Blowjobs.... Guys do you orgasm from just oral?

[fun_couple 17]

I ask this question because my guy, has a very difficult time reaching orgasm from oral stimulation alone. (And if he's tired, forget, I could try alnight & still nothing) & yes, I'm doing it properly I have brought many other men to orgasm without a problem.

 

Thanks for your input!

[roggiesgirl 17]

My man does orgasm from just oral. He loves it, so much so, that during my time of the month, I just do that for him, since I don't like being touched at that time.

 

Is it a sensitivity issue? I guess it would be a lack of actually, wouldn't it? Have you ever tried massaging the prostate during the bj? Some guys really love that!

 

Good luck.

[PipeDreamer 15]

I can IDENTIFY with that problem (this is the Male half speaking). I never have had much luck with getting off with getting 'blown' (of sucked/licked/flicked etc.) I just get to that breakover point and not be able to get past, even with digital stimulation of the anus I'm always amazed to hear about guys who can get that quickie in when the gal is not interested in intercourse.

 

But on the other hand, I have developed such good ejaculation control during intercourse (where so many others don't have), I really didn't see it as a problem. In fact, I used to get SO frustrated over getting a blow job (and the gal would just get too tired and frustated) that I just 'gave up' on requesting them and furthermore, refused them when offered !

 

However, since the wife and I have gotten into swinging, our communications have opened up more/she has more stamina and NOW I am having some wonderful and consistent oral orgasms...and let me tell you, they are extremely powerful and extremely pleasurable In fact they are SOOOO GOOD that typically, I am DONE after that...my body just can't respond to more sexual stimuli for 3-4 hours. Surrender

 

So how have I got there? Mostly its communication and dedication (on her part). Porn movies help as does a lot of fantasizing (mostly about new swinging partners ). Still it may take 20-30 minutes of intense action to get me off and certainly only with my wife. I don't think I am comfortable enough with any other gal.

 

Good Luck!

[fun_couple 17]

Wow, you sound very much like my hubby! He also has awsome control while having sex & can last so so long when needed!....... start & stop....... You get the picture! lol

No such thing as premature ejaculation in this house! So that I am thankful for!

[hmr 25]

Have NEVER been able to. some have even taken that as a challenge and finally given up.

[tnohcpl 16]

male half here. being the whore of the two (in my single younger days) a lot of the ladies that would go down on me didn't like you to cum in their mouths. i had to learn to control it had to keep them happy for repeats. this had a reverse affect on me. i then had it in my head that they may not like it so it became difficult to do even if they wanted it. i now have my soulmate who i know LOVES it. now i just let it all go. it's all in the mind. heheh

[HornyCouple 15]

male here, it quickly I cum from oral has got to do with when I last had an orgasm. The longer it has been the easier and quicker I cum from oral. I most always cum from oral, fortunately my other half is very good

[leftcoastcouple 32]

Gee, and I thought it was just me--but I'd always been afraid to admit it. Thanks for giving me a forum in which to do so, fun_couple!

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

To answer the question with just one word,

 

YES!!!

[Brit_Pair 62]

I do . . . now.

[SexhoundDog 18]

The Mr. here also.

 

I can cum with oral, but not always easily. For some reason, my wife has gotten much better at blowjobs in the last year, and there are times when she's lots better than other times. It's those times I will cum and the other ones feel nice, don't get me wrong, but it's doubtful I'd cum.

 

I'd be willing to bet that if you're handstroking him in perfect sync while your head is bobbing up and down, and your tongue is working on the glans right beneath the head and up and down his cock's underside, he'll cum sooner or later. I've also found deepthroating isn't as great as it sounds. I'm pretty sure that if the top 3 inches are minded well, that's all you need.

 

I'm not saying you aren't doing it properly, maybe just not quite as "properly" as you could be, if you know what I mean. The other guys you've succeeded with might just blow their load easier, so it sounds like your hubby has given you a challenge. I think I'd just tell him you're gonna experiment a little and for him to let you know when it feels best, then tell him you're gonna suck him dry! Then you'll know you're the Blowjob Queen.

 

Have fun and good luck! Your mission is most honorable!

[fun_couple 17]

Thanks for the posts everyone!

 

Lets just say I haven't given up!!!!! I'll get lockjaw from trying before I give-up completely!

[austxmark 41]

I can cum from oral but its not going to be quick. Almost any women can get me off if she uses her hands as well as her mouth but it will take a while. It has always been this way for me. I do like it and it does feel good, but for me, fucking is the thing I like best.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

I'm with austxmark on this one. If she's really persistent, and uses her hand as well as her mouth, I can come. But I like intercourse better.

[DragonsLair 26]

My husband can cum from oral sex. In fact, he tends to have stronger orgasms that way.

[meowkittyhascla 17]

My sweet hubby can cum that way, but only if he has gone awhile without sex. At least once during that time of the month, I give him the, "treatment" as we call it with a wink and a kiss. Other than that, no matter how much I suck and tickle on him can I get him off orally. He says it's because the actual intercourse is just more enjoyable!

[Sadie6969 15]

WOW - Thanks for this thread.

 

Hubby kept telling me that it was him that didn't like BJ's (enough to cum) and I thought I just didn't give them well.

head bang

 

But now I know better. I've promised him that I am going to find him a woman that will blow his mind, and then I'll make her teach me.......

[zztx1 18]

I agree that it is all in the mind. When a woman says, I want you to come in my mouth, it's alot easier than when they say don't. Once I know they don't want it, I cannot come. It is psychological and more important than the technique.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

Originally posted by DragonsLair

My husband can cum from oral sex. In fact, he tends to have stronger orgasms that way.

 

Oh, don't get me wrong. I'm just saying that I rarely orgasm from oral, but when I do, it tends to be an incredibly intense and "hard" orgasm. I figure that this is because (1) if she's going to bring me off with her mouth, she's going to have to put some effort into it, which means I'll probably be on the edge of an orgasm for quite a while, resulting in a harder orgasm when I do come, and (2) I don't get to come in a woman's mouth very often (Amelia has a very touchy gag reflex!)

[yourvoyeurpal 15]

i have a hard time reaching orgasm from just oral sex and i don't think it has anything to do with technique. honestly, i enjoy intercourse so much more so that's the way i prefer to cum. i guess i like to save it for that. also, i need vigirous stimulation for a long period of time. i would feel uncomfortable and selfish if i asked someone to go down on me for half an hour or so:).

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

My ex COULD NOT orgasm from oral sex. I got him off one time that way it was basically him fucking my mouth. He's the only guy I've ever encountered that I had this problem with.

 

My current bf saw this topic title and started cracking up at the thought of a guy not getting off to oral sex. Go figure.

[RockrcplOrlando 15]

I just wanted to say that with my wife i've never ever had a problem orgasming from oral sex, But there have been times that i've lost my erection from other women...not good for either of our egos.

[Vjklander 138]

I can have anything from quickies to mind blowing orgasms from oral. I have actually had hyper-orgasms that way. But usually I use oral to get me harder and bigger for better fucking.

If you have trouble cumming or the girl gets a sore jaw, try this technique. Have her lay on her side with her head comfortably on a pillow. Kneel at her head and slide into her mouth. This really feels awesome and her jaw and neck won't get sore. I also like to cradle her head in my hand as I fuck her mouth. I do this several times a week if I have some time after my shower before I go to work. It's a great way to start the day.

[newtoswingingfl 15]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie

My current bf saw this topic title and started cracking up at the thought of a guy not getting off to oral sex. Go figure.

I'm definitely with him on that reaction. Oral (both giving and receiving) is one of my absolute favorite activities. I could probably give up sex for oral completely and be OK with it if I had to. I have *NO* problem getting off to oral. Of course, those of you who recognize me might remember my other post about stamina, too. hehe

[newtoswingingfl 15]

Vjk... good stuff right there.

[Paul&Audrey 21]

Originally posted by DragonsLair

My husband can cum from oral sex. In fact, he tends to have stronger orgasms that way.

 

On the rare occasions that we have a partner that doesnt mind giving a bj to finish

(Baremama has her reasons for not enjoying this), I always orgasm stonger with a unusually larger load!

 

Paul

[webbguy 27]

my lady is very good at blowjobs!! she loves my big head and sucks and licks it . She really knows how to massage my prostate to make me cum VERY MUCH!! she also loves cum on her face, she says it is good for her complection! lol

[Alura 2,775]

Twice, for long periods in our marriage, Mrs. Alura and I have restricted our love making to oral sex. I never failed to orgasm from oral sex, nor did she.

 

Mrs. Alura always makes sure I know she wants me to come in her mouth, plus her technique is remarkable. When her blue eyes, with a smile dancing in them, lock on mine at the moment the "tingle" starts, I'm a goner.

 

We once played with a couple in which the woman told me early on that she did not like cum in her mouth. I was never able to even get close to an oral orgasm with her; in fact, didn't enjoy her ministrations very much.

 

I think a man can sense whether a woman is sucking to get a man's cum or sucking in a way that will assure she won't get it.

 

As many have said, it's all in the minds, both hers and his.

 

Mr. Alura

[Greg & Sheryl 369]

Greg has never had a problem cumming from oral. To him, there wouldn't be much of a point to getting a blowjob unless he could cum. However, we understand that it is quite common for men to not be able to cum this way. In fact, Sheryl's previous husband could not. Even in porn movies, the men frequently have to jack themselves off in their partner's face or mouth at the end of a blowjob because the blowjob itself isn't sufficient for them. For Greg, while vaginal intercourse feels better from a physical standpoint, it’s a bigger psychological turn-on for him to have a lady suck him to completion.

 

Recently, we were playing with a certain couple for the first time and Sheryl was successful in getting him to cum in her mouth. According the male half, this made Sheryl the only women besides his wife to accomplish this. Furthermore, his wife hadn’t been able to do so until five years into their marriage. Sheryl has some serious oral skills!

[ShapesBlue 15]

I love having it done to me. It doesn't take me long to orgasm at all. My wife is the first one and hopefully not the last to get me off that way.

[pairbond 19]

For some reason, my wife has gotten much better at blowjobs in the last year

 

You don't suppose that "some reason" had anything to do with swinging, do you? Another of the many reasons why we love swinging! Experience with multiple partners, a little "coaching" from each, and learning some new or modified approaches to add to your "repertoire" is great! You can bring that new knowledge home to your own sex life, to the great pleasure of both of you!

 

pairbond

[alyricandced 15]

now, my husband has no problem reaching orgasm orally but early on in our relationship, it seemed like an impossibility. I think there was a cumulative effect from years of "holding his load at bay" and that he simply needed time to recondition himself to cumming in my mouth.

[SnSnLex 15]

My ex COULD NOT orgasm from oral sex. I got him off one time that way it was basically him fucking my mouth. He's the only guy I've ever encountered that I had this problem with.

 

My current bf saw this topic title and started cracking up at the thought of a guy not getting off to oral sex. Go figure.

 

 

Glad I'm not alone. Seriously though, I have never had anyone get me off that way. They will get this (ll) close but thats it. No problems at all any other way. I think I get into watching them work more than how it actually feels,

[ionsawmill 86]

I agree with tnohcpl. It's mostly mental.

 

When I was in my mid-20's, I had a problem ejaculating with any kind of intercourse. I could only reach orgasm through masturbation. Mainly, it was nerves. None of my girlfriends complained until I got my first blowjob. The girl was very frustrated because she kept working at it and nothing was happening. I was enjoying it, I just couldn't let go. My wife was the first woman to bring me to orgasm with just oral (on the top floor of a parking garage, in plain view of two busy hotels). Now I've learned to relax and let myself enjoy it.

 

I have a friend who doesn't let his wife give him head, even though she enjoys it. He can't have an orgasm from oral sex, because he said "it just feels dirty". He doesn't like anal for the same reason. He just doesn't feel comfortable putting his penis where, according to his upbringing, it isn't supposed to go.

[Baddog and Angel 15]

Funny you should ask ...

 

First, I'd have to say that I L-O-V-E a good bj. The hungry oral attentions of the Mrs. usually turn me into a wildman.

 

But that said, No, I rarely ejaculate from oral sex alone. It's like there's a trigger point to my ejaculation that is hard to hit orally. However, I have had multiple "body" orgasms during oral sex.

 

What is an orgasm without ejaculation? Well, you'll know it when it happens. It's your body going wild, just as with an ejaculation, but without the goo. It's different than ejaculation, but still a WOW experience for me.

 

So, I don't mind long lusty oral attention being paid to my cock without ejaculation. But t-o-o long sometimes numbs me. Even that, however, can have its advantages because when our foreplay shifts into fucking, a little bj numbness can prolong the intercourse.

 

Then again, if I want to "shoot the wad" as my honey blows me, I'll "assist" by stroking it as she is gobbling it ... and by the way, she can deep throat like a sword swallower. YOW!

 

Back in my callow youth, I was adverse to masturbating while receiving a woman's oral administrations. But after watching porn flicks, I got the idea. Ever notice how many male porn actors stroke it off while being sucked? Well, I figured that if it's good enough for them, it's okay for me. NOTE: it's perhaps more difficult in a 3some/4some situation because some women are not into the guy beating off while they are sucking him off. So, it's usually something i only do with Angel.

 

In summary: I don't usually ejaculate from oral alone, though the body orgasms are great. Long oral sessions may numb my cock, but that can make intercourse last longer. If I want to shoot during oral, I can stroke while Angel sucks (and BOY does see love to suck cock!). And my honey doesn't mind giving a long, mind-blowing ejaculationless bj because it means she gets to ride the bologna pony after all!!!

 

There's one downside to not ejaculating during a bj -- that is that some women won't relent...won't stop...if the man doesn't cum from oral. They'll seem resentful that he didn't "get off" for them, and take it personally -- sometimes, even criticize the guy. This can really burst my bubble and spoil the mood, because it's judgmental and personal.

 

My philosophy is that an orgasm (squirting and all) is not a destination, it's a journey. So if a woman doesn't cum from kissing or nipple play or teasing or cunnilingus or screwing or whatever...then I mix and match and try different combinations of the above until I can find a way to satisfy her and give her "release." After all, those "triggers" aren't always physical ones, and sometimes it's the mind that needs to be stimulated to set off the Big O.

 

Baddog

[Mr. Bliss 15]

Yes, I can cum from oral sex and mrs. Bliss sure knows how!

(although I think you must be really bad at sucking dick to not make me come)

As for the sensitivity, I can actually be to sensitive sometimes when this happens I don't like being sucked !?!????!!!! (imagine that)

[RW1F 15]

Interesting, I don't think I've ever in my life recieved a blowjob without some sort of hand masturbation from the lady. Not sure if I'd come just from mouth to penis stimulation but I'd guess that would be a yes. I just took for granted that a hand sliding along with the mouth or squeezing the boys was part of the deal. Guess I've been lucky.

 

I promise that every one of the guys that have said "no I cannot cum from oral" can certainly cum from masturbating with their own hand while thinking about Jenna Jameson so I'm a little confused I guess. Is a hand stroking the shaft/squeezing the boys while giving head not part of the deal or considered cheating?

[MrsBliss 18]

I always use my hands too, I don't think it will work any other way???

[Brit_Pair 62]

Is a hand stroking the shaft/squeezing the boys while giving head not part of the deal or considered cheating?

I've always thought of it as part of the deal. If your cock's in a woman's mouth, then surely she's giving you oral sex/head/a blow job? The hands are just a supplement, IMHO. They don't negate the oral element.

 

Or do they?

 

[LOOKIN4AGUY 16]

My first wife made me feel so uncomfortable about "cumming" in her mouth, that I never could. My "new" second wife took that as a challenge, and now she can make me cum in about 2 minutes!!! I love it, and the fact that she loves doing it!!

[F16AV8R 18]

It's weird. I am the first, and so far the only, able to make Mr AV8R cum from a blow job. He says he loves them and Iknow the visual drives him wild...But we've been married for 11 years and I have only been able to get him there maybe 10 times in our whole marriage. Sometimes, it relaxes him right to sleep. I have at times woken up the next morning with his pecker in my mouth as if I'd been nursing on it all night. He loves that. More often though, he just goes soft and we can't complete it for him. When we are having regular sex though, he's like the energizer bunny...he keeps going and going...Am I doing something wrong? Why is it sometimes he just goes soft even though he tells me it feels great?

[FunPair in VA 15]

The only variable is whether Mrs. FP wants me to or not.... sometimes she has other plans for my bod, sometimes she doesn't. And she certainly doesn't need to use her hands to make it happen.

[20ishCouple 15]

Mr. 20ish can orgasm when recieving a blow job, sometimes he will j/o a lil bit before I start giving him a blow job, it makes it a lot easier to orgasm, and a whole lot more intense.

[MV325 16]

Mr loves oral and has no problem. Always available for it!!

[Cpl2share 147]

Mrs. Cpl does not want any in her mouth, so I have never tried to, but on a few occasions it has been very very very close. I would have to say, yep in about 5 minutes if ever given the chance.

[funwithtne 15]

E here, to answer your question simply; YES. But she (T) is a master at pleasing oraly and loves to do me that way. She likes to play games sometimes and see how far she can get me to shoot, sometimes she just unloads me on her breasts giving quite a show and other times she swallows every last drop...but anyway she does me theres always one thing that makes her sucksessful she WANTS to please me and Wants to make me cum! The biggest turn off for me is when a girl doesn't want to perform the act and I've lost some good wood when thats detected! I think what makes me cum the hardest is when she starts getting off on the fact that shes pleasing me...Its a snowball effect!

[WesternSwing 504]

Wow... I'm surprised I hadn't answer to this previously.

 

I am also in the same camp of I don't cum easily from a blowjob. Intercourse is different, but BJ's no. I do love them though because I do last so long and it's nice to just feel everything for awhile. But when Mrs. WS's mouth starts to get tired she moves back and forth from the BJ to the hand job or just gives-up an gets on top.

 

Mr. WS

[TheSwingerSet 205]

Pretty much the same here, I can cum from them but it takes awhile. Most times I choose not to cum from oral with playmates just because I like to save it for the main event so to say. But when Mrs swinger is down there look out, its like a volcanic eruption, the earth shakes, the skys darken and the "magma" flows.

 

K

[pdogg 42]

Great topic. My wife and I have been together since the 6th grade and started having sex when I was 16 and she 18. Up until about 21 or 22 I was definitely a "quick cummer". The longer we were together and the more sex we had that started to change. Clearly, maturity on my part played a huge role as I learned to really "please" my wife. Our foreplay was extended and she really explained to me what felt good and what didn't. I did the same and eventually I started lasting longer and longer. I really learned to control my rhythm and staying power. But up until now that has backfired because I cannot seem to orgasm from a blowjob. I concentrate so much on our lovemaking being over that I forget what the end result should be and that is to cum. She has agreed many times to give me the 20 minute blowjob but I get so frustrated that we immediately have sex. I became so proud of the fact that I could last long that I lost sight of what it was all about. Watching all that damn porn doesn't help matters. I need to remind myself that I don't get paid to last long and concentrate on having fun. Sorry for the lengthy letter but this really hit home.

[Maryk 15]

I guess I'm in the same boat as others here. I can have an orgasm from oral sex alone, though it usually takes some time. There are probably ways to cut down the time though. What works best for us, when it comes to both time and pleasure, is a mix of masturbation (with her at the ready, so to speak) and oral sex. Some guys are better in certain positions as well. I have issues with getting orally pleased while I am laying flat on my back, for example, so you'd never get me to orgasm in that position using only oral.