost like a second life if you will. He is younger than me and very attractive. Dark hair and eyes and very much so muscular with a fun loving personality. As with most partners you become friends and your family become friends also. He had been to parties and knew my husband as i knew his sister and brother. As time went on i found myself wanting him more and more. Almost like an urge i couldnt take care of without actually having him. I slowly started to tell him about the lifestyle and eventually told him about my husband and I's set up if you will and how we do things. One night after dark when no one would know i decided to make my move. i had taken a shower when i entered the common area draped in a towel. I ask him if he could bring my clothes from my room. As instructed he entered the bathroom to find me completely naked, he started to leave as i asked him to come in and sit down. we chatted a bit as if nothing was abnormal. then he stood up and started to leave as i came onto him. rubbing his chest and exploring his tight muscular body. Within minutes we were naked on the couch in our living area as i was on my knees pleasing him. I spent 2 hours with him cumming over and over... It was almost addictive but on a pure sexual level. After our fun was over we retired to our own rooms.... this has now happened a few times with each one being a new adventure. It makes me so happy to have found this lifestyle and to have such understanding people to help us along the way!!!

[Anon321 524]

We've mixed pleasure with work many times with no regrets so far most notably my GF's ongoing sexual relationship with her boss (and now recently with a new guy at her job as well).  I can certainly understand some people's hesitation on taking that dive but it has been a blast for us so far.

[mediccouple 45]

it was definitely alot of fun and makes the day at work go by so much more quick

[Anon321 524]

4 minutes ago, mediccouple said:

it was definitely alot of fun and makes the day at work go by so much more quick

That's how my GF thinks about it.  For her it's fun and exciting to get down and dirty at work.  There are obvious risks involved that you have to weigh.  I am not as open about those activities in my work place as my GF is.  That's not to say that I haven't had fun but not nearly the same as she does.

[njbm 2,901]

David Bowie’s song Cat People: I’m putting out the fire…with gasoline. 
Exciting but dangerous. 

[kittyswinger 261]

I have a boss and we have this mutual sexual tension for years.  He is married.  I'm in a poly V.  I know payroll and sx should not be mixed but I want to get over with this feeling.  If I dive in, will this be an ongoing thing or a one time play?    For those with experience on this,  how can this be navigated safely?

[njbm 2,901]

1 hour ago, kittyswinger said:

I have a boss and we have this mutual sexual tension for years.  He is married.  I'm in a poly V.  I know payroll and sx should not be mixed but I want to get over with this feeling.  If I dive in, will this be an ongoing thing or a one time play?    For those with experience on this,  how can this be navigated safely?

No. Proceed with your job and ego at risk. I am a cautious sort. You can fantasize about it in the shower to your heart’s content, no foul, no harm. 

[PeterJ 960]

In the course of a long career I had two office flings, both with substantially younger women who reported to me. One instance was an alcohol-fueled one-off. We are friends to this day. The other, the young women having given notice that she was leaving to go back to school, seduced me. Our affair went on for a couple of months and eventually ended in a fashion that seemed to me amicable. She soon married her boyfriend. Decades later she found me on Facebook. She was embittered. Friended me and then blocked me. I carry a little sadness about that latter one. That’s really the only unhappy consequence I suffered. I was lucky.

 

One of my colleagues a few years ago wasn’t so lucky. A senior manager at the US arm of a universally know global company, this woman had a secret sexual relationship with her secretary. Unwisely, she kept a photo folder of their frolics on her company computer. It was found by an IT guy servicing her machine. Apparently he thought it would be nice to join in, and threatened to out her if she didn’t comply. She turned him in to HR and he was summarily fired. Then she got called on the carpet, reminded that it was strictly against company policy to boff anyone who worked under you in the chain of command. My understanding is that she was permitted to resign. And of course everyone found out about it. She was actually pretty lucky. She had to switch industries, but I see her posts on Facebook and she seems to be doing fine.

 

As others have noted, inter office sex can be fun, but these days it often carries with it career-ending risks. Of course perhaps the illicit nature of the relationship is what makes the sex so much fun. 
 

 

 

[Numex 2,459]

We all hear about the office sexual and romantic relationships that go wrong, but not the ones that don't. 

 

Actually, I know of a few that either ended in marriage, or just ended with no adverse consequences. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Just to clarify: your husband knew and knows about this and has given his approval?

[kittyswinger 261]

On 7/21/2021 at 1:32 AM, njbm said:

No. Proceed with your job and ego at risk. I am a cautious sort. You can fantasize about it in the shower to your heart’s content, no foul, no harm. 

Thanks.  I will put that in mind.   That's the reason I'm not acting on it for so long.

[kittyswinger 261]

On 7/21/2021 at 3:27 AM, PeterJ said:

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As others have noted, inter office sex can be fun, but these days it often carries with it career-ending risks. Of course perhaps the illicit nature of the relationship is what makes the sex so much fun.

 

How it can possibly end is the problem.  There is no guarantee that it will be a one-off thing.

[Numex 2,459]

On 7/20/2021 at 7:32 PM, njbm said:

You can fantasize about it in the shower to your heart’s content

The shower?  ?  My wife and I fantasize to one another about the objects of our desires (she has more because it's both men and women) as foreplay and while we're having sex.  That was our gateway to swinging - talking about who we previously enjoyed fucking (although being married I had much more sex, Daniela had far more different partners, which gives her better stories).

 

We started swinging by hotwifing with exes she told me she would like to do again.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Just to clarify: your husband knew and knows about this and has given his approval?

 

Personally, we think that this is a VERY BAD idea...that you spend so much time with this person in a private setting. This is the path to developing feelings towards each other (or at least one of you developing feelings). If this happens, then what...you quit your job? I just don't see very many paths that don't lead to trouble here, but I could be wrong. We seriously wish you good luck, hoping that you won't be needing it.

[AndrewandAnn 360]

On 7/21/2021 at 8:12 AM, Numex said:

We all hear about the office sexual and romantic relationships that go wrong, but not the ones that don't. 

 

Actually, I know of a few that either ended in marriage, or just ended with no adverse consequences. 

Firstly, we have to define the nature of the relationships to which we are referring:

 

Are we referring to inter-office swingers? Married people having an affair? Or two single co-workers falling in love? Those are three very different kinds of relationships that usually lead to very different outcomes.

 

The first two, upon discovery by management, will almost always end in termination for the parties involved--as they should. Nothing will screw up a work environment faster than illicit sexual relationships between co-workers. It is inherently destructive to team cohesion and workplace morale. 

 

 

 

 

[AndrewandAnn 360]

On 7/20/2021 at 7:38 PM, kittyswinger said:

I have a boss and we have this mutual sexual tension for years.  He is married.  I'm in a poly V.  I know payroll and sx should not be mixed but I want to get over with this feeling.  If I dive in, will this be an ongoing thing or a one time play?    For those with experience on this,  how can this be navigated safely?

"Diving in" is an awful idea. There is no way to navigate it safely. Your boss is married. Eventually, his/her spouse will find out. And it will end badly, for you and your boss.

[Alura 2,775]

I once took an attractive co-worker to dinner. I shared meals with her for the next thirty years. If anybody in the company had objected we'd have ridden into the sunset together. Nobody did.

 

[mediccouple 45]

2 hours ago, AndrewandAnn said:

"Diving in" is an awful idea. There is no way to navigate it safely. Your boss is married. Eventually, his/her spouse will find out. And it will end badly, for you and your boss.

He isnt my boss its my partner at work

[Fitlakecouple 451]

31 minutes ago, mediccouple said:

He isnt my boss its my partner at work

That reply was to "Kitty" not Mediccouple...

[mediccouple 45]

29 minutes ago, Fitlakecouple said:

That reply was to "Kitty" not Mediccouple...

oh sorry didnt realize that my bad

[Funmom 45]

Yes a while ago I worked at Sonic and had these two co-workers always flirting with me. I told my husband about it and he encouraged me to go further. One night I told my husband that I was going to flirt hard back and see what happens and he said to let him know and pretend that I'm cheating on him. Use 3 where closing that night and so at end of night my husband was outside waiting for me to come out and I was inside fucking both of them. 

Edited November 10, 2021 by Funmom
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