Wife wants woman or more Part 2

[Beetz 16]

Consider with my web log of our first swinger experience.

 

I have a previous post with a similar title. We are two weeks away from our mexico vacation and previously had I brought it to my wife's attention that I would like to try the lifestyle. I know she has been with women sexually before she met me and I know she would like to be again. I want to see her get fucked by another person. I love my wife and I think she is beyond beautiful, smart, and sexy. She is my dream milf.

 Recently during sex we have been describing what we want other people to do to us. Touching, sucking, fucking, tasting, ect, and it is so fucking hot. I have never left a load like that before.

 I have always been a ladies man. I could line them up and lay them down all day every day with the best of them. Tall, dark hair, blue eyes, smooth talker, it a curse really. Lol. Of course that was all before settling down 10 years ago.

 With that being said, I think for me it's missing the "hunt" or thrill of finding that person to take home, to feel and maybe try something new but in a weird way, finding that for her. I want to watch her face as she cuming all over his cock or watch her chin dripping after pleasing another woman. Her pleasure gives me pleasure. I personally think I'm ready for anything as in mmf, ffm, hard or soft swap, maybe even a little bit curious myself.

 I am beyond excited and hopeful that we can make something happen while on vacation but also am not going to be pushy. I want her to be 100% comfortable and to have fun. Like I told her, this could be out adventure together. Our they'll to hunt and explore together. My wife does not know I am posting on this swinger board but I thought about leting her read everything on our flight to Mexico.

 My only concern is my wife can be shy and not as outgoing or is as quick it jump into something as adventurous as this, as I am. I have always been one to jump right in to where she is a more thorough thinker.

 I am very hopeful that we could possibly have our first experience in Mexico while on the resort for out 7 day stay.

 So when my wife does read this, what is something you would tell her?

 

Where did you and your spouse have your first experience at?

 

Who's idea was it. You or your spouse?

 

What was it like?

 

How did your spouse feel when you brought it up or throughout the experience?

 

What are some new things you have tried that you might not have tried, before being in the lifestyle?

 

Give us some reading material! Thanks!

 

[Beetz 16]

Sorry for some of the misspelling. I wrote this late at night and was a little tired.

[MrandMrsAgf 14]

I will be following this as we head to Mexico in December and are thinking about the same….

[Beetz 16]

*update* 

 

 Again this morning, we made love while describing things to each other. I did tell her and showed her the topics I have been posting. She was intrigued but had her hesitations about the lifestyle. I would assume her hesitations are as most coming into the lifestyle. The what if's. Things like what if one of use gets jealous, what if it leads to one of use wanting something the other does not, could it compromise our marriage? Like I stated before in a previous post  we have talked about it privately but now that I am pursuing it more, she is diving into the pros and cons. It's not that I don't think she doesn't want to, she would just never want to put us in a situation that could bring problems to our marriage. I assured her that I understand the risks, her concerns and what if's. I assured her that it is not a race or necessity and we could start out slow and she can have full lead on the situation. If one of us is uncomfortable, we simply apologize and step out. And if we are doing it right the other couple or person should be comfortable enough to understand we are first timers. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

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She was intrigued but had her hesitations about the lifestyle.

We no longer have many HARD rules, but we do still have a few. One of them is NEVER move faster than the slowest member is comfortable with. A closely related rule is never take one for the team. If one of us says no (or isn't interested), then we BOTH say no or take a pass. DO NOT drag her into this unless SHE is 100% on board. If she is hesitating, it's because something is wrong. It might be with your relationship ( is your love/trust/communication as good as it can possibly be?) or it could be that she just isn't 'wired' for this (and most people aren't). If everything isn't as good as it could be, then it can absolutely compromise your marriage. Until SHE is on board, you should let her know that you are going to take the pressure off of her and let her come to terms with the idea. Yes, it is a Pandora's Box that cannot be unclosed so you want to take as much time as it takes for her to be okay with it (and that includes the possibility that she might NEVER be okay with it). Both the Ms. and I are people who like to analyze things (I should say 'over-analyze' things...we put the anal into analyze ), but we still got here. Stop pushing so hard now and let her know it's in her hands, pushing is what will cause the problems.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Now to actually answer your other questions:

 

Where did you and your spouse have your first experience at?

 

Locally with another couple we met online

 

Who's idea was it. You or your spouse?

 

I still don't believe it but it was Ms. Golds idea. She had tried it with her ex at his request in an attempt to save their failing marriage (it obviously didn't work), but it was still something that interested her. When we were talking about past sexual experiences and fantasies, she brought it up and said she wouldn't mind trying it again, only in a positive relationship instead of a dying one.

 

What was it like?

 

Ehh. It was just okay...j/k. It was unbelievable and it continues to be that every day. That we can share something like this, together, and be able to know that it is acceptable (as long as we do it together without secrets and with complete trust) is almost mind blowing. That we can share our fantasies and help make them come true for our partner... it's like being in heaven.

 

How did your spouse feel when you brought it up or throughout the experience?

 

While we both agree that we could have done without this, and if it were to end today it would be completely okay with both of us, it has added that little bit of seasoning that has taken our relationship over the top. Every day I thank whatever power that may be for giving me someone who I can tell anything and everything to and not worry about their reaction. It's something that you don't know you are missing until after you have found it.

 

What are some new things you have tried that you might not have tried, before being in the lifestyle?

 

Anything than involves more than two people.

[couplers 4,639]

On 8/21/2021 at 12:05 AM, Beetz said:

Where did you and your spouse have your first experience at?

If it counts before being married (and if plain non-monogamy (with their knowledge) counts), I used to go back and forth between my fiancé David and my ex-fiancé Red at my place or theirs.  Our first MFM was at my place several months later.  If it needs to be after we were married, it was our wedding night in a hotel; David and I were going on an almost two week honeymoon, so Red and I celebrated and had a good sendoff.  

 

On 8/21/2021 at 12:05 AM, Beetz said:

Who's idea was it. You or your spouse?

It wasn't really an idea, my ex and I couldn't give each other up, so we kept seeing each other after we broke up and I moved out.  I met the guy who would become my husband and after a few dates, we started having sex.  He knew that I was still seeing Red and was OK with it, so that became my new world.  

 

On 8/21/2021 at 12:05 AM, Beetz said:

What was it like?

The arrangement made me feel powerful, in control, and loved.  Still does. 

 

On 8/21/2021 at 12:05 AM, Beetz said:

How did your spouse feel when you brought it up or throughout the experience?

He is happy for me and likes to see me enjoy myself, sexually and otherwise.  I later brought up the idea of him being with other women.  He was concerned about my feelings and was cautious.  I told him that I would recruit the women from my friends and acquaintances, it gave me a sense of control.  (A surprising number of women want to sleep with a married man, even more so if the wife is asking.)  Of course he loved it and I discovered my Lesbian side.

 

On 8/21/2021 at 12:05 AM, Beetz said:

What are some new things you have tried that you might not have tried, before being in the lifestyle?

Anal sex in my bum, Lesbian sex.

 

We have now settled into our poly family of two men and three women and a combination of children.  We have done some, but not a lot of traditional swinging with friends.

 

 

Edited August 23, 2021 by couplers