Shaul.Kassia 21 Posted September 9, 2021 Our five golden rules: 1. The couple, specially the woman, decides who and what she should accept or not accept. 2. Condom is essential. 3. If the swingers partners are not close, avoid talking about politics, religion and other controversial topics.4.Lesbianism is allowed and welcome.5. Respect to all swingers. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,065 Posted September 10, 2021 How about always ask for permission before doing something and what we think is the absolute golden rule: No means no. At the same time, not answering does not mean yes. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,638 Posted September 11, 2021 Hubby has a rule for himself that made my journey into nonmonogamy comfortable and pleasurable - let your wife/partner decide whether she wants to talk about an experience, which aspects, and to what level of detail. Some couples have rules like, "You can fuck who you want, but I don't want to know about it," or "You can fuck who you want, but I want to hear every sexual detail," or "You can fuck who you want, but nothing emotional." Hubby always asks how I am doing, and lets me decide whether and what I want to talk about. Sometimes I just gave a one sentence reply, other times I wanted to babble on about the sexual or emotional aspects of what I had just done. Either way, he would listen, be empathetic, but never pressure me. This rule hubby has for himself was perfectly considerate towards me, so much that I didn't notice it except in retrospect. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
Shaul.Kassia 21 Posted September 10, 2022 (edited) In our opinion: the couples have their own rules, for us involvement in love affaire and exchanging phone numbers without the partners' knowledge is not recommended in swinging, a practice that should have frank and open attitudes as a norm. Edited September 10, 2022 by Shaul.Kassia Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,415 Posted September 11, 2022 (edited) On 9/11/2021 at 10:06 AM, couplers said: Hubby always asks how I am doing, and lets me decide whether and what I want to talk about. Sometimes I just gave a one sentence reply, other times I wanted to babble on about the sexual or emotional aspects of what I had just done. Either way, he would listen, be empathetic, but never pressure me. That is what I tried to be when we first started and still try to do. We play within a closed group and Daniela has a lot more alone play than I do, about which sometimes she talks and sometimes she doesn't. When she does talk after getting together, however, it usually isn't about the sex. There's a lot more going on with people in our group since we are all friends and it's more than just sex. Edited September 11, 2022 by Numex 1 Quote Share this post Link to post