Sex - How often do you NEED it?

[Captain Passion 15]

Which me should answer? The me in love can't get enough. The me under stress can't perform and avoids. The day to day average me is happy once a day.

[My77038 15]

Once a day huh... Capt. Passion.... That sounds reasonable but... I only get to spend 2 hours a day with him. I wish I could make love more, there's just not enough time. If we did there is just so much that goes into it. Like the fact that I cum every time we make love and usually with an abundance of wetness... which makes for a mess afterwards meaning clean up sheet change or getting rid of the towel and cleaning yourself. I mean it is a whole event and we only have a couple of hours.

 

He would to eat dinner, watch some tv, and have some sex every night. Right! Not gonna happen... meanwhile I'm washing clothes for work and cooking and cleaning and servicing. Sometimes why pick priorities?

 

Anyway I could on and on about how much we don't make love and why but I'm hoping to change all that and I have been working on it too with the help of all of you. I was losing my frisky freedom and now I think it is coming back. Watch out world... Ya not ready! My goal to shoot for at least 4 times a week. Sometimes I need a day to recoup my body parts.

[couplewanting50 65]

I love to give my wife orgasms at least once a day. I choose not to come, so I want her all the time. We like to begin our day by what we call coupling, which is touching and kissing and me inside of her for a while, perhaps only moving slowly. When I was young I wanted to come all the time, and now I am just the opposite; she loves it that way too, for what it brings to us. So, I guess our answer would be several times a day. I am 55 and she is 45.

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

During the summer, multiple times a day but during the fall, winter ... sometimes I can go a couple of days with out sex. So during the time period we have sex 2 - 3 times per week, but during the summer thats ALL I think about. Oh well.

[hilltop 16]

I seem to have cycles, I go about 5 or 6 weeks horny as hell all of the time then multiple times a day would fit the bill. Then for about 2 or 3 weeks I'll be less driven and once every other day or once a week would be just fine.

 

This has been a very consistent pattern for me for the last 10 - 15 years.

[hanginglong52 15]

Well, overall, I need it daily. I think about sex a lot, and during those times I occasionally masturbate "to get me by". I go through periods when once daily will do it. Then, when I drift into every other day or three times a week (because of work or travel), I really get extremely horny and masturbation isn't enough. My fantasy world comes alive. That's when I hit the black book. There is just something about sweaty hip action over long periods of time and touching and feeling that warm, equally excited and willing body (or bodies) next to you (or wrapped around you) that just does it for me.

 

I have two regular friends/partners who also are high octane and we have fun minimizing the 2-3-day "droughts". They are roommates and friends, and we play a lot together -- especially when we need those long nights of energy and creativity. Over the past year, we have found a way to coordinate our biorhythms so the crankiness is limited. We also developed "no questions asked" nights or weekends.

 

Sometimes it's very romantic and giving, sometimes it's goal-oriented, sometimes it's just playtime, and sometimes, depending on the drought, it can be very animalistic.

[RickO'Shay 15]

I would be so happy if I were able to get it twice a day!

 

Unfortunatly.....my husband would pass out from exhaustion if we did it that often. Oh well, a girl can dream.

 

 

I could happily take care of three things: (1) Not tiring hubby, (2) Your need (3) My horny lust

 

Damn Geography!!

[sarcouple 15]

Ok just joined the group and was wondering what thread to post to first and I think this one is perfect. I usually have to have it at least every other day...but I do go through moods where I want it all the time and then I hit a stride where I don't want it at all for a while. Wife also goes through spells....she'll hit a patch where sex is the last thing on her mind and then she will enter full blown "slut" mode. lol That's when things get interesting.

[GerdOEvert 51]

How often?

 

It depends on your age a little. When you are in your 20's and 30's as many times as you have time four. Four times one day a couple times. When at a party, maybe six times once or twice, but you don't really have that much stamina most of the time.

But it is sexy to get it on again when you get home to your own bed.

 

When you hit your forties and fifties, it is funny, but the women need it more and demand more, and the men don't need it as much.

 

One special thing for us. My wife was always horny during her period, and would love to give head. She would take me to completion, and quite skillfully.

 

For me, the week of her period was a week to see who else was around, and I had a group of six or seven that would help me out. A whole week without a good lay is a tough week.

 

Now, twice a week is fine. And I love to eat pussy. I would enjoy my mate using a vibrator, but she is afraid or shy about that. She has several, but uses them alone.

 

I also find it sexy to read a good erotic story and enjoy the visual image, and then cum before going to sleep, when Eileen is not here.

 

Otto & Eileen

[jennjenn 17]

Before I met my bf, I would say I needed it twice a day but could deal with every other day if I had to (but I wasn't happy about it lol). Now, it depends on how sore I am afterwards. He's 13 years older than me ( 51) but he'll generally go for over two hours with an hour and a half of that being penetration. With a lot of spankings and biting ( lol ) thrown in there for good measure. And when he cums, he goes down a little bit but is back up and ready for more in less than 10 minutes! His intensity is really hot for me but I feel like I've been in a car wreck the next day sometimes....sore everywhere, random bruises from where he bit. In that case, I need a couple of days before I've recovered enough to do it again. He's the first guy I've ever been with where I didn't want more immediately afterwards....hmmm, no wonder I fell so hard for him facelick .

[Winkncouple 15]

Personally I could last about a day or so before it starts effecting my mood. Unfortunately my wife can go a lot longer without any ill effects so I was forced once to go about a month without. Never want to do it again.

[Mari and Mike 15]

Personally I could last about a day or so before it starts effecting my mood. Unfortunately my wife can go a lot longer without any ill effects so I was forced once to go about a month without. Never want to do it again.

 

Yeah, I know what you mean, though it varies with Mari, depending on her level of stress. Curiously enough, stress doesn't seem to affect my daily needs!!!

[Lovinlife59912 17]

Well with me gone all the time, when I do get to see my husband, we have sex at least two or more times a night. So if we spread it out it would be 2-3 times a week. I can just masturbate in between the times.

 

I'm sure my hubby would like and need it more.

[FLnewlyweds 16]

I think about it everyday but needing it is a bit different. We're lucky enough to be home around each other enough to have sex almost everyday depending. But if it's been three days or more I can't concentrate and am on the verge of taking matters into my own hands... where she can go longer before "needing" it.

[swingsperience 15]

Including masturbation: twice a day.....

 

Although I'm having really good sex with my girlfriend, I still have the urge to masturbate. She's aware about this and is not offended by it fortunately.

 

Excluding masturbation, I'd say I'd need it 2-3 a week. I've got friends who've gone without for 5 years!!!! I would have paid for it by then!!!!

 

However, I'm sometimes worried about it is I don't find it normal. For one thing, it's not practical.....

 

She can go without for ages and never masturbates either

[deadparrot911 15]

Ok, I marked every other day...that's enough to keep me from being cranky lol...however want is another story all together Because I want it multiple times in a day.

[flkeyscouple 21]

I'd say we average a bit more often than every day, but there are times we'll go a day or two without sex, and there are times we are so lusty we go at it 3-4 times in a day. Luckily for me my husband has a quick recharge and could normally go again within a few minutes and normally lasts hours! For us, a 'quickie' is anything under an hour.

[ShellyM 0]

Jay and I have a very active sex life....surprisingly with having 3 screaming kids around. If you ask Jay, he would like to have it as often as I give it! LOL Whether that's once, twice, three times a day...I have never known the man to say no to sex. Me? I like it once a day, I would be quite happy with that.

[lost_j1 5]

Jay and I have a very active sex life....surprisingly with having 3 screaming kids around. If you ask Jay, he would like to have it as often as I give it! LOL Whether thats once, twice, three times a day.........I have never known the man to say no to sex. Me? I like it once a day, I would be quite happy with that.

 

 

Well my love, what can I say your one hot sexy mamma in the bed!!!!!!!! Heck if it was up to me we would never leave the bed!!!! I think sex 22/7, need to eat and rest sometimes...... Love ya babe.... facelick

[LFM2 1,482]

I really don't want to vote, because that will only represent one of us, but I will say that I get awful cranky if I don't have sex at least once in about two or three days. Actually, by day three, I'm a raving bitch.

 

Mr. LFM said he would like to have it multiple times a day. (Wouldn't we all?)

 

If he didn't live away from home 3 days a week, we'd both be happier!

[lost_j1 5]

Including masturbation: twice a day.....

 

Although I'm having really good sex with my girlfriend, I still have the urge to masturbate. She's aware about this and is not offended by it fortunately.

 

Excluding masturbation, I'd say I'd need it 2-3 a week. I've got friends who've gone without for 5 years!!!! I would have paid for it by then!!!!

 

However, I'm sometimes worried about it is I don't find it normal. For one thing, it's not practical.....

 

She can go without for ages and never masturbates either

 

 

:surrender: Hey wait a minute I did know MASTURBATION was included here. Heck that's a daily pleasure, sometimes twice a day. I think if you can't learn to enjoy yourself how can you let others know what you like......

[rebelnangel 15]

I definitely have to have it at least once a day, sometimes 2 or 3 times, at least when we isn't working...when he has to work late, I definitely make up for it the next night...

[hubajuba 15]

2-3 times a week. After the second day I start having sleep problems and getting withdraws. I'm an admitted addict. A little over a week I start to calm a little. Not that I'm not ready to jump her bones at the least provication, but I'm less edgy.

 

Him

[Guest Jalean73]

Sometimes I need sex daily, not just for the physical release, but for emotionally reconnect with hubby. Now my hubby is kept so busy by his job that I only get it on the weekends.

[cubnamy1995 124]

I put evevry other day, just to be reasonable. Let me pose a question for you ladies...

 

Is anyone else out there like my beloved? I swear the woman is a damn sexual camel. She can go for weeks without it at all, but when the urge hits, it is a free-for-all and furniture ends up broken. The last binge ended up with a broken leg on the kitchen table, my back bleeding from fingernail lacerations, and a lost dildo (can't find the damn thing anywhere. Hope the kids didn't find it!)

 

Is there such a thing as sexual bulimia?

 

Please don't take this too seriously. I'm exaggerating (except for the last binge. That really was the case.)

[rpu3 630]

Generally, 3-4 times a week. Unless it's vacation, then it's a 2 or 3 times a day in its various forms. Work and regular life affect our sex life (well, it affects me, anyway), vacation time is generally no holds barred.

[ohash01 20]

I absolutely NEED it at least every 3 days...I prefer every day or every other day, but more than 3 days and I go bonkers.

 

J. and I are at hour #48 of being smoke-free right now. My whole body is a little tense right now and I'm thinking sex would be great, but at the same time the nicotine withdrawal is confusing me and I can't decide if I want to screw, eat, or cry. I should probably just go to sleep...

[Tybee Swing 286]

J. and I are at hour #48 of being smoke-free right now. My whole body is a little tense right now and I'm thinking sex would be great, but at the same time the nicotine withdrawal is confusing me and I can't decide if I want to screw, eat, or cry. I should probably just go to sleep...

 

Good luck with that, ohash! You'll get past this hardest part soon. Congrats for quitting!

[Tybee Swing 286]

My NEED for it seems to go in waves, and I guess a lot of that has to do with what's going on. Are we working too hard and too many hours? Tired? Stressed out? These affect me, and I think my hubby, too.

 

In perfect circumstances, with plenty of time together during waking hours, perfect health and stress-free, we'd be having sex daily and probably multiple times a day (like we do on vacation). When things are kind of average (regular life but not too stressful), I'd say I NEED it at least twice a week, but am happier with more.

 

In recent months, we've been through some really tough times. I was laid off of a very secure job and was unemployed for over 4 months. A series of mishaps followed during this time including broken pipes & flood (had to replumb the entire house), three car wrecks in our household, a medical emergency and surgery (me), and much more. Now I'm working again, at a very stressful job putting in about 55+ hours a week for the time being. Still not fully healed from the surgery, either. We are stressed out about money & keeping up with the bills as a result of all of the above. Hubby and I are working opposite shifts now, too. There are days I don't even think about sex lately (very different from my norm). But when we do get together sexually - about 1-2 times a week on the weekend lately - it's wonderful. In "normal" times, this frequency would not feel like enough, we'd be more like 3-6 times a week. In a perfect world (like on vacation), we'd "need" it at least once a day.

 

Oh, to have a vacation! I think I'll get a lottery ticket on my way to work this morning!

[richkeith 15]

We go without sex only that time of the month, or when we our mad at each other. Besides that we have a great sexual relationship and we both want it as often as we can.

[Tia Vampire 167]

When we first started, it was once a week at the clubs and if anyone wanted to meet up in between, we would. Now we are down to every other week at the clubs and if we are going to meet up with another couple, then we don't go to the clubs.

[mfmswing 17]

I am always horny! If I don’t get sex at least once a day I masturbate four or five times in a day. If it were not for the lifestyle, I would go insane!

[couplers 4,615]

Upon waking, in the evening and also mid-day on weekends. I'm an orgasm junkie. While this may be off-topic, I will occasionally masturbate but never use toys. My older sister started down the vibrator route and became insensitive to regular sex so that it became necessary to always "finish off" with the thing. When she told me this it scared me off from using those and I stick with the real thing.

[ShellyM 0]

Both Jay and I need sex every day...it would be more if we didn't have 3 screaming children too lol. We also masturbate daily. It is not unusual for us to boink for an hour or two and then also masturbate together. Very sexy. But yes, when we have time sans children we really get to let her rip.

[racewalker 15]

Don't get sex every day, but I masturbate every day, maybe have sex once a week.

[sahajacpl 95]

We talk a lot about how often you'd like to have sex if you could have it as often as you want. But how often do you NEED it? How long can you go before a lack of sex actually starts to affect your mood and interactions. Where it gets to a point that when you finally have sex you can feel the stress evaporate and everything is better.

 

Would like to have it as often as we can-multiple times a day. But practicality dictates at least one good fuck daily.

 

[couplers 4,615]

Maybe I answered wrong previously. I NEED sex probably once a day before I get tense and edgy and can't concentrate. I usually have sex two to three times a day, however, since there are two men that can screw me whenever they want (when work is not calling). I'm the only partner for my bf, and hubby's extracurricular activities are only sporadic, so I'm in demand. We only do MFMs a couple times a year, so when one of my men is initiating the second or third session of the day for me, I'm sort of sex weary at that point. BUT once we get started I really get going and those orgasms the best, although it takes all my energy and are more difficult to achieve.

 

Actually, the MFM sessions are the most tiring for me since there is no time in between Red and David. Although I orgasm easily, when taking one right after the other I usually can't come a second time right away even though I try hard. Sometimes I can hold back so I can continue to enjoy it as long as possible and come with whoever I finish with, usually hubby. Red likes anal which we do occasionally, although I think it's just OK (and so long as he licks me afterwards). But if both my men are in bed with me that is when I prefer Red to do anal since with DP I can satisfy him, hubby and me altogether.

[mreverything 15]

We talk a lot about how often you'd like to have sex if you could have it as often as you want. But how often do you NEED it? How long can you go before a lack of sex actually starts to affect your mood and interactions. Where it gets to a point that when you finally have sex you can feel the stress evaporate and everything is better.

 

I want it often! Having aliloeverything as wife encourages this! But I only need it a few times a week. ~mreverything

[Expulsion 40]

When I'm with someone I find sexually attractive and that I enjoy having sex with, I prefer having sex about twice a day. If that isn't possible I won't explode from going without. Right now it's been a couple of months and I'm starting to get antsy and can't focus on anything else. >.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I don't really NEED it more than once a week but I WANT it a few times a week!

 

It's been 4 weeks, 2 more weeks ago and I really feel like I NEED it right now. Darn!

[CXXC 435]

I asked this question to Mrs. CXXC again. Her answers are generally based upon what is going on in her life! The busier she is, the less she wants sex. Busy for her generally means exhaustion.

 

As a baseline, however, we try for the 2-3 X a week thing. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

 

when I have to travel for extended periods of time 2-4 months, The loss is made up for in short order. 2X per day for the first week and then it slows down from there!

 

Even with playing solo, there is something special aobut being together. A deep need to have each other in passions embrace etc.....

[xxxboxy 139]

We manage 3 to 5 times a week...but both of us have the flu now so we've been having a bit of a dry spell...it's been a week so far and NEED is starting to rear it's ugly head.

[Jim&Shelley 17]

"Just us" is usually 3 times a week at lest (if Jim is home and not traveling with work). Playing with friends is a plus.

[Begood03 15]

I want it all the time. I usually masturbate once or twice a day. My wife since her Hysterectomy has just about totally lost her sex drive. Needless to say this had made things difficult, but we are trying to make it work for the both of us.

[FitCpl30s 17]

It definitely varies for us, in the summer we want it daily cause we tend to be lean that time of year for the shows I do plus we spend a lot of time at the beach and water parks with the kids. In the winter I feel very fat cause we tend to bulk up, and I don't like people seeing me that way cause in my mind I am thinking they are calling me a fat cow, my husband on the other hand I notice he has a slightly less desire probably because people are more dressed up and he doesn't get to see much skin or there feet. That's a whole other topic I can let him write.

[TnMtns 16]

I need it "once a day" but that is sometimes a solo event. With our crazy work schedules we usually have sex 3 or 4 times per week, UNLESS we have a day off together then it is multiples in the same day!!!

[Tina and Bob 236]

Two to three is my minimum, but I do also utilize my toys. I have found that if Bob is not around I need to masturbate with my dildo and stimulate my clit. We also do a lot of phone sex at night and in the morning.

[SsHubby 56]

I selected once a day for the poll but I can go longer if I understand the reason why I am going longer than that. But I figure, if there isn't a good reason not to do it then why not do it. It's fun.

[Psyche 37]

I guess we probably average once per day, but if it were up to me, we'd have sex morning, noon and night!

[SsHubby 56]

I guess we probably average once per day, but if it were up to me, we'd have sex morning, noon and night!

 

Oh yea!! That works for me!