Our Adventure Began

[BillyandDebbie 301]

When we joined I couldn’t imagine posting in this section as we had no adventures. Our first and second adventures are now behind us and we are constantly talking about it. Two in our family came home with Covid after our adventure vacation at our friends house. Both Debbie and our daughter are recovering, still am not sure if our daughter had an adventure with our friend’s son, he came down with the virus too. 
Debbie and I are reliving our first times with our friends and she told me something I may have missed. During our visit we switched with our friends by the light of a Christmas tree. I was able to see enough of what was going on finishing before my friend and Debbie we were able to snuggle as they kept going. When they finished and were just leaning back my partner went over to give her husband a big kiss, then gave Debbie a big hug and kiss and a playful grab of her breast. I heard some low talk and giggles figuring it was just friends happy to be together. What I missed was Debbie had a finger wipe some of the fluid coming out of her and was asked in that little whisper if she would like to have herself cleaned by her tongue. Hence the laugh I heard. Debbie told me it was a short No that led to the giggle. There weren’t any other attempts or requests like that the rest of the week. 
Now that we are home we are talking, Debbie wants to know if it is normal for the women to play, so I researched on the forum. Some women do, some don’t. It is much less common for men, I have no desire for that. I googled bisexuality and it says attraction to both sexes, Debbie said she isn’t attracted to her friend as a lover. The question is having sex means you are attracted or is having sex just that, having sex. People have oral sex as fun, one person enjoys doing and the satisfaction is making the other person satisfied. The other person enjoys what is being done to them. I said did you enjoy giving a blow job to him, did you enjoy having him eat you, what would be the difference if she went down on you. She said she didn’t know if she could reciprocate, she never did that. It’s just talk right now and it’s fun to talk. 

Edited January 10, 2022 by BillyandDebbie

[cplnluv1 872]

You are doing everything a newbie should do by talking before and after as well as giving much thought together before agreeing to going forward. The problem with any sexual adventure as you called it, is there is no going back, you will always have that history and memory. Talking out things afterwards corrects any mistakes you feel were made. 
Our contacts usually begin where your wife feels your first went. All of the women know there will be touching and more between the women, no surprises as I always prepare the woman before I go forward and wait for a signal that says she is ready. 
I love that the wife kissed her husband and your wife after, it shows she approved and everything is good. When I see couples give this after kiss I smile knowing there are no bad feelings. 
Girl play seems to becoming a normal part of swinging but I can’t be the one to say how common. Our swinging was started with girl play being the focus. We only meet people who think they want to explore that pleasure. It is not always a successful thought, too many times the man is urging the girl play, not the woman looking to explore her on sexuality. Tell your wife to consider what it will be, don’t push. It already sounds she is curious if she is talking about it and not shutting down the thought. It sounds you are far enough away from your friends that you can’t just hop in the car for a quick play date. It’s giving you time to think and talk and you stated the talk is fun. 
Just a thought, they are friends, you know them as people not only as sexual partners, speak to them about your thoughts and your fears. If your wife can speak freely with her friend it might give her more to think about. Let your adventure continue. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

For the longest time Ms. Gold would say that she was 'bi-friendly' meaning that she didn't mind touching, kissing, etc. the other woman, but has always said that she isn't bi since she isn't interested in having a romantic relationship with a woman other than playing. Out of simplicity, we list her as bi on our profile because she doesn't mind (in fact, she enjoys) playing with the other woman but if the other woman isn't interested in playing, she (we) are fine with that as well. Playing isn't a requirement.

[EastInWest 1,524]

3 hours ago, GoldCoCouple said:

For the longest time Ms. Gold would say that she was 'bi-friendly' meaning that she didn't mind touching, kissing, etc. the other woman, but has always said that she isn't bi since she isn't interested in having a romantic relationship with a woman other than playing. Out of simplicity, we list her as bi on our profile because she doesn't mind (in fact, she enjoys) playing with the other woman but if the other woman isn't interested in playing, she (we) are fine with that as well. Playing isn't a requirement.

We've kind of wondered how we'd address this if it ever really came up. Mrs. E enjoys women's bodies, possibly enjoys breasts as much as I do. Yet she just likes some playful kissing and touching, sex acts are a bit much for her. No idea how you really categorize that.

 

"Bi-Curious, But Not That Curious"

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

I Googled bisexual as being attracted to both sexes or not having an affinity to one sex over the other. 
I never thought of myself as a bisexual as never having been attracted to another woman. I don’t remember what flicked my curiosity of what it would be like to touch another vagina. I asked Rocky if vaginas are all different or closely similar, knowing full well vaginas are as different as a nose or a penis. Long story brought us to swinging and me seeing a vagina up close, touching and eventually having oral sex. Swinging and bisexuality was extremely more difficult versus my first sexual experiences. What both had in common was it was me that wanted it. 
Bill let Debbie talk it out, don’t push. I needed to work it out in my mind that the only thing holding me from trying something new was what others would think, people don’t do that. Why should I care, it’s my thoughts my body. I wanted affirmation from only one person, the person I could hurt if I had sex with someone. The first time is the most difficult part, no pain is involved. My curiosity has opened my thinking and our pleasures. It has also brought us closer to a long time friend who took her curiosity forward because of me. 
Even though my first was not my friend and I wasn’t hers, we now enjoy our great friendship even more. We already have so much in common, now we enjoying in new ways.