PLEASE HELP ME QUICK i just openend up to my girl fiance about my biggest fantacy / dream (her with other guys) and specially bbc

[jarobhaor 0]

Hi, im new here and to this.

 

As i said i just openend up to my girl fiance about my biggest fantacy / dream (her with other guys) and specially bbc. i was so nervouse and thought she would think i was a perv or bad or anything. she said she was surprised but said it sounded kind of hot. she lives in uk i live in sweden. we then talked for a while about my fantasies and porn i watch and i told her i have known since i was young with my first girlfriend that i always dreamt of it. she then asked me if i wanted to see a video of her getting it on. i have never been more turned on or happy ever as when  i got those videos. im quite big so its not about for me not to be able to please her but she said she has a video were she gives head to the only guy bigger than me. i was so happy and i was blown away he was so much bigger than me and that turned me on so much. i am now obssesed with that video. she then said before our trip togheter to  greece (that i just came home from) that she havnt dared to ask if i want her to do it with a guy because she is scared i will change my mind but i then showed her first day on the trip how much it turned me on and that i had writen a fantasy about this bbc she was sucking. she then got so turned on and wisperd in my ear (i could meet him when i get home to the uk he loves fking me) i almost came because she tutched me. and i begged her badly to please do. this changed our sex life completly. we talked alot about what it is that turnes me on and stuff and my god the sex we had for the rest of the trip was unbelieveble. she knew exactly what to say at all time like how i wasnt as big as the bbc and i could never do what he did and really teased me so hard about im not like a real bbc man. i have never felt more sexually exited and in love. its like 10 years of denial finally came out. and she found out that really really turned her on and she want to do it so bad. days in to the trip she talkes about all the type of black guys she want to do it (and white ofc but my fetich kinda is bbc)  with and how she is gonna make me watch on facetime and make videos and if she knew the old videos was for this she would love it so much more too. and that she was a nasty slut who deserved real bbc and make me watch.  we watched some porn togheter and one week in things really gets heated. she is an 9/10 girl really hot with insane body she said she had made a tinder and told me she made it. i got so happy. she got 200 likes in like 2 hours. she could legit pick anyone she wanted. she started teasing me (look he looks big dont u think?) and stuff and i didnt look what they typed with the 20+ guys she started texting with but i was so exited and turned on that she was sexting with other guys. she shows me a really big black basketballplayer and is like i want him. i started to think about the times i read about doing sex meetups like that and i remember right its not optimal to do it with someone who isnt in to swingers or what u say. and we start talking. i tell her it would feel so much better if it was with someone she knowns (like this bbc she had video of i really want her with him) or someone from a site that is understod what this all means. we start talking about it would be hard to explain to them and stuff whats going on so i told her please be a hoe and sext with as many guys as you want on this trip but well figuer out a way to do this when your home? she said yes followed by im gonna fk ''op'' the guys name and im gonna facetime you and you gonna watch a real bbc streatching me out. at this point were 10 days in to the trip and she has escelated from shy to full blown crazy about this. she said i pleasure her alot but hes just way better. it got really heated i was so sexually on top and she said she is gonna talk to him. he responds with a snapchat of him stroking his bbc and she looked like an kid on christmas and was smiling like crazy and giggeling (babe THAT is why he will destroy me in ways you just cant i mean look its so fkn massive its like 11 inches how could i say know and to think hes hard for me rn wants me to wanna go to him right now so he can show you how a real bbc fucks a girl like me in ways you cant dream about doing cuz your just not man enough) im really at this point questioning if im dreaming its legit what ive always dreamt of the way she is acting. i tell her will he be down for facetime? she said she dont know but defenetly filming. one problem this bbc has had feelings for her earlier but they have been fk buddies for a year. and she said (i know ur like 8.5 inches babe but he is twice ur size almost can you blame me? i mean he takes care of me in ways you cant understand you see how happy i am sucking him of? and she shows me the video at the point in the video where she just looks at his bbc and lauughts in pleasure. i am going nuts and was like please do it. and when we had sex the only thing she talked about what how bad she wanted him and other bbc guys. and what she was going to do to them and they do to her and that i cant do close to it. we had such great sex the rest of the trip and now im back in sweden she is in the UK. im not going to lie guys we been home a day and im trying to hold in asking her PLEASE GO DO SOME BBC RIGHT NOW I BEG U. cuz i want her to take the first step. so the reason im typing this is because. what to do?

 

- should i tell her like i told her in the hotel that it feel better with a site bbc guy or ''opi''?

 

- should i try not to be to pushy? i mean she reeeeeally seemed to LONG for it kinda even more than me (shes crazy in bed)

 

- and if so how do i find someone for her? (promise she hot af)

 

my final question what should i do in general? i cant stop thinking about this

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Sorry, I can't really make heads or tails out of most of your post because of the formatting... lack of paragraph breaks and capitalization make it impossible for me to read. So, I'm just going to address the questions at the bottom...

 

The short answer to starting up any swinging situation is communicate, communicate, communicate. You need to talk to her and... this may be the difficult part... communicate clearly and clear headedly. That means you need to talk about this when you aren't horny. You need to discuss it in the cold, clear light of day and consider all the implications for everyone... look at yourself and her and her prospective partner as people, not fantasy sex objects, and consider how this will work.

 

Do not be pushy. Do not try to surprise her with anything. Just present the idea, see if she is genuinely interested (in the cold, clear light of day... not in the middle of sex) and if she is, do some research and explore the possibilities together. If she isn't interested, drop it.

 

As for finding someone, there are swingers websites and clubs out there in the world (no idea what the situation is in Europe, as I'm in the US but I'm sure there is something over there for you). Finding a good match can take time and often luck. You have to filter through a lot of noise, fakes and flakes to find a good match, but they are out there.

 

One final thing... the whole "big black cock" fantasy is basically crap and racist crap at that. Fetishizing anyone by race can be considered offensive, so be careful with that. You don't want to alienate a potential partner.

[Aikibobby 51]

The format of your message was very difficult to follow. But I would say it is best to use swinging sites. Not dating sites. 

[Shore2Please 613]

3 hours ago, Lionheart72 said:

One final thing... the whole "big black cock" fantasy is basically crap and racist crap at that. Fetishizing anyone by race can be considered offensive, so be careful with that. You don't want to alienate a potential partner.

Thank you. Agree 100%. I always laugh when there is a post like that.