Does having a large penis inside you hurt as much as it hurts me?

[catherine1962 16]

My husband has a 6 inch penis and the people we swing with are about the same size. But every now and then I will be with someone who has a huge penis. The largest I have ever had was a very thick 8 inch penis that hurt when he entered me. I didn't enjoy it at all during the entire time. Has anyone else had this problem where they just can't get used to a large penis inside them?

[pairbond 19]

Mrs. Pairbond, like you, says that most guys are very similar in size around the average of 6". She has encountered 8" or 9" a couple of times, and doesn't like the longer ones unless the guy is very gentle, as in slow & sensuous, instead of pounder. One guy kept pounding away at her and bruised her cervix so she hurt for a week. She does like a thick one though, because she says it makes her feel filled up. She hasn't come across any the thickness of a beer can yet, though, so I bet she'd reconsider if she found herself with one like that. A good rule of thumb is: If you can't deep throat it, it's too long. If you can't even get it in your mouth, it's too thick.

[TNT 1,155]

Not that I'm a size queen or anything but I really have not met one that was too big yet. Like Mrs. Pairbond, I have found that most men are very similar in size. However, when I have been lucky enough to come across those who are extremely blessed, I have found that the level of excitement and lots of lube helps immensely.

[GirlieZ 15]

I love well endowed men. I haven't found one that was too big. Now...I have to admit that I recently had a below average hung man who really knew how to rock my world....I think he tapped right on my GSpot...OH WOWIE ZOWIE!!!

[easygoin 15]

It's great to hear all the honesty from a woman. I am one who usually worries about size. Great board....thanks for letting me invade your space on the board.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Mrs here-I have run into TOO BIG....and although he was gentle & careful (most of the time) I couldn't WALK or SIT for two days. I guess I should mention that we have seen him again ...but my favorite is thick. I haven't found oddly thick, although I will give it a ride when I do, but thick is definatly good.

 

That reminds me, I really should give him a call...........

[mrs good times 73]

I prefer well endowded men but I haven't had much luck finding one. Mr. is larger than average so I find it difficult to enjoy sex with anyone smaller than he is.

[Pink 15]

Hmmm I took the Poll and find I'm just out of the majority here.

 

But after years of thought to just such a thing, i've realized that a few times OUCH was in the picture. Then again in those instances I like to say "you can NOT park a semi in a one car garage" Now with that said, I have to wholeheartedly agree with thickness. A Short Chubby is always my choice!

[wrnakedru 38]

For me, it is totally dependent on the sensuality of the man. I have been with gentlemen who are of a variety of sizes [length and thickness].

 

The sensuality is what determines the pleasure - and manifests itself as the man utilizing what he has like it's an instrument of pleasure versus it being wielded as a uni-purpose tool/weapon built solely for basic caveman pounding.

 

The latter can make me holler "STOP" - and it's not from pleasure! head bang I believe those types haven't learned much since they played with those 'work bench' toys when they were toddlers. You know the ones I mean, with the different colored pegs and a mallet for pounding them through - then flipping it over and pounding some more?? I just think a fella should have progressed beyond that early childhood skill level when it comes to sex.

 

No, I don't believe watching most porn flicks will teach him that. Hopefully, he's had a few good lovers along the way that HAVE helped him understand the very great difference it makes [and how much better the experience can be for BOTH ] when a man knows how to sensually make love.

 

That is the best "size" for pleasure.

 

[good times 991]

I don't know what the majority of larger than average guys do but in my case I have been made well aware over the years that few women can take a longer penis without experiencing pain if it is used improperly. I find that until I get to know what a women likes it is a good idea to go slow and easy at first if I am to expect to be welcomed back again. So I think that how the man uses what he has is more important than size in the end.

[alyricandced 15]

I enjoy average sized men but I do look forward to different shapes and sizes. however, one experience with a larger endowed gentleman (about 9 1/2") left me sore for days...I think he actually believed he was supposed to use his penis like a tool

[pairbond 19]

I find that until I get to know what a women likes it is a good idea to go slow and easy at first if I am to expect to be welcomed back again. So I think that how the man uses what he has is more important than size in the end.

 

Excellent point, good times! And excellent advice for ANY man, regardless of his size. If I were a betting man, I'd bet money that YOU get invited back for repeat encounters!

[pairbond 19]

I enjoy average sized men but I do look forward to different shapes and sizes.

 

We, too, look forward to people with different shapes and sizes, skin & hair color, tastes & smells, and lovemaking styles. Isn't that a great part of the fun of swinging? It sure is for us!

[Gustavo 15]

I'm glad to have read this thread, as reading the Forum's swinger stories made me think I had a small penis (almost 7 inches), as the average size there is over 8 inches!!!

 

I'm not a swinger but have enjoyed reading almost everything here for several months already. Keep up the good work!

[Brit_Pair 62]

In relation to length, I recall reading in my well-thumbed copy of 'The Joy of Sex' that an overly enthusiastic, overly deep thrust can also:

...hit an ovary, which is as painful as hitting a testicle

Knowing only too well how painful a whack in the happy sack can be, I have always used this as my mantra when I've been inside any of my partners.

[69at47 15]

I am long & thick, and some women have looked with worry at the size. I just keep a relaxed attitude. Because I love oral sex, me and my tongue just head south until she relaxes.

[Kara Ann 15]

Not that I'm a size queen or anything but I really have not met one that was too big yet. Like Mrs. Pairbond, I have found that most men are very similar in size. However, when I have been lucky enough to come across those who are extremely blessed, I have found that the level of excitement and lots of lube helps immensely.

Maybe I'm just bigger down there but I like them very big, it turns me on very much.

[curcpl_2004 16]

Mrs. here, I could only pick one range... so I chose the first. but up to about 7 in. is good for me, anything larger and it hurts with every stroke.

 

I also enjoy a thick one.. more contact on the sides.

 

If a man knows how to please his partners, then that is the ticket... I am not afraid to tell anyone what feels good and what don't.

 

If they don't know, how can they guess? Men are not mind readers.. and may need some insight sometimes.

[2lutz 15]

Mrs Lutz says she likes them any size from about 6" up. We once met a guy that was very very large. Probably the biggest we have seen. She took him and says it hurt a bit at first but once in she came over and over with the sensation of being totally filled. She also likes to the lokk of her hand around a very large one, says it is a turn on.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I prefer a smaller to medium size. Anything large is painful and wears me out too quick (despite using extra lube). For me it's definitely not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean. I was with this guy who was quite large and I was in pain for almost a week afterwards, the soreness lasted longer than the warm fuzzies from the encounter.

[omneesx 15]

Anyone here ever heard of lube or are we assuming its being used?

[NealnAnji 30]

It is good to know that 6 to 7 inches erect penis size is normal. Ther are so many men who flaunt their 8 in dick size as if that is what most women want! It also seems that a footlong penis is fiction. Has anyone seen and experienced a 12 in long penis in real life? It is not how big man's dick is that matters. How he uses his cock once he slides it in his partners vagina is what matters. Anyway, thats what the ladies say. Mnay ladies including mine have a snug vaginal opening that makes entry of overly thick penis unpleasant. Who wants a penis the size of a baseball bat in her pussy?

 

This brings up the question of variation in the depth and width of a woman's vagina. It would seem someone 5 ft tall and petite should have a short vagina vs someone 6 ft, large frame with a deep tunnel. Have any of you men noticed how much of your erect cock stays outside her vagina when full inserted in her pussy. Someone with an 8 in length should be able to tell if womens' vagina's have a significant variation. All he has to do is watch his cock on full instroke and gauge how much of his tool is in free air.

 

Hoping to get some serious answers.

 

[omneesx 15]

If you check Kinsey research on sexuality they found that variety in vaginal depth and circumference before and after arousal varies just as much as it does in males and ethnicity, body type, sexuality or fisting habits don't really factor in.

 

In regard to size and women's feelings, our experience has been that the nerves just aren't that sensitive down there and unless you're using toys of various size, penetration is just that.

[papaglock 15]

My husband has a 6 inch penis and the people we swing with are about the same size. But every now and then I will be with someone who has a huge penis. The largest I have ever had was a very thich 8 inch penis that hurt when he entered me. I didn't enjoy it at all during the entire time. Has anyone else had this problem where they just can't get used to a large penis inside them?

I am about average, 6". But after 3 kids and factoring genetics, my wife can easily accomodate up to 10" if she is really horney. This used to bother me, but she still orgasims with me. I have to say though that when I am doing oral on her and using a 10" soft Jelly dildo in her, she cums so hard that the second she is done cumming, she can not stand to be touched down there. She says it is so sensitive that it hurts.

[4HavNfunHung 15]

No matter what size the furniture is downstairs, don't the mind and heart always prove to be the 'biggest' sex organs involved in creating hot sex AND love?

[TxCouple98 15]

Well he is almost 9 and i've never had any problem with his size. I guess after having that for the last 6 years....something smaller could feel a lot diff to me. If we do have anal sex that can take a while to warm up to cause of his size, but still a very enjoyable time

[redhotssbbw69 15]

I love a big cock!!! I really enjoy riding a man who is well endowed..I love it when my g-spot is hit over and over again...

[dave110256 21]

I'm glad to hear the average is 6 inches........I "fit" right in. My wife fantasizes about a large penis as she says mine is the biggest she has ever had (that's what they all say to protect our fragile egos). I would love to see a large penis penatrate my wife, she loves our 8 inch toy. I would want a man to be "gentle" with my wife regardless of his penis size......I do love her and would not let anyone disrespect her or hurt her.

[akamgaxoxo 25]

I feel very blessed, my husband is rather large, and the first time I saw it, I felt a little worried to say the least! The only times that I feel that it's painful is if we have been going at it for a while, or when he accidently hits my cervix..but otherwise I enjoy it immensly! None of my friends are even close to his size so I really have nothing to worry about in regards to overly large playmates....

[StacyCat 30]

Long penis can hurt, but also a lot of guys that ive played with thought because they had a big penis, they didnt need to know how to use it. I dont have a specific measurement, because when I see a penis, measuring it is usually the last thing my mind

 

But, I was with a guy that was coke can size. OMg, we both hurt for a day afterwards, but I would love how it felt growing inside me.

 

I wouldn't ever turn a guy down for size. But, inviting them back into my bed depends on many other factors other than penis size.

[F16AV8R 18]

The wife here...Hubby is both blessed and cursed by an enormous penis. It is literally scary to look at and has cost us some swinging opportunities due the the women backing out due to fear or jealous husbands.

 

I have to admit, when hubby and I first started dating, I wouldn't let him come near me with his penis and unfortunately that led to even more anxiety for him as he was often teased in high school and while we were in college.

 

After four years of dating and falling in love, we finally had sex a few months before we got married. The pressure was distracting but I wouldn't call it painful because he was patient and slow. A few drinks seemd to help too.

 

Although he does have a tendency to go too deep when he is really excited, for the most part, the vagina is elastic and will conform to the shape of the penis. I can tell you however that when we swing and a man is less than 8 inches or so and not quite so thick, I am able to relax a whole lot more and enjoy the experience.

 

All in all though, I wouldn't trade my husband for any other on earth. We have been married for 11 years now and every day just gets better and better. We're still on our honeymoon

 

In a way, I wish were less endowed...even less than 9 inches would be better, but he is a wonderful lover, father and husband and my very best friend. If you are just starting out with a man who is too endowed, go slowly, take your time and make sure he respects you and takes his time too. It can indeed be a wonderful experience . Good luck

[ronkaren 18]

My man is average, as are most men I have encountered. I did have a longer, thick one in college that I have fantisized about for 20 years. Fortunately, Ronny bought me a dildo that is 10" long and proportionately thick. I can take all but the very end and it is sooooo good. I just hope I can find a live one like that just one more time (ok, several more times).

[GeorgiaCouple 16]

My hubby is a good 9inch and very thick. I can just barely wrap my fingers around him. But like most here, he has to be very gentle and careful with me or he will bruise me. Most guys we have been with is about average id say 6 or so and I really have a good time with them but I have to admit, nothing fills me the way hubby does even though he has to be gentle..when he gets it going........mmmmmmmmmmmm yummylishs facelick facelick facelick ....LOL Wouldnt trade him for the world.... have yet to find a guy larger than him... but a g/f of ours says her hubby is about 10 inches so im hoping to give him a try soon....HEEHEHE facelick facelick facelick

[raylynne 15]

Wow, after reading these posts, I must be in the minority here! I've been with a particular man several times, he's well endowed, fairly thick and about 9", and I love it! He's very gentle, nothing rough, and I'm petite, but man can he reach my g-spot and drive me wild! I also love to have him in my mouth. Go figure!

[JnCC 24]

Yes! Especially when all I'm expecting is my Doctor's finger...

[F16AV8R 18]

I just got that!!! Oh that was good!!! What a comedian!!! By the way, I want the Mr. to try taking something (preferably another man) but at first I'd be satisfied with a dildo up his ass. He claims men are not built to have anything put up their asses but wants to have anal sex with me. Is there any truth that women are more physically able to be anally penetrated than men?

[850couple 16]

6-7" is most comfortable for me.

[cplnuswing 4,712]

Mrs cplnuswing tends to put more emphasis on girth than length, although she likes at least average in both departments, and above average certainly won't lead to anybody getting kicked out of bed

 

I've never really thought of myself as a guy sporting some extra level endowment, but I am big enough that if I get a little caught up in the moment and rambunctious, especially in the deeper penetration positions, both she and playmates have asked me to be careful and take things a little slower to give them a little more time to adjust. I don't think it takes porn star cock size though for that to come into play, because that is certainly not me, just that sometimes the girls just need a little longer warmup time than guys do.

[PSULioness 825]

Large or not, a guy who is a jerk and jams you can hurt. I have had a finger hurt me.

[Guest]

Short and thick is quite nice but I do enjoy longer as well. My husband is about 7 1/2” on a good night. I did happen into that was probably 9” and enjoyed it way more than I expected. It took him a while to work it in but once he did, it was quite fascinating.