Shy newbies

[The other side of us 23]

Hi

Me and the Mrs have  been married 20+ years and still have an amazing sex life, although we have never shared or been with anyone else during that time.

 

We have ofter over the years brought MFM up as fantasies while having sex and used toys to help to make it a bit more life like. It's always led to amazing, fun and exciting sex sessions.

 

More recently the talk has become more real, for want of a better word, although i think we are way off being in a place where we would actually go to a club, a club would be the preference over a meet.

 

A little bit about  ourselves sex wise. We are both a lover of foreplay and massively in to oral, Mrs loves (and I mean loves) sucking my cock a d I live for eating her out , fingering her or both at the same time.

 

She has amazing tits with sensitive nipples that she loves being  stroked, pulled and pinched, even slapped at times when she's riding me.

 

She has an amazing  tight pussy that tastes amazing.

 

She says I have a big cocktail but I think she's just being kind, probably fairly average.

 

One of the main issues for us to actually make the first step is Mrs  sadly has body confidence issues being a size 18/20. As incredible as I think she is and I tell her every day, she doesn't think she is and certainly  doesn't  think she would fit in or be found appealing. 

 

We are also both knocking on the door of 50 so think we may be getting to old for others.

 

Actual play wise I think we would start just with each other, maybe in a room with others and I can't see us ever getting  past soft swinging including oral. I certainly  wouldn't want to have full sex with someone else and I don't think I could handle it the other  way around, I know she feels the same.

 

So there you go, that's where we are at, it may stay a bed time fantasy it may progress, only time will tell.

 

Please let us know what you think, we are looking forward to your comments.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Welcome

 

8 minutes ago, The other side of us said:

One of the main issues for us to actually make the first step is Mrs  sadly has body confidence issues being a size 18/20. As incredible as I think she is and I tell her every day, she doesn't think she is and certainly  doesn't  think she would fit in or be found appealing. 

Body confidence issues are sadly common in Western culture. We as a society has a very unrealistic image of the female form (and the male form come to that). 

 

The truth of the matter is there is a lot of diversity in attraction. A hard fact is that, yes, some people will probably reject her for her body type. However, in my not-so-humble opinion, those aren't the kind of people I would want to play with anyway. Other people, more than she thinks, will be attracted to her purely for her body type. The good ones, again in my not-so-humble opinion, will the ones attracted to her. Confidence, humor, a sense of fun and personal style matter.

 

14 minutes ago, The other side of us said:

We are also both knocking on the door of 50 so think we may be getting to old for others.

Actually, while there aren't any good studies for the swinger population, in my experience and from everything I have heard that will put you slightly on the high side of average for swingers. In general swingers tend to be older, established couples... mid 30's to mid 50's being the most common age groups I've encountered.

 

While some clubs and swinger gatherings do cater to twenty-something hot bodies (and most websites tend to put them front and center) the truth is most of us have a little grey in our hair, a little extra padding around the middle and a lot of joy brought on by lives well-lived and life lessons well-learned.

[The other side of us 23]

Thank you. I agree 100% around attraction, for me she's the hottest women in the world and I'm not only lucky to have her but feel sorry for others not being lucky enough to be with her and experience her.

 

 

[enhancer 1,585]

Swingers are not some elite group of super models!  They are the same people you see day to day at the grocery store or restaurant. Considering the obesity rate in North America is over 40 percent and there are even more people then that which are over weight you can expect to see the same in people that swing.  There will be no problem finding plenty of people that find your wife attractive although it might not be everyone.  I am sure she does not find everyone attractive either.

 

As for your age that will not be an issue either!  There are way more people in your age range that swing then people in their 20 or early 30’s. 
 

There are also lots of people that are not interested in full swap.  You can find people that are interested in many different scenario’s out there.  You just have to find the ones with the same wants as you and do not feel pressured by anyone to do anything you do not want to.  Also don’t settle for anyone you don’t think is a good match.  It can take time, but you are worth it.

[The other side of us 23]

Cheers, it certainly something we get excited about. Like I say the way she loves sucking cock should be experienced by everyone.
Sucking her way through a line of cock is one of her go to thoughts when she's getting herself off with her favourite toy.

[enhancer 1,585]

41 minutes ago, The other side of us said:

Cheers, it certainly something we get excited about. Like I say the way she loves sucking cock should be experienced by everyone.
Sucking her way through a line of cock is one of her go to thoughts when she's getting herself off with her favourite toy.

Well you are in luck, because most men love their cock sucked as much as she loves sucking cock!

[NC_Seniors 518]

5 hours ago, The other side of us said:

We are also both knocking on the door of 50 so think we may be getting to old for others.

Not really!  We started in our mid and late 60s, and got to experience the lifestyle for only a year or so before COVID shut us down.  But in that time, we were with half a dozen couples and every one of them was younger than we are.  Three were in their early 60s, one in their late 50s, one in their mid 40s, and one was M late 40s F early 30s.  So you’re FAR from too old for this!!

[Thegreyarea 100]

The age thing really isn’t an issue. I’m 44 and some of the most amazing sex I’ve had in the LS has been with women over 50. There was one woman that was 58 that completely rocked my world. Sexy is sexy, age doesn’t matter. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

The next time you are out in public, look around. What you see is what swingers look like. They are rarely super models (with us being the exception - lol) and usually look just like your next door neighbors. All too often, most women have body issues...the fastest way to take care of that is to visit a swingers club. Sure, there will be some really hot looking people there, but most of the people will be 'regular people' and some will be too skinny and some will be bigger, but I guarantee that your wife will fit in just fine. Also, there are men and couples that don't even like the super model type (like us) and feel that real women have curves. I know it's hard to convince her before going, but afterwards she will feel just fine. At the same time, we use swinging as motivation for us to take better care of ourselves as well (stupid covid allowing us to get soft...time to get back into the 'swing' of things).

 

The one thing that women don't realize is that it doesn't matter how you look in the skin you are in, but how you FEEL and PROJECT in that skin. Beauty is only skin deep, but sexy has nothing to do with beauty...it comes from within and has everything to do with how confident and comfortable you are within that skin.

 

Finally there's age: you (IOHO) are in the 'sweet spot' for swingers. Most swingers are either early 20's (without kids) or late 40's or older (after the kids have left the nest). You will easily be able to find more than a few couples your age. However, there is only one way to find out what we are saying is true: take that next step and check it out (it doesn't mean you have to DO anything). Find a club and see if what we said is true and if it isn't you get to come back and call us all lairs (check out the search function, nobody has call us on this yet), Set up a free profile and see what swingers in your area look like online (although you will have more success finding people if you join that site). This is all especially true when you are looking for a single guy. There are men for every 'type' out there. While single women are rare (known as unicorns due to their rarity), single men are like cheeseburgers at McD's...they're all over the menu). Bottom line is that you will never know until you take that next step and that is totally up to the two of you now. Good luck and report back.

[The other side of us 23]

That's great advice thank you. Still chatting about it and sharing ideas. Speak soon

[Eros Couple 2]

Fantasies do serve a purpose during sex but often do not translate well to real life. It really depends on the overall condition of you relationship and not just what makes you hot in bed. In our case, we had taken this lifestyle compatability test and found that our relationship first needed work before attempting any lifestyle participation.

 

If you still believe that you would like to move forward with the addition of another male, then you may want to test the waters with a ‘gateway’ activity such as webcamming with an anonymous person or allowing your wife to give  a hand job to the man of her choice at a Swingers Club. Either of these activities would be ‘loads’ of fun!