Nubie NIN question

[Fun131624 1]

My wife and I are exploring the LS now that we are retired. We've had a lot of great conversations and a lot of great sex surrounding finally bringing this to the forefront of our relationship. We were trying to decide how to best dip our toes in the water and thought about going to a club while on vacation. While listening to some podcast's, Naughty in New Orleans was mentioned, we did some research and decided this might be the best way so we signed up. We vacillate between being excited and terrified.  It feels like we're diving into the deep end of the pool because at this point we'd just be comfortable watching. Is this acceptable? We'd love to talk to people and experience the atmosphere but don't want to lead people on or give anyone false expectations. Mrs. Fun is very outgoing and social so she is really looking forward to this, I on the other hand am more reserved and this will push me out of my comfort zone (not a bad thing). Mrs. Fun is a social drinker and likes the "buzz", and I don't drink, not because I have a problem, I just never found anything I liked. Will I feel completely out of place? Last question, should we post a profile on one of the sites and attempt to meet a couple for a meet and greet prior to NIN so we have a little experience prior to going? I had one other post on this forum and got great responses, again we're excited and terrified, which I suppose are the opposite ends of the same emotion.

 

[njbm 2,870]

Where do you live? I might suggest you go to a somewhat local swingers club or a meet and greet first. 
 

I don’t want to depress you, but we went to NIN as experienced swingers and we didn’t meet anyone. We did have fun being in New Orleans. But we have friends who love NIN. We like the Bliss cruise, but frankly, we are not cruising until the coast is clear from covid. 
 

Check out the website SLS to meet people and see event listings. Good luck!

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

First, just treat it as a vacation. Go into it with no expectations other than having fun and you will always come out ahead. it's probably a good idea to put up a profile and try to connect with others that will be there. That way, you will already know some people before you get there...it doesn't mean that you have to do anything with them, but knowing someone helps make it less intimidating (or terrifying). You won't be leading anyone on. In fact, most swingers always will ask permission before anything happens and understand if you say no to anything. Also, even if you are interested in playing with someone, usually the next question is asking what your limits and boundaries are. Just be truthful and stick with what the two of you have decided in advance and you shouldn't have any problems.

 

I know exactly how you feel...I don't drink for the same reason (and I don't like feeling out of control). My comfort zone used to be very narrow (this has helped expand it greatly). That's why I said to just go and plan on having a fun vacation. Don't put pressure on yourself to try and force something to happen that just might not be there. NJBM's suggestion of visiting a swingers club or meet and greet is a good one...kind of like feeling the water temp before you jump in. The more you realize that most swingers are very friendly, usually extremely polite, and rarely bite (unless you ask), the more comfortable you will feel. You won't have any fun if you are always afraid of what might happen (and afraid of what might not happen) and that might just make you miss an opportunity. Plan on having a fun, one of a kind vacation with the woman you love and everything else is a bonus. Let us know how things go and report back!