I'd be the only one?

[Mjs005 0]

I'm a 36 year old combat veteran.  My current wife has 0 interest in the lifestyle but I feel like I'm missing something.  I've approached it several times with the same resounding NO. I know she has other partners and we have been together with her best friend as a 1 time thing. Is it realistic to approach it with only myself to offer? I know this sounds selfish but I've always enjoyed the anonymous aspect. Any suggestions would help. I'm currently in MS. Thank you

[lcmim 1,082]

With or without her knowledge and consent?

[couplers 4,640]

5 hours ago, Mjs005 said:

I know she has other partners 

These are current partners that she has?  If so, you're half way there - let her play and only ask that she tell you about it.  Eventually you will be allowed to watch, then participate, and some day play with women.  Patience, it took me two years of having a boyfriend with hubby's approval before I was comfortable, then eager for him to play.

 

5 hours ago, Mjs005 said:

we have been together with her best friend

Guy or woman?

 

It's my opinion that every woman wants to have sexual freedom to experience other men and perhaps women.  Social pressure labeling her a slut (other women are particularly bad at that) doesn't help.  You need to make her feel loved, appreciated, and sexually free.  Let her know that she is free to enjoy herself with no expectations on your part, and mean it.  She will catch on and you will ultimately get your reward.

Edited August 30, 2021 by couplers

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

If she is willing to give her consent (and she probably isn't) then go for it...knowing that you will have a tough path to follow. Single men in the L/S are EVERYWHERE and finding other couples/women is not easy to do just because of the abundance of men. We actually believe that swinging is a team sport and should always be done together. If she isn't interested, maybe you need to think of taking up a different hobby...since you enjoy swinging, maybe golf?  

[enhancer 1,585]

If she is giving you consent to do it then you can give it a try on your own!  Most people will want her to verify it though.

 Regardless you will be fighting an up hill battle on your own, because there are probably 100 guys to ever one couple looking for guys by themselves out there.  Many people like us do not play with attached guys on their own as well so there is that to to contend with.

 

 Also if you are doing this without her consent you can expect even less people to be interested, because cheating is not in anyway swinging.