Returning to bliss... but nervous

[Marriedbbwqueen 1]

Hi, long time lurker here. I’m J, the female and T (who isn’t with me as I post) is hubby. 
 

We used to do some sharing/swinging when we were about 18 years younger than our now 40’s. We both fully enjoyed it all. Won’t go into all the details but for the majority of the time (all but 3 other times with a different guy each time) we played with the same guy. Once we found him, and we played together and got very comfortable with each other, so the sex was ridiculously amazing. He learned all my spots, and kinks just like my hubby did. Was almost like being with 2 of T we were all so in sync. Played more times as a threesome more times than I can even count during the year and a half we played. Got comfortable enough that he’d let T give him oral after he’s been in me (which is a HUGE turn on for us both). Well it eventually went south, and after that we haven’t played with another guy in the 18 years since then. 
 

Now my dilemma. We have been talking about doing it again for a while, getting hot and heavy into talking about it when watching porn and having sex. The feelings I used to enjoy, but shut out of my thoughts for years are ready for this. My only problem is, I’m much heavier than I was (and older lol) back then. T still loves me and my naked body, but I’m very self conscious of my fat. We’ve been chatting with our potential new friend for a couple weeks, and I’m extremely ready for this. But I’m worried he’ll be turned off by my body when we get together. Obviously we’ve sent him lots of pics, etc. and he seems to be into me, so I’m hoping I’m just really overthinking it. We are scheduled to meet up next weekend and the butterflies, and wetness are all starting to kick in. 

[HerSweetness 141]

I would say that the conversations need to happen when you’re not in the heat of things. The dynamic and intensity of the conversation may be a bit different and more objective when you’re both in the kitchen washing dishes. The main thing is just to talk to each other and be open about what you’ve been thinking about and fantasizing about during your intimate times. 

[Aikibobby 51]

I prefer bigger women. My wife is a bbw. We always make sure we send pics that show what we look like from head to toe. That way the person we are talking to can see what they get. You need to remember that a lot of guys prefer BBWs. One other thing we do that may make you feel more comfortable is we say in an email, “you know wife is a bbw correct”?  Just relax and y’all have fun as a couple. 

[couplers 4,652]

13 hours ago, Aikibobby said:

I prefer bigger women... You need to remember that a lot of guys prefer BBWs.

True.  People tell me politely that I have "the body of a model," which is a polite way of saying that I'm flat-chested and skinny-assed, but I do have some muscle, a six pack.  Just about all the guys prefer the more well endowed women, because from a primeval view it indicated that they were sexually mature and ready to have children.  It seems men (and certain women) are interested in my tits, there's not much, but they want to know what is exactly there.

Edited August 23, 2021 by couplers

[enhancer 1,585]

I don’t think you have anything to worry about as far as age and weight as a woman!  Many guys like extra curvy women including myself and age never seems to be an issue with the ladies. 
 

Guys on the other hand do have a lot harder luck in our experience when they are packing extra weight!  One of the reasons I stay on top of exercise and eating healthy daily.  Guys just don’t carry extra weight in a flattering weigh like many women do.  Considering you are looking for extra men for the wife it shouldn’t be a problem.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

So he's seen pictures of you and is still interested...just take it at face value. HE'S STILL INTERESTED. It's not always just about looks. Some of us strongly believe that the brain is the sexiest organ in the body...