She is interested ...

[VanillaNChocolate 7]

Hello everyone,

 

Firstly, I wanted to introduce myself. Husband here, 46 of Middle Eastern background married to a beautiful white woman of 37 years of age. I am 5.10 and weigh 210 lbs. I am considered muscular with short hair and an enthusiastically friendly, extroverted personality. She is a shy, introvert who takes her time to open up. She is 5.2, full figured and buxom with large breasts that always get attention. Yet no one has seen them in their majestic glory, except for one man.  

 

We have a passionate, romantic relationship and damn I love her. She told me she was a suppressing, bi-sexual woman who often finds herself being attracted to women. In public, I noticed that sometimes it was not unusual for certain women to notice her too. She confessed her attraction to women and told me that she has those feelings in her. I did not mind since a lot of women have bi-sexual thoughts. After sometime she asked if I would be ok if she is with a woman as well. 

 

We spoke about it. I did not want her to suppress her sexuality as it can lead to depression and frustration. She said that if I put enough trust in her then she is open to the idea of us having a threesome or a foursome. We discussed, swinging. To be honest, I never met anyone who was into this lifestyle so I thought this would be a good place to have this discussion going.

 

I am starting to think seriously about it and I feel that the best way to start would be to find a couple that understands that we are both new to this. If we could start by same room sex and the ladies trying out each other then that would allow us to make friends and also enter into this in ways where no one is feeling that their limits are being crossed. I do not have any problems with another woman pleasuring my wife in front of me. I would also be extremely aroused to see that women being loved by her lover while I love my wife.

 

A full swap? I guess it would depend on how the first date went. We live in the DC/VA area and wanted to know what would be the best way to proceed and make friends.

 

Choc and Van

 

 

[tbone1 79]

Check out www.thekorral.com and hedonism.com

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

Welcome VanillaNChocolate!

 

Congratulations on opening this door on your relationship :) Understand that you are on a journey, and there's no finish line and no race. I don't get the feeling that things are being rushed, but I wanted to tell you that so there is an understanding that patience has its rewards, especially in this case. It is wonderful that you are considering doing this to allow your wife to explore her attraction to women.

 

If what you are looking for is a single, bi-sexual woman you are looking for what we call a "unicorn"; fabled to exist, but no one's actually seen one. Ok, that's not entirely true :) There are couples that have had FMF threesomes, but it is not at all common to find a single, bi-sexual woman. For lack of a better term, demand for such women far, far, far exceeds demand. You will have more opportunities for exploring this if you are open to the idea of another couple.

 

As for possibilities in your area; there are a number of websites that cater to this lifestyle. A favorite around here is swinglifestyle.com (commonly referred to as sls). Another is swingtowns.com. Both of those are dating sites for people in the lifestyle. There are various in-person clubs as well. There's a listing of clubs on swinglifestyle.com at https://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/virginia/ and https://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/maryland/

 

If you have any questions, let us know. We're a helpful bunch!

[njbm 2,870]

We once had dinner out with a newbie couple. We asked what they were looking for and they said a single, bi-woman. They asked us why we almost spit out our food laughing. It was the scarcity of the unicorn. 
 

We had a rollicking session with them. I lost my condom in her and she was a great sport about it. She texted us when she found it at home. Sadly, the couple broke up before round two, so it was a one and done. 
 

Join SLS! Also, take a look at SDC. There is a club in or near Baltimore called Tabu. 

Edited October 13, 2021 by njbm

[Sophy 569]

We started with small things, we progressed slowly, baby steps, we always check on each other during and after, after 8 years in the lifestyle we have no regrets, we value the most our relationship and that has always been the priority. 

 

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

2 hours ago, bbarnsworth said:

For lack of a better term, demand for such women far, far, far exceeds demand. You will have more opportunities for exploring this if you are open to the idea of another couple.

far exceeds supply. :/ Wish I could edit my post.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Small note, but a single woman is a unicorn. A single bi-sexual woman is known as a golden unicorn...much more rare than a mere unicorn. Too bad that there aren't as many unicorns in the L/S as men...or even half as many...on even 1 out of every 100. 😁

[VanillaNChocolate 7]

Thanks very much everyone. This post has been enlightening. I can totally see why a unicorn would be so rare. I will surely check out the resources. Thanks.