Is it really the motion of the ocean?

[Escargogo2 11]

I'm not trying to come off as bragging. I'm genuinely curious. I am in my second marriage. It is fan fucking tastic. We play with a couple we are close with and never thought I would have so many fantasies come true within such an open and honest relationship. 

Back up a bit. My first marriage was very vanilla and my cock size was never ever mentioned. Fast forward to being single and dating. Every time someone new saw my cock I would hear things like holy shit dude you're huge. My wife and the wife I play with are completely obsessed with my cock. Apparently I'm above average. I'm appreciative of the praise and enjoy using what I was given to please my wife and the wife we play with. I'm genuinely curious though ladies. Is a big cock better?  Does it matter? Is it really t how he uses it? 

[enhancer 1,585]

Not a lady, but a man with an above sized cock!  In my experience the size of cock has no bearing whatsoever on how pleased a woman is with the sex.  It has never been something I have tried to use as an incentive to get other women interested in me.

 Missus E likes my cock, but it has nothing to do with her wanting to fuck me.  When trying to find other males the size of their dick has nothing to do with if they are someone of interest to her. Them being attractive, in good shape and having a positive attitude are way more important. Hell if a guy is good with their tongue I doubt she would even care if they fucked her.

 

An average sized cock is going to fill her up anyways.  As it is now if I try to go balls deep I bottom out anyways which doesn’t feel great for either of us.  Just like a penis not all vagina’s are the same size and some are not bottom less pits.

 

Do some women like bigger cocks?  Sure, but if that is what a person is going to try and use to get some I think they may be disappointed in the results. 
 

Also remember there will always be someone bigger out there!  It is not a competition and if it was you may find yourself disappointed.

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,389]

Oh man that's a hot-button debate topic! 

 

How a man uses his cock (and his entire body) is extremely important, and that's universally true.

 

But are big cocks more enjoyable? The answer to that one is subjective. More enjoyable for some but not others. In fact, less desirable for some.

 

But from my own wife's perspective: size matters!

[Escargogo2 11]

Yeah definitely not a competition. I just have a lot of new found confidence with the positive reactions I've gotten which is totally new to me. Some more back story after my divorce I lost 100lbs, got in shape and found loads of confidence with the help of my wife and playmate. 

With that I got to thinking that's all. Agreed though a good tongue could negate any cock skills any day. Yes bottoming out is not enjoyable for anyone. Hard to ask this question without sounding well...cocky. Just genuinely curious. Like anything it's personal preference, and I guess motion of the ocean. I think I answered my own questions here. 

[enhancer 1,585]

Good on you for the weight loss and getting in shape! I always admire people that find that drive to make themselves better. Those things are going to get you further with your confidence then the size of your cock ever will.

 

I always say there are things that you can control in life and there are things you can not.  What you eat and what you do to maintain your body are things you can control.  Nothing feels better then taking accountability for those things and doing the things it takes to get there. Not only will your own mental and physical health benefit from it, but others will notice and admire your drive for it.  
 

Too many people just don’t seem to care about their own health to take the steps needed to do something about it!  Hence why the obesity rates just keep moving up and the health care system just keeps feeling the burden of it.  
 

The size of a persons genitalia is something that is out of their control.  Obsessing about it doesn’t do anyone any good.

[discreetplay 235]

Mrs here...

 

Doesn't matter to a certain extent. From talking with my girlfriends (who talk about this stuff), it is pretty unanimous - super small, hard to deal with. Super big, hard to deal with. Anything in between (e.g. smaller than "average", "average", bigger than "average") it depends on how well a guy moves, how well they're in sync with how I move, whether they pay attention to my responses, etc

 

My experience, and the experience of my circle of friends (again, those who discuss such things), guys with large cocks tend to be below average as a sexual partner because they have always had the tool (pun intended) to not work on skills. The Mr would say it is probably similar to the super model hot woman..."usually below average (at best) giving blowjobs and a boring lay because they could have whoever they wanted thus never cared about working on BJ technique or being wild."  Yes, there are exceptions but in general, usually accurate.

[Escargogo2 11]

18 minutes ago, discreetplay said:

Mrs here...

 

Doesn't matter to a certain extent. From talking with my girlfriends (who talk about this stuff), it is pretty unanimous - super small, hard to deal with. Super big, hard to deal with. Anything in between (e.g. smaller than "average", "average", bigger than "average") it depends on how well a guy moves, how well they're in sync with how I move, whether they pay attention to my responses, etc

 

My experience, and the experience of my circle of friends (again, those who discuss such things), guys with large cocks tend to be below average as a sexual partner because they have always had the tool (pun intended) to not work on skills. The Mr would say it is probably similar to the super model hot woman..."usually below average (at best) giving blowjobs and a boring lay because they could have whoever they wanted thus never cared about working on BJ technique or being wild."  Yes, there are exceptions but in general, usually accurate.

Lots of truth there. Little effort. Little gained. 

[Anon321 522]

I think many women would say the bigger the better.  But size will not always make up for sloppy skills, lack of chemistry, etc.

Edited October 4, 2021 by Anon321

[NWAtlSwing 522]

Never had one that is too small. Seen many that are too big to fit all the way.

 

And I am not sure why some men so want to push my legs back. Not being able to breath it not good.

[Sophy 569]

Penis size does matter to me, however, I won't say: "the bigger the better", sex is about chemistry and desire.

A guy with an above-average penis will attract my attention at the beginning but I will lose interest very fast if he doesn't back it up properly.

[njbm 2,871]

12 hours ago, NWAtlSwing said:

Never had one that is too small. Seen many that are too big to fit all the way.

 

And I am not sure why some men so want to push my legs back. Not being able to breath it not good.

Porn move. 

[TnA83 309]

It's not the size of the vessel, nor the motion of the ocean.  It's whether the captain can stay in port long enough for all of the passengers to get off!

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician...

 

Our experience mirrors some of those who have already commented. Bigger does not equal better. We once met another couple where he was 'porn star huge'. But when it came to time to perform, he would just slam away, swinging for the fences right from the start believing that his size made up for a lack of skill and technique (it doesn't). This seems to have held true to most of the 'big boys' we have watched. In addition, Ms. Gold is rather 'shallow' and doesn't enjoy having her cervix bruised and beaten so she will take a 'pass' on someone 'too big'.

 

Connection, skill, paying attention to your partner are all more important to just size and/or width.