Sex - How often do you NEED it?

[essexcouple 15]

DH and I average sex about 3 or 4 times a week. I do miss it if we don't have it, it is sometimes just a quickie because it is not always easy to spend proper time with our busy lives. Nice to have an intimate time whether it lasts 50 seconds or 50 minutes!

[wisconsin 58]

It depends who I am with. Usually the more I play the more I want it ...Hubby is out playing tonight. BF has his father's duties weekend.

I need some bad...right now.

[celtic239 297]

I "need" it about twice a week, I "want" it as often as I can get it.

[MacNfries 123]

Just sex, in general, once or twice a week unless I've been on one of my traveling sprees that last 2-3 weeks at a time. When I say sex, that's everything ... sometimes it is fun for her to just give me a HJ ... she does those really, really well ... trained her myself.

[sweet_tna 680]

This is an interesting question, given that Mr. Sweet was out of town four nights a week for almost five months. I had to learn to live with once or twice a week, which kinda' messed with my libido. I was NOT happy camper, as I find that I NEED it every 3-4 days, at least.

 

Of course, how often I want it, is another question altogether.

 

=)

[RyanF 15]

I've found that to achieve the fullest erection and the fullest ejaculation that once nightly is ideal.

 

Some exceptions of course, like no sex while sick, no sex if not able to work out or if sex drive is in some way damaged. Also noticed that if you go a day with out it takes a few to get fully back to normal.

 

Better to have one full-veiny-swelling erection then several lessor ones.

[MN Tom 251]

On average once per day. Some weeks are more, and bad weeks (overnight shift, monthly aunt visit) are less.

[BigNikki 43]

Big Nikki here.

 

Well, I gotta give an essay answer to this question.

 

How often do I need sex: One answer is every few hours, though I wouldn't call it sex, and I don't. I call it getting off, and it's barely fun. I have an itch, I have to scratch it (mostly daytime), and that's that. Not the sex life anyone would envy -- and if you think you do, think again.

 

How often would I want sex if I could have it as often as I wanted? Two answers.

• Loving sex: once daily, no more, and not too often less, loving heterosexual sex with my husband John, who I worship. His penis is my Shiva.
  

• Fun sex, orgiastic sex: not too often, maybe no more than once a week and fine if it's just once a month. This, of course, is the sex that is not love, that sometimes is like and sometimes isn't. This is banquet sex, oriastic sex, saturate yourself with sex. Swing party sex.
  

Then two more categories:

 

Sex on the side: that's a little extra sex, here and there, always fun, always friendly, always a bit of a fling. That's the sex I have with a girlfriend who drops by, the sex I have with the neighbor I call "the wife next door", the non-orgiastic sex that John and I might have with swing friends who drop by for drinks or dinner.

 

Cruising sex: this is not nice; this is mostly predatory and I really don't know how to describe it -- and won't.

 

-- Big Nikki

[BigDandLola 15]

BigD and I do not live together.....so when we see each other...yes we have lots of sex to make up for not living together...lol...

 

But if we were together...there is no doubt in my mind that it would be everyday...and if we didn't have kids....ummm yeah...well then who knows...ha ha...

 

Lola

[Justalilbit 48]

I didn't answer the poll, this last year has been a long dry spell!

 

Never in my life since first having sex at 15 have I spent more than maybe a few weeks without ( except just before divorce. 4 months without - that sucked!) But this year nothing since early May, really early like the 4th!

 

So since I haven't found anyone interesting to share my time with, my impression of need has been very changed. As a result I am cranky and people tell me I have a "don't bother me" aura.

 

Guess I really need to get this handled.. lol pun intended!

 

...and no masturbation is SO not the same.

[sweetandspicy 15]

Now don't feel sorry for me, but I did not have sex (ok 3x) for nearly 15 years.

 

Though my husband and I had had a great sex life and we dabbled in swinging, medical issues stole my husband's sex drive. I never gave up and things have gotten much better in the last two months.

 

However, to answer the question, I do remember some pitifully base moments where it almost seemed unbearable, but I remained a virtuous wife.

 

And then, about 6 months ago a man walked into my place of business who knocked my socks off. He was not my usual "type" but his smooth voice, sexy smile and eyes, and the mild flirtation set me afire. I had many, many long talks with God. I never saw this man again, but in a weak moment I joined Adult Friend Finder. The first guy I chatted with in emails did not fit my profile. He is 13 years my junior, but I answered him back and I believe he is a gift from God.

 

Our emails get hotter and hotter and it takes about a week before we can't take it anymore and get together. We live about 50 miles apart so I can't say a week is the amount of time.

 

The point I am taking so long to make is: if the stimulus is there, I just have to have it. How often? As long as the stimulus is there Give me some food, a few hours of sleep and we can hop in the shower and start another day!

 

[BrazilianBabe 15]

Once a day would be awesome for me!!! I think is just my age, but I love sex a lot!

[Baconheads 432]

In the early days of our marriage, being young and all, I was ready for it every day. I would put the moves on her every day, but she was only receptive about every 7-10 days.

 

So we compromised. We did it about every seven to ten days. I was literally losing the will to live.

 

I got into a bad habit, and got caught, let's say, seeking out the wrong kind of "professional" help...

 

So we decided to make it work, that was almost five years ago.

 

One thing I said though, if we were just going to make it like it was in the past, I wasn't interested in staying together.

 

Now that the kids are grown, (one still at home!) we get it together 2, 3, maybe 4 times a week, and I'm happy as a clam!