Is it Swinging or Swinging Acts

[BillyandDebbie 301]

Thinking men and women swing for many reasons, is it the act of swinging or the acts we do when swinging. Do you think of being with a new partner or do you think of the acts you and a new partner will do. We have been invited to swing with friends for years and we talk plenty about the possibility. We are open in our discussion which goes in many directions. Debbie asked me what I think makes me want to swing with our friend. I said I want to see her naked. Then what? I could see myself running my hands over her body and reaching between her legs. Then? Tasting her and get her to the point of full sex. So Debbie said it’s the sex act I already planned. 
Reversing the question to Debbie, she said she only thinks of being with him and that it will be different. Two naked bodies. She hasn’t thought how she would get naked. I asked if she thought about his penis and she said she was pretty sure he had one. I asked if she wanted particular things, all she said was if she went that far she hoped the sex would be good. 
I think about the sexual acts and she thinks of the act of swinging. Is this a difference by gender or just us talking? Am I over thinking again. 

[lcmim 1,082]

When you think of washing the car, do you think of getting the bucket, soap hoses etc. and then the process. Does she just see that the car is dirty and something should be done about it?

[BillyandDebbie 301]

13 minutes ago, lcmim said:

When you think of washing the car, do you think of getting the bucket, soap hoses etc. and then the process. Does she just see that the car is dirty and something should be done about it?

That’s funny. Yes I do get the bucket, hose, soap and sponge, she takes it to the car wash. 

[lcmim 1,082]

See any comparisons with your approaches to swinging?

[BillyandDebbie 301]

48 minutes ago, lcmim said:

See any comparisons with your approaches to swinging?

She enjoys cooking, with a list of ingredients, and I enjoy eating. 
I did mention eating in swinging too

[lcmim 1,082]

Seems that you each have personal approaches to many things.

[BillyandDebbie 301]

11 minutes ago, lcmim said:

Seems that you each have personal approaches to many things.

That is good. A husband and wife that can think independently and then talk and discuss. The posts that I don’t understand are where one Wants the other to do something. We are a team and decide together. 

[ToeDippers 83]

At the onset of our playing it was individual acts we wanted. We wanted a woman to join us, she wanted to experience a woman and I wanted to watch. We found out that acts are only appetizers not a full experience. 

15 hours ago, BillyandDebbie said:

She enjoys cooking, with a list of ingredients, and I enjoy eating. 
I did mention eating in swinging too

Having a list of ingredients doesn’t always make for a perfect meal. It is how you use the ingredients in the right proportions that will give you the best experiences. Too little salt or too much pepper can spoil the end result. Using the same ingredients the same way each time can get boring, changing the recipe opens up your senses. 
 

The best recipe is to experiment and try new things. Good luck and enjoy. 

[udsarge 119]

The problem arises when you are more of a meat and potatoes kind of person, and you find out your swinging partner is a vegan!!

[njbm 2,870]

Or a vagitarian.