First impressions?

[enhancer 1,585]

How important are online first impressions to you?  

[Billygoat 443]

For us, especially the first year or two and diffinately when we had our own gatherings/parties online was only a listing that a large percentage were false, most often single/solo guys.  Many were outdated (those that were but had since moved on further in the lifestyle or a banded it entirely but deleting the profile couldn’t or wouldn’t happen.  We treated them all as the window dressing they are meant to be.  Chatting on line was only a little bit better.

 

a phone conversation was always an eye opener.  If only the male would talk even stating the wife/girlfriend was shy or only wanted to talk sex…..especially hardcore sex without any social discussion were always red flags for us.

 

After a phone conversation or two we would set a social meet, usually for lunch or dinner.  And never for a non public meet or the possibility of any play being available.  Hard rule was we would part company after a social get together, each of us discussing about the other couple.  Later another phone call and another meet if all are interested that could lead to……
 

so with that we avoided any great disappointments, mismatches…..unsafe situations.   No awkward need to give excuses on why….or hurt feelings.    
 

we had another hard rule….no profile listing, no profile detail and some kind of photo……no initial contact from us.  We would respond to those who reached out to us.  And because of where we live we would not drive more than an hour to meet.

 

this worked for us for many years.  Now we attend one semi private house/club party only and meet anyone new there.

 

 

 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

There's never a second chance to make a first impression. Yes, it matters a great deal. 

[njbm 2,871]

Yes, if people start off on the wrong foot, we are unlikely to meet. It’s part of the vetting process. Some people are terrific, though.