The new couple

[Beetz 16]

Who's willing and not willing to take on the first timers?

Yes/no?

Why/why not?

 

[Fitlakecouple 451]

Sure. Our first couple were very experienced and we were not. They initiated us in a thoughtful, sensitive, way - checking in every step along the way. While it was not without a bump or two, overall our first time was a fantastic experience in large part because of this couple. We've replayed that evening many, many times. We would absolutely pay it forward with the right couple.

[njbm 2,871]

We have and would play with newbies if they say they are ready. We were treated very nicely by some experienced swingers when we were new. Others ran for the door. Their loss! We are happy to pay it forward due to the vets who gave us a shot.  

[EastInWest 1,524]

We were first-timers to a couple once.

 

Not that we're quite seasoned veterans here, but as long as the chemistry is right and they seem in the right place, emotionally? Sure.

 

[AndrewandAnn 360]

As a general rule? No, we are no longer open to playing with nubies.

 

Why? It boils down to a simple cost vs. benefit calculus. Too much potential for drama and headaches. The effort is not worth the potential reward.

 

At our stages of life, we're comfortable and satisfied with our small circle of playmates. Toss in the pandemic effect...  the idea of having intimate physical contact with strangers is not even a consideration.

 

However, we're also far enough along in life to know to never say never 😉

 

[lcmim 1,082]

Yes we would.

For us also it is a matter of repaying what we received when starting out.

 

[cplnluv1 872]

We all had a first time, all a newbie at one time. We searched out a couple for our first time. That couple in retrospect was not an ideal one to have our first experience with. It wasn’t horrible, it wasn’t ideal. 
Alan and I talked about how many others would have run away and never tried again. We agreed that we would never act like the idiot we started with. 
Being a first for a couple starting out should be a positive memory and we searched out couples looking to experiment. We make a concerted effort to make their first everything they hoped it to be. 
From a selfish side, we enjoy being a first. Their nervousness is our excitement. We find couples with curious women and not that I keep a scorecard, I have enjoyed being the first woman for so many other women. 
Until recently we only met newbies and didn’t continue relationships for too long. We didn’t want to form friendships that could become messy. We enjoyed the newness and excitement we gained. 

[enhancer 1,585]

A good amount of the people we have been with in the past were newbies like we all are at one point!  
 

Although we would be with newbies again it would only be with ones who were very sure about what they want and have very few rules for each other like ourselves.  No more not so sure people.  We don’t like to have to figure it out for them during fun time, because it ruins our fun time.

 

At this point we do prefer people that have already had some experience. 

[TeamCalgary 168]

Agreed on what many of you have stated already in that we all feel part of something larger, the LS "community" if you will. We also feel a debt to those 

couples who have helped guide us on this journey, and those who have been so generous with their knowledge and experience.  We are happy to share what we have learned with newbies, in, and out of , the bedroom, albeit with an eye towards the avoidance of "trouble waiting to happen" sort of situations. 

[cplnluv1 872]

A revival of an old thread where I agreed not to play close to home. I stated back then that no matter how far you travel you risk seeing someone you know. 
Over the years we have kept our play very private, trying to keep our meetings to people no less than an hour from us. There was a local couple we met at a party we attended, they were as surprised as us, we agreed at the time that neither of us wanted this public. 
More recently we have become close with a couple who are friends of a couple we met. The wife goes to my gym and we became very good friends. They have not only become close they are now our primary play partners. 

[lnw 145]

We've been that "first" couple for several newbies. But not until we've had some conversation time and we all felt comfortable together. We also learned from a couple of newbie couples what to look for in them as a couple (are they both on board equally, are they into each other as much, they are comfortable seeing each other have sex with someone else...). Handled right with the right couple, being a couple's "first" can be a rewarding experience for all.

 

[MrMrsswinger 204]

We were all first timers at one point. Though we tread lightly to avoid the potential drama. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

We are willing to meet any couple that we feel we might have a connection with, but we are just a bit more careful with beginners. Once we find out that they are both on board and willing, we're usually good. Too often, that first meeting involves the woman 'just doing this once to make him happy', the woman having NO IDEA why we're meeting, the woman not being able to make it, or the woman being imaginary. That's why we never play on the first meeting.