Birth Control for teenage daughter
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By udsarge
Speaking as a recent snip-"ee", does the fact that a potential playmate has had a vasectomy a plus, a minus, or doesn't even factor into consideration when evaluating a new partner in the lifestyle?
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By prometheius
I thought it would be interesting to find out other peoples views on the subject of safe sex/being surgically safe. N8tureGirl and I have been in the lifestyle for just over a year now, and we’ve found that most of the males of the couples we’ve played with are not surgically safe. I am V-safe and as of this month, N8tureGirl will be surgically safe also. What I would like to know is: Why don’t more people address this issue? I do realize that there may be some people out here that might still wish to have children, but for the most part, if they haven’t had kids by now, what are they waiting for? After all, most of us here are 30 somethings or older. I have been frustrated by people, (men in particular), who seem to think that it should be our responsibility to make sure a pregnancy doesn’t happen. Condoms don’t always work, and most people say that they don’t like using them since it does change the sensations felt or not felt. To further my opinion on this matter, sterilization is much less expensive and uncomfortable for the men than the women.
When we got into swinging, we didn’t think about the fact that we were going to have to spend thousands (literally), on having the Mrs. fixed so she could enjoy herself without that concern hanging over her head. We’ve been told by more than one man that he was afraid that having the procedure done would hurt. This is a WTF moment for me, is there no pain in bearing a child? What about the financial pain of raising an unplanned child, or worse yet, the emotional pain of terminating an unwanted pregnancy? To me, this smacks of being self centered and makes me want to tell the guy that he can play with us once he gets his business taken care of. Fortunately, that will soon no longer be an issue for us.
I just wanted to hear other peoples' opinions on this issue.
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By ErikaAndPeter
As newbies, my husband Peter and I have learned so much here. We greatly appreciate the community at Swingers Board. As we are seeking to become more involved in swinging, one of our concerns is pregnancy. We are both fertile. If I were to become pregnant, either by Peter or another man, it would be easy for me to have an abortion. However, if he impregnated another woman, it would be up to her to decide what to do, without us having any say. Peter does not like condoms, and of course they can fail. I am urging him to consider having a vasectomy. We are wondering what more experienced couples have faced in terms of pregnancies, vasectomies, or tubal ligations. Also, what situation in the poll best applies to you?
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By Malachista
How would you react in the moment it happens? Will you continue to play? Would you go bareback for the rest of that session? What would you do in the days/weeks/months afterwards?
Would you act different if you knew that people involved were T or V-safe/generally religious with birth-control?
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By couplers
Hello, Petra here again with an update on our family situation, which currently consists of my husband, Clair, me, Red, our son Junior, our daughter Petunia (Clair's, mine and hubby's), along with Lora who is a lover to hubby, a sex partner for all of us, and sort of a permanent guest, like one of the family. I generally avoid talking about two things at work - houses and kids because people usually go on about them too much, but you folks here might be interested because of our poly/sexual situation.
Clair has been pushing the idea that we should get on with our personal lives instead of putting work first. She has pretty much already done that, devoting herself to Junior and Petunia over her career. Lora has been great with the children as well. Clair especially wants to have another child (she wants both of us to become pregnant at the same time again, like last time). I agree with her. I enjoy being a mom, especially being so bonded with Clair in all of this, and I have proven to my own satisfaction my competence at my "job". At first it was mostly skill, both technical and managerial, but now I am into the ranks where politics play much more into it. I'm good at it, but proving myself in that BS isn't satisfying.
One project we've been working on is getting a new house. Clair, hubby, the children and I (and Lora most of the time) currently live in a house that we bought when it was just David and I. The next place will need to have room for us, plus the future children we plan to have. We all agree that Red must be next to us, but not in the same house, in order to accommodate his working habits and situation. Especially since Red will be the father of my next child, he needs to be right next to us when his help is needed. We've looked at a number of places with and it comes down to either a place with "mother-in-law" quarters plus a garage for Red, or two adjacent properties (next to each other or back to back) that are the right sizes. That would be more of a pain to work out, buying two places and building a breezeway for Red (or digging a tunnel, as hubby suggests).
It is both thrilling and frightening to think about getting another home, however it may be configured, and having more children. But without a doubt, we're all in it for the long haul.
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