Can you describe your ideal swing partner(s)?

Elusive BiFem · May 11, 2004

If you could write the script, so to speak...

What would be the most ideal swing partner/couple for you?

Location? Friends in addition to swing partners? Age? Body type/build? Interests? All that sort of stuff?

Your ideal is.....

- EBF

frenzb4sex · May 11, 2004

Hmmm...

1)Ours would be someone who lives probably about 30-45 minutes away from us. That way, they are close enough for us to be able to do things year round without the travel hassle, yet aren't right in our backyard and have the possibility of being "there" all the time.

2) Friends in addition to swing partners? Yes, in the sense that we would be interested in their outside life, interests, etc., because that increases the experience overall. However, with the delicate balance of the sex added, which sometimes can amplify things, we wouldn't want to become absolutely best buds, but still would be happy to do things "vanilla" like with them outside of the bedroom and not every meeting would have to be sexually charged.

3) Ages...Compatible to us, which would be anywhere from 25-35. Actually, we've found that those that are in the 35 year old range seem to work best with us, because of maturity levels.

4) Body type/build. For the ladies, a voluptuous woman with currrrrrrrrrrrrrrrves. If she can be about 5'8" or better, I am drooling the second I see her! Blonde with blue eyes and a deep tan YUMMY. In the bedroom, she is aggressive, yet not dominant. A casual flirt with a sparkling attitude and the ability to make intelligent conversation. For the men, Lora would like a man about 6 foot tall, the big teddy bear type, who is a classy and attentive person. Humor for both of them is a HUGE plus. Not crass or too forward. Together, the couple we would like are people that aren't afraid to try new things and have fun.

5) Interests--sports is a good start for us, as well as kids under the age of 10. We've been most compatible with are ones we can relate about our kids with.

6) Lastly, the ideal couple is one that while friends with us, doesn't need to be with us or have to talk to us all the time. What we mean is someone that is not clingy or needy, but can go a week or so without having to "check in".

Tim

fun_pairTX · May 11, 2004

1)Located within an hour of us, close enough that it is handy by Texas standards, but not in out backyard

2) Friends in addition to swing partners? Yes, but for us this is something that develops as time goes on.

3) Ages? Anywhere in the 35-55 yr old range that covers 5 years on either end of Mrs Fun and I.

4) Body type/build/orientation. Mrs Fun and I both prefer gals a tad heavier than average, the curvy types. She would be bi to say the least. Mr. would be Str8. Body type preferred by Mrs Fun? Anything but skinny.

5) Interests--I tend to be a bit eclectic and like to BS with people that are just as familiar with Renoir as they are NASCAR. We both like our friends and playmates to be a bit "off the wall" humor wise. A solid background in Monty Python, Marx Brothers, Mae West/WC Fields is preferred. Jim Carrey fans can stay home sorry.

6) Call us at your leisure, we will do the same. We have an LTR together, don't need or want another. Don't think that we don't value your friendship. We just value our space.

2New2it · May 11, 2004

Male or female, they must have enough things in common with us that we can enjoy getting together for more than sex. We have no interest in one night stands, no matter how physically attractive the potential playmate might be.

We both prefer people who are a bit on the plus side of a perfect body. Women with curves are appreciated, and looks are not important if there is physical attraction. Cleanliness is mandatory and pierced body parts or tatoos are pretty much a turnoff.

We much prefer people our age and since a lot of folks in their 50's have no interest in recreational sex, that limits our activities. My wife does enjoy a substantially younger male playmate, but usually doesn't appreciate their out-of-bed personality as much as someone closer to our age.

It makes no difference where the person lives if we can get together a few times a year.

We're quite conservative in all aspects of our life and that really limits the number of people we enjoy being around, since conservatism and recreational sex don't often travel hand in hand.

One final thing. We have three dogs and won't even think about playing with someone who didn't love dogs, or who had a problem if they got dog hair on their clothing while visiting us.

Elusive BiFem · May 11, 2004

Now, I ask, what could possibly be bad about people with this attitude?

Let's hear it for dog lovers!!!

- EBF

(PS: I'm like ya'll. I tell all people...if you don't like dogs, giving dog pets, dogs just sitting and staring at you with a forlorn and pitiful look...don't come over.)

NotsoNew · May 12, 2004

Agree alot with frenzbeforsex

Ideal couple - Not next store, but close enough within an hour drive. Outgoing. Like to have a connection with real life before we plan.

Yes, prefer that they become friends but not needed before swing.

Age/Body Type - It is all about personality to us. Not too concerned about age, but tend to look for folks in the 35 - 45 age range. We are not all that concerned with body type - looking for a connection of interests.

Interests - We like couples that have some of the same interests as us but are always open to new ideas.

I also agree that we don't need to check in every day. Every once in a while via email or IM okay with us...

pa_chip · May 12, 2004

Except for the distance, it might be you EBF!!!!

Have a nice day!

MrsBliss · May 12, 2004

Location: somewhere in the Netherlands would be quite nice I think within an hour distance is perfect so you can drive home afterwards without falling asleep behind the wheel.

Friends: I think I like that, I would especially like to be friends with the woman, because it is nice to chit chat with someone about the lifestyle.

Age: Between 25 and 40.

Body type: average, not very skinny, not very obese.

Interests: I want to be able to have a nice talk during the evening and also afterwards, so shared interests will be important. Could be horses, cars, news. It would be fun if they like dancing because I do!

I would want them to be outgoing, not shy. Comfortable in their own relationship, mind and body. I do not like it when people are very insecure so that I have to reassure them.

Mmm, need to start a search!

yawanna · May 12, 2004

My ideal is.....another couple,professional, educated, our age range, have 'swung' before with little or no repercussions to themselves or others, married and in a stable, loving, supportive relationship, sarcastic or dry wit, kind, sexual and erotic - no BDSM or kink or fetish, that are incredibly attracted to us, and vice versa. You know..the can't keep your hands off each other attraction. Nothing is HOTTER than that IMHO

"is that a gun in your pocket...or are you just glad to see me"

May 12, 2004

Why yes it is. It's a single shot, long barreled, beaver rifle.

wrnakedru · May 12, 2004

We look for couples that are either married or in an LTR. We like them to be of enough geographic convenience that it works for us to spend social time together as well as enjoying shared intimate time. We prefer that they have had enough experience to know they are comfortable with the idea of sharing.

We seek those in the 40-60 yr range as that gives a cushion on both sides of our ages - - and feel that it means we stand the chance of some similar life experiences.

Humor is a hugely important attribute to us - - we find those who cannot laugh at much of what life throws our way to be just plain boring. We think mutual attraction is essential and don't want anything to do with those who are just along to appease their partner. Therefore, kindness toward each other is very necessary.

Cleanliness and all those other basics are important. But most of all, good communication with each other - and the ability to enjoy life as it happens.

JustAskJulie · October 2, 2005

Location: Within an hour drive

Beyond that, they would need to be a couple that we both got along with really well and could hang out with as friends, be flirty with, and occasionally get down and dirty.

For some reason it's always been the case that people who fit the description tend to live at least 4 hours away.

MV325 · October 2, 2005

Due to remote location distance within one week. Ages preferably 35 - 55. Friends, maybe, possibly, could be. Good humour, no hang ups, slim(ish) female, teddy bear(ish) male.

Alura · October 2, 2005

Now, we're talkin' serious "ideal," here folks!

Our couple would live next door. He would be a "car guy" and she "artsy-craftsy". Both would be college educated, interested in politics, home decor, Twenty-year-old Porsches, gardening, music, football, and maybe other things as we think of them.

They would have two daughters, thirteen and sixteen, who play in the school band, are honor students, and could play fiddle and keyboard or steel guitar in a country-rock band. Both would sing beautifully and understand harmonization.

Because a partner very different from one's spouse is a valuable and fun part of swinging, she would be long-haired slender 5'3" and he would be six feet or so but with a swimmer's, (not a lineman's) body. He would own a TIG welder.

They would be good friends but not lovers. We're not talking polyamory. Just like any other "best friends" except we'd have sex, too.

Alura

SanDiegoM4cpl · October 7, 2005

ideal swing partners.

a bit older than me....late 30s early 40s. settle in the realtionship and in love. close. 15 to 20 miles away. they have a house with a garage, he likes to work around the house on the weekend and loves to have me over to help out. i become the friend to them that is beyond the bedroom. we watch movies together at home, goto dinners and enjoy sporting events.

when he works late, he calls me to run by the house and check on things. when he is caught at work, she calls me to escort her to the mall to have someone to tlak to.

we work on old porsches together (i have an 83 911) and we go to PCA events, go mountain hiking biking and to the beach together. he and i spend tme together and she and i can be alone too. when we are together sexually, its an event that is miraculous. love between them is awesome and im there to spice up sex.

oh to dream.....

kyle

lynn3 · October 8, 2005

Good Grief...>fun-pair!!! With the exception of being about 500 miles away, you guys sound perfect!!! I couldn't have written a better explanation for us!!

So our 'ideal' couple, would basically be what they said but with the exception of an Alabama locale!!!

clutch · October 3, 2006

Our partners are very real and very honest; (not about painfully pointing out others' faults, but rather about what they're feeling and experiencing.

Usually we begin a session with a group massage which invariably turns into an orgy during which we kind of all go lizard brain. After that, and after we've recovered some, we pair off. We all have to be on the same wavelength for all of this.

We have to be able to have intellegent conversations and play games, cook together, hike together and watch movies in the in-between times.

The guys have to like and appreciate the guys and the gals have to like and appreciate the gals.

If we stopped swinging tomorrow, we'd still be friends.

And, by the way, we were a long time in finding a couple such as this.

And, as I've said before, we're more good friends that fuck rather than polymorists. This is based on what I've discerned that "polymory" entails a deeper, profounder relationship.

JDApopka · October 4, 2006

He would own a TIG welder Mr Alura, thats funny as a car nut I completely understand.

We had a couple of mfm's with one of my car buddys years ago

stu · May 9, 2007

attractive and fun to be with

Tia Vampire · May 10, 2007

I would like to be to be in a threesome with what i would call my ideal swing playmate partner. He would have to have long wavy black hair, sculped body,a nice round ass, and a beautiful smile. Oh my, I think i just described my fiance, but he just does not have the sculpted body. Guess this is why i have not been in a threesome yet.

2TexasTornados · May 10, 2007

Location: Anywhere from next door to about 30 miles away. We don't like to use up a lot of time driving, and aren't uncomfortable with them being "in the backyard".

Friends in addition to swing partners: Yes, either just enough to have a few good non-sex conversations, or good enough that our kids all have sleepovers, we as families barbecue in the yard, go see July 4th fireworks together, etc.

Age, Body type/build, Interests: Age isn't that important, but we like people in our "stage" - settled, with kids, long married, but not "retired" and rocking on the porch yet. Body type is also not hugely important. I've seen attractive people of all body types, it's more about chemistry. As for interests, we'd like to bowl, have casual get togethers at our house, see a movie, take the kids to Chuck E Cheese or the park, ride motorcyles, camp, go on bike (bicycle) tours, etc. We have all kinds of interests and usually manage to find a few in common with just about anyone.

curiouscpl72 · May 10, 2007

friends in addition to swing partners that we can all hang out with no expectations,chemistry for all considered,interested in trying out fantasies,relatively close to each other-in fact I think my husband and I have found our couple and are tickled pink purple and blue!!

P&J

Alura · May 10, 2007

funpairTX wrote:

Jim Carrey fans can stay home sorry."

Who is Jim Carrey?

Mr. Alura

2TexasTornados · May 10, 2007

Jim Carrey is a comic actor.

Liar Liar

The Mask

Bruce Almighty

Ace Ventura Pet Detective

WesternSwing · December 27, 2007

Individual "ideal" changes from one person to the next. I quip that I can never tell my wife's "type" because the men she is attracted to varies so much. And I think I am the same with women, it's more the whole person than any one physical attribute. But I will say that intelligence is a huge part of attractiveness for me.

Now couple/situation-wise? Both Mrs. WS and I like having our swing partners a friends and having the ability to date them over and over and over. The sex just gets better as we become more familiar with each other physically. I'd say also a couple that can play solo if the opportunity arises since sometimes we like to also and having a playmate that we can also helps quite a bit.

Mr. WS

des1re06 · December 28, 2007

Thanks for bringing this topic back. As the new year begins, we're thinking more along the lines of finding that "ideal" couple. We sat down together and thought this through.

1. All 4 should be attracted (no taking one for the team), but no MM. Bi-fem is NOT important.

2. Fun, outgoing and light-hearted

3. Flirty and confident

4. Able to travel (clubs, resorts, events, new and exciting destinations)

5. Curvy female

6. Intelligent conversationalists

7. Willing to explore fantasies

8. They have a strong, loving relationship like us

9. Not overly possessive

10. Not heavy drinkers or illegal drug users around us (what they do on their own time is their business)

11. Willing to vocalize their likes/dislikes (not assuming you already know)

Wishing everyone luck in finding their ideal playmates this year!

Mr. & Mrs. D

magiriano · January 2, 2008

Within 30 to 60 mins away,mrs Magiriano has had meaningless relationships and fuck buddies so she wants business and nothing alse. Mr Magiriano would like friends with benefits so we will play it by ear . Age with some reserve from 25 to 45 giving us a 10 yr margin either way.

Any couple that`s been married (not common law) for a while, has good family values, children, pets, good hygiene and over all is clean, safe, sane and discreet will get to the next level.

She would have to be a slim to medium build, height unimportant, as long as she has a perky ass and breasts no larger than a C cup.She`d have to be black, mulato, hispanic, asian or anything of a darker ethnicity. Blond blue eyed and big breasts are a major turn off for him. A pierced clit and tastefully done tattoos would be a bonus.

He would ideally be tall dark and handsome, medium build, George Clooney look alikes would be a bonus:facelick: however Brad Pitt would get a pass. Excessive body hair is a major turn off for her. Tasteful and not excessive body piercings and tattoos are ok

There would definitely have to be chemistry between all four of us since neither one would take one for the team. Profession, education and line of work are unimportant as long as they could carry an intelligent conversation. We`re both well traveled, well spoken, and educated and we would like an evening with people that we have something in common with. We like to dance, have a healthy sense of humour and altho we don`t drink and Mr Magiriano is a smoker we don`t mind social drinkers who are not chain smokers..

We want no strings attached clean safe sane and consensual sex with no expectations of everlasting friendship. If we`d wanna swing with friends we we`d do it with our vanilla friends.

cocpl2007 · January 2, 2008

Great thread, don’t know why it got lost for so long!

Our script:

1. Loving married couple, totally committed to each other.

2. Swing adds spice to an already savory sexual appetite.

3. Must be more drawn to couples play rather than swapping.

4. Intelligent, educated, clean, healthy, very physically and mentally active.

5. Location isn’t all that important, but being within an hour or two would be nice.

6. Ability to communicate wants and desires.

7. Good natured, light hearted. Share a mutual responsibility for get-togethers ~ for play or otherwise.

8. Conservative in values, liberal in ideas.

9. Comfortable in their own skin...sans clothes a bonus!

10. And lastly Mrs. Co prefers the tall muscular types, and Mr. Co prefers the curvy, sexy, athletic types.

crazycatz · January 2, 2008

Intelligent, laidback, no ego whatsoever, down to earth. Not into hard drugs.

I don't like to play with people too much younger than me (25 is generally my bottom limit) and as for an upper age limit, I generally play it by ear and don't have a top age in mind per se. Having said that I find myself leaning more towards the under 45-range.

Thats my ideal whether it be women, men or couples.

couplewanting50 · January 3, 2008

Individuals with whom you share powerful, mutual desire. When you feel the quality of the fit and love it, wanting more. Visceral appeal.

Too many factors can range over too much terrain — and still achieve what I mention above — to neatly list bullet points covering a profile.

Swing*8701 · January 3, 2008

Susan here: My ideal swing partner has played with me many times before. He enjoys sex with me one on one, threesomes and foursomes and is adept in all situations. He smiles a lot. He knows it's not about the sex act, but how he engages me because my body really responds to that. He's really into having sex with me, because I'm really into having sex with him. Lastly, he always has an incredible wife, whether she's bi or straight, who has no qualms with sharing her husband and letting him have a great time with me.

The good news is that we have three couples like this in our lives.

couplewanting50 · January 3, 2008

I love the truth and meaning in this.....

SW_PA_Couple · July 23, 2012

Ideal swing partner -- that's my wife as she is my partner in everything.

But apart from my wife, the ideal partner would enjoy the sex however it happened on the spur-of-the-moment, give me a nice smile, say "thank you" and, in the Hollywood sense, say "we must do this again some time," move on to the next thing that engaged her attention, think not much of me again until the next time we bumped into each other.

To put it more simply, no strings attached.

sweet_tna · July 24, 2012

Ideally, Daniel Craig and Jessica Biel would be a couple and live next door.

Realistically, We'd like 'em to share a four-way attraction; live within an hour of us; and be the kind of folks we can be friends with outside of the boudoir.

=)

mauijanedoe · July 24, 2012

Ideally, live within an hour's drive, have both a juicy four-way attraction and the friend vibe going on. Age somewhere from mid-30s to mid-60s. I don't think either one of us have a type in terms of bodies, but we're both turned off by smoking and heavy drinking. Fellow nerds are much appreciated, but we can both talk about anything and we like others who can do the same, so nerdiness is not required.

What would be required in ideal swing partners is that sort of ingrained sensuality that's tough to describe but easy to see and feel. We both like that a lot.

SkeLo · November 26, 2014

Well accessible esp. when traveling overseas... prefer beautiful Asian women... happy to share in with couples but like most of shared in this thread def need to have some things in common, otherwise it just becomes a booty call or even some sorts prostituting oneself out..

Though I guess it would depend again on situation, the parties involved...

All I know if it was local... I am more interested in Asian Persuasion... though would be open to other diversities depending on the other person or couple... alot of if's really.

Age ranging anywhere from 18-40

Single, Couple (not married), Bi Women

If it was local like most people... within an hour or so... got to keep the fuel economy in mind...

Petite, slender, average... as long as the female had a decent rack on her...

Meet before hand a few times over a few quiet drinks, or even at a cafe... set the mood...

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