Help!! For newbies... 😅

[Olive94 1]

Me and my Partner have recently joined a couple of swinging group, however what we thought it was is not how it is portrayed on these websites. 

 

Before we was willing to meet up, we wanted to get to know couples/females first and go from there. 

 

We are madly in love and have an amazing sex life so we aren't desperate, however the people on these websites are coming across very desperate and that is not what we are about as we are already very satisfied😬

We have also had a couple of fakes which is really annoying.

 

 

[Idahocouple6969 294]

You might want to join a paid for swingers site. There is a list at the top of the page. You can join for free to look around and decide which one you like best. Different areas have sites that are more active. I have no idea why.

 

Don't just write a couple word answers in your profile. We read a lot of things other people wrote. And modeled ours after couples that we thought we would like to meet.

 

I will tell you that when you decide which one is best, you need to actually buy a membership. Other people just won't take you seriously if you remain a "free" member. Honestly we don't even open up their profiles.

Good luck. And keep us posted.

[Olive94 1]

Thank you for replying :).

 

We paid membership for both websites, and verified them, we did also notice that we found very little people who were verified.

 

We let people people know what we were looking for but again they came across desperate. I get that there will be a few that will try their look... but this was ridiculous. 

 

Do you have any recommendations regards to any good websites? 

 

Thank you again:)

 

 

[lcmim 1,086]

Where are you?

For us this revolves around networking. If anyone here is near you they may be able to point you to some people.

 

The hook up sites do tend to fill up with goal oriented folks. This is fine in that they are being honest, but it may be a bit off putting to those just starting out.

 

Our very first face to face ended up being a mentoring session, by their design. They knew we were new and wanted to get us off on the right foot. They asked us about why, who instigated, if any pressure was in play. We still think of them almost like godparents.

[Olive94 1]

Thank you for replying l.

 

We live in Warwickshire In England.

 

Oh wow that sounds amazing. We have no idea what we are doing.

 

We may have found someone today, and have been chatting, they seem decent enough, but only time will tell.

 

We just don't want to rush into anything very quickly and get ahead of ourselves if it's too good to be true. 

 

 

 

[lcmim 1,086]

We are in Milwaukee Wisconsin USA. This group certainly has a wide geographical footprint.

 

Slow is good. Things tend to work best when not in a big rush.

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

A silver lining of the pandemic: asking for a video call (Zoom, Skype, whatever) is now part of the fabric of life. Perfectly reasonable to suggest a 15-30 minute "get to know you" call, adult beverage in hand and whatever virtual background you want. You'll quickly learn:

 

1. Who shows up

2. Whether the couple is on the same page

3. Whether the photos were ten years ago and 50# lighter

4. Whether they can hold a conversation

5. Whether you might be interested in meeting them in person

 

If the 'other couple' cannot find 15-30 min to meet you on a "Zoom call" , it's telling. 

If after 15-30 min you decide to go your separate ways, it's a small investment.

If you decide to meet, at least you'll know what they look like when you get to the restaurant or bar or whatever.