Can you tell us about your first MFM?

[Lips & Tongues 185]

Our first MFM will always be special in our couple memory. Not only because it's been a very erotic evening, intense, full of pleasure, but also because... well... a first is a first!  

We will probably tell that story soon in a post, but first we would like to read from your first MFM. How did it happen? What brought you 3 together? Was it planned? What happened? Make us dream... tell us everything about that special night... 
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[Melb_Aust_Cpl 23]

Our was totally unplanned.  Hubby and I were experimenting with anal play at the time and we were using toys to simulate dp.  We talked about how great it would be to have two real penises but it was nothing more than pillow talk for our own titillation. 

Then one day on holidays we were at a resort in the pool very early in the morning and there was another guy there.  He was clearly checking me out and hubby and I played up to that.  Then as bold an bold could be he came up to us and said it would be more fun with a third and asked if he could kiss me.  We told him to f**k off.  But after hubby and I had a chance to talk and he was totally into the idea I swam up to him and planted a big kiss.  20 minutes later we were in his room and didn't leave until very late that night, 

It was a one time only thing and we didn't have another swinging experience for 12 years which was only a month ago.  We're older, more mature, more established and more comfortable in ourselves and our relationship now so that experience a month ago has opened up this whole lifestyle for us now. 

Don't be shy now, we'd love to hear your story.... or anyone else's for that matter. 

[micknchris 27]

We were on a Bliss cruise and Chris had hurt her back on our first play date. I was walking around the open play room (there’s also one limiting admission to couples only). It’s definitely exciting to walk around and getting to watch and listen to all the people having sex. A man approached me snd asked if I’d like to join him and his wife.  Of course I said yes ( the wife had given me a hall pass while she was out of commission). As the play room was closing in a few minutes we went to their cabin. We all got naked immediately and I went don on her until she suggested it was my turn . Meanwhile her husband started to finger fuck her while she pleasured my cock.  Soon She was ready to fuck and laid back inviting me in. While I fucked her , the husband knelt above her head and fed his cock to her. I’d never been that close to another man’s hard cock but it was hot watching his cock disappear into her mouth while I fucked her. We traded positions several times and she rode us both too. She came several times and had me finish on her breasts while she shielded her face in case I came with enough force to shoot that far. I thanked them for inviting me and for letting me play with them.
Everyone had a fantastic day.  They ran into my wife later and told her how lucky I was to have a wife who’d let me play alone.

[couplers 4,614]

I have been wanting to respond to this topic for a while, but knew it would be somewhat long and take some time.

 

When I first became non-monogamous, I had no idea where it was going, but never thought it would lead to an MFM.  I had broken up with my ex-fiancé Red and moved out of our place to live alone.  But we still liked/loved and saw each other, went out and got together for sex, which was really good.  I wasn't looking, but then met David, handsome and technically oriented like me, the man who would become my husband.  We started going out and afterwards I did what seemed to me to be the natural thing to do and went to see Red to discuss what was happening, how I felt, and where things were headed.  Red was hoping for us to reconcile, but he was very accepting of my decisions.  After talking, we would have sex make love.

 

I was honest with David about my recent breakup with Red, that I had strong feeling for him but realized that we were too different (he a creative artsy type, me an engineer; he unconcerned about money, me more ambitious with desires for a stable family life) to make a long-term go of it.  David was more than a good listener and tolerant of what most guys would find off-putting conversation - he was genuinely empathetic, concerned, understanding.  As I saw David more we both felt love and an incredible physical attraction, and after several dates started having sex.

 

After the first time fucking David, I did what had become my routine and went back to see Red, told him everything including how good it was.  Then we fucked.  I really enjoyed it, but yeah, I felt like a cheat, a slut, a pervert (two guys!  How could I be having sex with two guy? ).  Not long afterwards at the beginning of one of our dates, David said (not "asked", but "said") to me, "You're still sleeping with Red."  (I recall exactly that he didn't say "fucking" or "screwing," but used the gentle term "sleeping".)  I thought, this is it, it's over.  Instead, David said that it was ok with him, he knew that I still had feeling for Red, and it didn't affect anything between us.  I was stunned, my mind had been quickly going through the pleadings and promises that I would make to David, but now it was reeling in another direction.

 

So began me going between two men, one with whom I was getting ever closer and one I couldn't let go of.  They both knew about the other and I now felt unbelievably loved, powerful, appreciated, confident.  What could make them love me so much to agree to this?  And it all seemed so natural, so right.

 

After about another month, David called and said he was on his way home from the office and asked if he could stop by my place on his way home.  I hesitated, and David again immediately picked up on what was going on and said, "Is Red there, I'd like to meet him."  Once again, the usually quick minded Petra didn't know what to say and feigned confidence and enthusiasm, "Sure."  I told Red that David was stopping by and he reacted mildly with "That'll be nice."  It was like five minutes of terror for me, once again not knowing what might happened.  When they met, it was a sign of what was to follow - despite all of their differences, they got along and talked about things they did have in common, which thankfully did not include me.

 

So now, not only was I seeing two men, fucking two men, they were both openly in my life including the three of us being together.  It was as if it were meant to be.  The three of us almost never went on dates together, it was always either David and I or Red and I, but we seemed to be getting together more and more for practical reasons like shopping or helping to fix something.

 

Now to the point of this thread: one Saturday morning the three of us were at my place after I had been out of town on business the whole week.  I was unpacking, doing laundry and was looking pretty grungy, I thought.  David asked Red didn't I look good, and asked if I was wearing a bra.  I hardly ever at home because I hardly have tits.  Unusual for him, David's talk got dirty, he asked me to take off my shirt, I did and he asked Red something like isn't that the most beautiful thing you have ever seen?  Red said yes, and David asked me to get closer to Red.  I didn't know exactly what the plan was or even if there was a plan, but we were, to use a cliché, all on the same page.  David stood back as Red and I took my clothes off, I sucked his dick as he played with my tit, then his clothes came off and we went at it.  Hard.

 

After we both came, I started having having fears and doubts again about David.  I mean, not only was what to David I thought only an abstract thing, he now saw me do it, not just sex, love making, deep kissing.  I looked at David he invited me over and kissed me.  Affectionately.  He pushed me down onto the bed, on my back, and began what had become our foreplay routine of him licking my clit before we go at it.  I can only take so much of that before I want him inside me, and it happened.  All that messy sloshing and squishing, and a second ejaculation in my vagina right after I had one from another man.  And what a lot of orgasms.

 

I had no fear or doubt now, it is clear that David loves me as I am, which includes my love and sex with Red.  I never thought I could exceed my earlier feelings of being "loved, powerful, appreciated, confident," but now I did.  It would have been great to have continued the day with the three of us, but Red had an important appointment to go to so it left David and me.  The rest of the day and most of Sunday was David and me.  We didn't talk about the threesome, again, it all just seemed so normal and right.  David left in the afternoon on Sunday, I threw the additional laundry that we had generated into the machine and went to Red's place to talk, and screw.

 

After that first time MFM, we never planned any, they just sometimes happened (although once we moved in together we would occasionally do it as a ritual, especially vaginal/anal DP, which I love).  Mostly my love life with Red and David were conducted separately, although there were plenty of sloppy seconds.  It was not long after we got to this point of what seemed total openness and honesty that David asked me to marry him with the thought that he didn't want to live without me and he had never been so sure of anything in his life.

 

My first MFM was the highlight of my sexual life (and one of the top of anything in my life) until I was confident enough to let hubby start playing and I had my first FFM and opened up to my Lesbian side... 

Edited March 6, 2022 by couplers

[EastInWest 1,524]

Our first MFM "scene", technically, involved the two couples we played with at first. The same night she explored soft swap for the first time, we decided to try another session with the other couple. The wife from the couple we did *not* know well had gone down on me and Mrs. E was a little high on the excitement and wanted to reciprocate. Once I got hard again, it was her first spitroast, bent down over the couch in the living room of the couple we did know. We'd gone into it with a mindset that we were on a mission to explore oral and see where it went, and we were both very happy with the experience, and, in retrospect, lucky it all worked out so smoothly.

 

Maybe more conventionally, the first time we tried pure MFM with a third alone, we were on vacation abroad. It had been a bit since we'd explored and on the ferry ride over, we talked about loosening up and trying something crazy if it came up. A couple days later, I walked away from our beach chairs for a while to get us drinks and snacks, and by the time I got back, she'd managed to attract a conversation partner while sunbathing topless. When I got back, it took her a little coaxing to discourage him from bolting but he eventually figured out what was going on and agreed to come hang out with us in our hotel room. 

 

She ended up between us on the couch, so-called "ski poling", stroking us on either side while making out with him while we fingered her. After a while, she moved her head down. After we both came, we said our goodbyes and he very quietly gave me his number in the corridor as he'd be around for a while. I figured we'd be done there, but she brought it up later that night (the next night? it's been a few years now) that she regretted going that far and not going further. I had good news in that I could invite him back, and sure enough, we met for cocktails that drifted back to the hotel and to Mrs. E getting pounded from behind, bent over my lap sucking me. I remember that he had his orgasm, it made her orgasm, and that made me orgasm. It was already *very* late when we started, and much later when I let him out of the room on the patio to the beach. I deleted the number after that. We had a blast and it really opened her up to trying to pick up thirds when we were out of town.

[couplers 4,614]

On 3/13/2022 at 3:58 PM, EastInWest said:

he had his orgasm, it made her orgasm, and that made me orgasm

Don't you just love it when that happens?

[couplers 4,614]

On 3/6/2022 at 12:56 PM, couplers said:

After that first time MFM, we never planned any, they just sometimes happened (although once we moved in together we would occasionally do it as a ritual, especially vaginal/anal DP, which I love).  Mostly my love life with Red and David were conducted separately,..

For those who want to know, while the sex I had with David and Red was mostly one on one and our love deepened among the three of us in those early days (before Clair and Lora), the MFMs we had became more about just the sex, the physical pleasure, like a celebration.  Our first DP was one of our weekend meet-ups, I was riding David cowgirl and Red came up behind me and put it in my bum, and then it was a

 

On 3/13/2022 at 3:58 PM, EastInWest said:

he had his orgasm, it made her orgasm, and that made me orgasm

kind of thing.  

[Funtofukutoo 23]

Our first time i had been talking to the wife for about a yr now about watching her suck another guy ever since i found out she had been fucking her boss and that he had a really thick cock i had wanted to see her take one she had trouble taking my 8 thick cock she was a virgin when we 1st started going out and niave about sex i had been teaching her everything and since she had been sheltered her whole life by her parents she wanred to experience what all her friends had been for a while i walked her through how to suck dick how to jerk on a coock what cum tastes like had to tell her she'd eventually like it but she wouldn't relax and just let things happen and her pussy was so tight it hurt like it was trying to peel the skin off my dick and that was one reason she had given for not liking to have sex vaginal so when i found out this guy had been fucking her for a few months and how thick he was i made her tell me everything they did where when how how many times and she told me he would get on top of her and force her legs to spread as far as they could to open her up then he would force it in slowly asking if she was ok to go on or to stop cuz she was having to tug on the sheets and kinda yell out well she didn't like doing that so she put pillow over her face so no one could hear her she said she would tell him to keep going cuz she would get super wet then once in he would let her get used to it then start pumping her a little at a time till he was doing full strokesi couldn't believe what i was hearing i wanted to know how his dick felt i know it was tight on my cock his must of been being choked back then i noticed on 2 diff times that after she had gotten hm fr work and we had sex that i could barely feel her pussy so i thought some thing was up but had no proof so once she used a trick he taught her she used on me i knew someone had shown her how to do this with her tits till yhis day if i meet him im going to thank him and shake his hand for showing her how to properlly use her tits most girls never know how but any ways we had been talking about 3sum she just thought i was trying to be sneeky and blackmail her but after about a yr we were. Playing around witth sildo and me in her together i had took some sexy pics and i had given her 3 names of guys who might be good to join us during our role playing she was getting bolder and more confident about what shed do well i told her i showed one friend her pics she didn't believe me and i was making it up but i also told her he had theem she wanted  to know y i said u know he's jacking off to them and she didn't believe. Me but the phone rang it was him and it was late when we hung up i told her he said he brought pics back there on my car windshield so i got them from where i had them and went out side like i was getting them and went back to bed with them now she didn't know what to think except to ask me what he had said when i told him so now i knew i had her close and i had been talking with him now cuz he was now over daily due to his getting divorced and so i started holdinng back on sex for 2 weeks and she has been used to getting some practically daily so now she's bugging for some dick so one nite my friend and i were up and she had went to bed it was hot out so she only had on panties when she was out for sure i ask him if he wanted to see her naked so we go into room and i. Pull sheet back he's ckin it out i asked if he wanted to grab her ass now he's getting nervous about getting caught soo i tell him watch this go sit in the darkest corner and watch so he did i climb in bed and start touching her and once she figured out what i was. Doing she woke up and pulled her panties off and starts fingering her self whiile im all over her now she wants to suck dick i lay down she goes down fingeringg her pussy good making good noise all rt in my friends faceso i start telling her i brought someone hm with me and he's waiting for her to go get him she thought it was just us role playing so she starts talking about what she'd do so after a bit i started telling her realky someones here she finally believes when i told her who it was and tbat he was already in room she kinda stopped and looked i called out to him to say something i had to tell him 3 times before he. Did then she felll on bed and covered her self and he says it's to late for that i've seen everything already close up so i pull sheet off and she just lays there naked with us staring i tell her he was just going to watch bbut she. Didn"t feel comfortable i said y not she. Goes whats he goinng to do u know he's going to get. Turned on so i. Say he'll jack off if thats ok with u and she. Keepa talking about thats crule sending him off like that so i say what about u sucking his dick then and she goes only if he wants me too after that i fucked her and he got his cock sucked for 3 nites before he got to fuck her and she was so hooked that we fucked4-5 nites a week for first 3monthsthen it lasted for 10 yrs

[Skyelite 13]

Well my true first MFM was in college. Drunk and at a party with a guy I was kind of dating and his best friend. Drunk as well the three of us ended back at my apartment and in my room enjoying ourselves. 

 

Fast forward to after being married and being open to swinging and it happened with one of my coworkers at the time. I was working at a store as loss prevention and we hired a new guy that I was to be training. Basically our job was to watch people shopping on security cameras or go out and walk around the store as shoppers and see if we saw anything. This meant a lot of time together and talking so him and I got close and he began referring to me as his best friend quite frequently with some flirting as well. 

 

Not to hide anything from my husband I did introduce the two of them and they got along well so it was not uncommon for the three of us to hangout or spend time together. My husband would often say that he felt my coworker had a crush on me and wanted to be more than best friends. 

 

The three of us ended up going on vacation together and one night while on vacation we were enjoying a hot tub and a fair amount of drinks. Apparently my coworker was being quite flirty but I had not really noticed but it caught my husband's attention. At one point my coworker went to get a few more drinks and my husband and I had a quick conversation about this and should we see what would happen if we played into it. 

 

My coworker returned and we enjoyed our drinks and I was a bit more flirty myself before my husband decided to be the bold one and suggest we go up to our room and see what happens. I do not think either man even hesitated and soon we were back at the room enjoying ourselves. 

[Numex 2,409]

Ours was pretty simple.  I knew that Daniela was used to sexual variety and I was fine with her having sex with other men and women.  We started in the lifestyle by Daniela "hotwifing" so she could feel comfortable and because she gave me all the sex I needed.  She started playing alone with two exes (separately) because she still likes them and the sex they had, it was safe, and for me it was no big deal since she had fucked them many times before.  We met with the other guy twice socially before they started playing so everything was known and clear to everybody - she is married, I was good with it, etc.  After fucking him several times and telling me about it the way she wanted and in as much little or detail as she wanted, she wanted me there.  Neither of us had any kind of threesome before, this was the first.  It was oral on him, he fucked and came in her, then I fucked her sloppy seconds.  Pretty much the same with the second guy.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

To be honest, our first MFM wasn't great. It wasn't bad mind you, but it wasn't great. It was good to break the ice of swinging, and start to figure things out for us. But, it wasn't great. My wife and I had agreed before we dipped our toes in the pool that we would keep at it for a bit, and not base our opinion of swinging on one or a handful of times. We understood that just like vanilla dating, there was going to be a few duds along the way. We might get lucky the first couple of times, and we might not. We connected through SLS, and met up at a swinger club in the region. The second time was with the same guy. I honestly can't remember the details. Again, it was ok but not great. If we'd based our opinions on those two MFMs, there's a fair chance we would be monogamous today. I think we would have concluded, "Fun, but not really our cup of tea" and moved on.

 

Now the third time....

 

We met this guy for dinner, and we all really clicked. I'm a veteran, and this guy was still on active duty. My wife has a bit of a thing with guys in uniform. My wife and I have a non-verbal means of communicating when we're deciding on whether to play with someone. Along the way, one of us will squeeze the thigh of the other. The other will squeeze back; one squeeze is yes, two is no. After a while, I squeeze my wife's thigh. I immediately got a very enthusiastic squeeze back, and knew she was really into him as I suspected.

 

We went back to his hotel room, and things got busy pretty quick. I think my wife was naked in about 5.3 seconds, and us two guys rapidly followed. We spent quite a long time having sex. Primarily, it was the other guy having sex with my wife. I was very happy with that, as my thoughts were that I could have sex with her any other time, but she couldn't have sex with him any time. My wife had an absolute blast. She could not get enough sex from this guy. She loved it all, made absolutely delicious noises while he was fucking her, and probably came a half dozen times. It was toe curling sex for her. One of my favorite memories from that was her on her hands and knees, he was fucking her from behind, and she was giving me head. The combined motion of her being moved by him vigorously fucking her and her moans of ecstasy while I was in her mouth were absolutely delightful. 

 

After we left, and got in the car, my wife said with a huge grin on her face "Ok, now I'm a swinger!" A few days later, she got to have a solo date with him, and once again had an absolute blast. During that solo date, he told my wife that he hadn't been able to cum from oral sex alone in many, many years. My wife took that as a challenge. She is quite talented at giving oral sex, and ...challenge completed  

 

It's 14 years on now, and we continue to play. It's not as often as it used to be, but we still very much enjoy it. The journey continues.

 

 

[annifleur 2]

My first time with two guys was so hot... My sub arranged a massage with two guys. He arranged a nice hotel suite and he told he has a surprise for me. Two guys came into the hotel room with a massage table. I hoped on it and i loved the 4 hand massage... and then it started to get hot... one guy opened my legs and touched me between my legs. I was already wet and the other guy told he after a while to turn around... now my front was massaged and it started to get more erotic and sexual. I loved it a lot... and my sub watched the whole thing... hot - hot - hot 

[couplers 4,614]

On 1/14/2022 at 4:59 AM, Lips & Tongues said:

What happened? Make us dream... tell us everything about that special night... 

 

On 10/19/2022 at 9:54 AM, Skyelite said:

I do not think either man even hesitated and soon we were back at the room enjoying ourselves. 

Details! 🙂

[veryfun couple69 18]

David and I were invited to a party that turned out to be a swimsuit optional swim party. After a while we did strip. After swimming we all went inside, the host asked us if we had ever been to a swing party. We told her no she then dared me to suck David's cock in front of the 9 other coupes.after some egging on  I startedcsucking him. As I was one of the guys came up behind me and kissed my pussy..then he guided his cock in me. I was suprised but it felt so good I did not resist

[Sprocket 18]

The first time……

There have been many versions of MFM since the first time.

Like starting out as a middle aged married couple exploring the fun of same room swinging with other couples where one time the wife of the other couple decided not to play but to watch her husband and I pleasure my wife. The night starting with drinks, dinner and flirting leading to fun times in the bedroom where my wife was the centre of attention. We slowly undressed her with lots of groping and caressing along the way. Then it was her turn to undress us guys. Along the way sucking and stroking each cock as it was uncovered. We were alternating with playing with her sensitive nipples and wet pussy as she was sucking our cocks. We then laid her on the bed, I spread her legs wide for the other guy to get a good look at her waxed pussy and then invited him to fuck her missionary style while I caressed her all over, focusing on her nipples. She was loving it. Us guys changed places only this time doggy style so she could suck on his hard cock. It was all horny fun to be able to watch her being pleasured and the way she was responding back like a greedy girl. She came many times either while being fucked or orally. Us guys held out for quite a while but when the other guy came in her pussy, I couldn’t help but cum all over her lovely tits while she was stroking me.

That long term marriage came to an end but have since explored more MFM fun with other couples as a single man. Many of those couples trying MFM for the first time. The most memorable MFM for me was with a fun couple where the lady loved DP. They were in town on holidays and in a coffee shop and we started chatting, in which the banter got hotter by the minute. They invited me to their hotel room and within a short time we were naked and the lady being pleasured all over. She wanted to ride me so I laid on my back and had my cock in her pussy quick smart and she was fucking me beautifully. Before I knew it, her partner slid his cock in her arse. She was loving it. The sensation of another cock sliding against mine while inside her pussy was unbelievable and the excitement of it all made it hard not to cum immediately. The fun went on and on for hours and we covered her inside and out with cum. That first time DP was very memorable.

[PeterJ 940]

My first MFM was many years ago, with a monogamish couple who were social friends. I’d been playing with the woman for about a year. She and I had casually discussed the possibility of a threesome that included her husband; it was something she said they’d discussed, though notionally rather than with specific intentionality — and for sure not specifically with me in mind.

 

A few months later we were at a sporting event and their accommodation for the night fell through. I hadn’t checked into my hotel yet, but had reserved a room with twin queen beds. I told them they could stay with me. When we got to the room there was just a single king bed. Well, it was big enough to share, but I wasn’t expecting anything sexual would happen. 
 

It had been a hot and humid day and everyone needed a shower. I went first and came out of the bathroom in my light cotton bathrobe. She went next and emerged in a nightie that was briefer than I would have expected. (She and I had always undressed — not dressed — for bed and when we’d sufficiently exhausted ourselves and we slept together it was nude. 😂 ) Her husband was last to bathe. While he was in the shower she and I started kissing. The possibility there might be sex now occurred to me. I was literally trembling. I’d long fantasized about being in an MFM but the opportunity had never before presented itself. "Relax. Everything is going to be fine," she said to me. I recall that despite her assurance my heart was still beating like a triphammer. 
 

He was wearing pajamas, tops and bottoms. We got into bed, my sometime lover in the middle between us. Before I could turn out the light, she said to her husband "This isn’t how we sleep" and started pulling her nightie over her head. He started getting back out of his PJs and I was even more quickly literally disrobed. And then the sex commenced. She rolled to face her husband and started kissing him while I watched and fondled her pussy from behind. Then she turned toward me, pushed me onto my back, moved down between my thighs and started sucking my cock. Her ass was up in the air. Her husband got behind her and while I was mostly focused on enjoying the blowjob I was receiving I did notice was holding both sides of her waist, so I assumed he was now fucking her. (She later told me that first round he was doing her anally, something she and I had up till then never done.) After he came we switched places. While she sucked him back erect I fucked her pussy until I came. 
 

We turned out the lights and went to sleep for a while, but I awakened aroused in the middle of the night and climbed on her for another round. "He’s taking me again," she whispered to her husband in the darkness. While I fucked her he fondled my balls. (I thought it was her, reaching down over my ass. But the next day when I commented on that to her she laughed and said it was her husband who’d been playing with my balls in the darkness while I was fucking her.)  When I was done he took another round with her and then we finally got a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.

 

She and I continued our FWB relationship for almost a decade while their marriage had some ups and downs — our several mutual friends agreed he didn’t treat her very well — until the birth of their first child. I’ve always believed (and still do) that adding children to a troubled marriage was a recipe for disaster. But in this case he went through a remarkable transformation and became much kinder and more supportive in their marriage. 
 

I really enjoyed that first threesome and three-ways have remained at the top of my list of favored recreational sexual activities. I solicited it with them as a couple on two other occasions, but they were never up for it. And she was such an enjoyable partner that I wasn’t that disappointed.

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,383]

Our first MFM was our first Lifestyle experience.  We were only dating and still in our 20s.  We started going to nude beaches together, and we visited one while on vacation on Sanibel Island, Florida (that nude beach was not an officially designated nude beach and apparently no longer exists).  We set up not far from a single male with a mop of shaggy blond hair, six-pack abs and bulgy shoulders and biceps.  After a short while we engaged him in conversation. He was local and we were tourists so mostly we picked his brain about local spots to eat and drink etc.  Soon after that we stood up to go down to the water and I invited him to come with us.

 

The three of us stood together in the waist-deep surf talking. I sensed my wife (then girlfriend) was attracted to him and I started to formulate an idea that this could possibly lead to our first-ever threesome.  Although we were nudists we had never even discussed swinging or threesomes before, I made the bold move to ask him to join us for drinks after the beach. I braced myself for a shocked reaction from my wife but didn't get one.  She was actually keen on the idea.

 

Drinks turned to dinner and again I sensed it was time for another bold move.  Without any pregame discussion whatsoever I asked if everyone was interested in coming back to our hotel room.  He agreed but my wife was stonefaced and silent.  As we got up to leave she pulled me aside, put her face right up to mine and asked "Are we really doing this"?  My reply was "We don't have to do anything we're not comfortable with".  With that the three of us went to our hotel room together.

 

Gory details aside, the night was a success.  We enjoyed a long, hot passionate threesome and in the morning I checked in with my wife and she was in great spirits.  No weird feelings of regret or jealousy - just a shared feeling of bliss and togetherness.  After we returned from vacation we made the decision to visit a swing club together and the rest is history 😀

[PeterJ 940]

4 hours ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

… I made the bold move to ask him to join us for drinks after the beach. I braced myself for a shocked reaction from my wife but didn't get one. 

 

Without any pregame discussion whatsoever I asked if everyone was interested in coming back to our hotel room.  He agreed but my wife was stonefaced and silent.  As we got up to leave she pulled me aside, put her face right up to mine and asked "Are we really doing this"?  My reply was "We don't have to do anything we're not comfortable with". 

 

hunterdonNJcpl, from your posts over the years it’s clear that you and your wife enjoy a lifestyle relationship that would be the envy of many, if not most, members of this board. In retrospect, clearly your then GF (now wife) was already an adventurous soul.
 

But a note of caution to others who might take a similar "play it as it lays" ad hoc approach to entering the lifestyle with their partner. While you successfully guided this encounter to your desired outcome without having previously had a specific or even general discussion with your GF about bringing others into your bed, I think it is important for members of the board who have not yet taken the step of acting on their interests, to understand that in most cases this approach doesn’t end well. Either the woman shuts things down, often in a huff, or (particularly if there’s been a substantial loosening of inhibitions due to alcohol or drugs) she goes along in the moment and then in the aftermath there are serious recriminations. 
 

(As an analogy, one might jump out of an airplane without a parachute, land in a haystack and walk away. More often the impact will just make a small dent in the ground. 😉)

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,383]

19 hours ago, PeterJ said:

...I think it is important for members of the board who have not yet taken the step of acting on their interests, to understand that in most cases this approach doesn’t end well. Either the woman shuts things down, often in a huff, or (particularly if there’s been a substantial loosening of inhibitions due to alcohol or drugs) she goes along in the moment and then in the aftermath there are serious recriminations. 

 

(As an analogy, one might jump out of an airplane without a parachute, land in a haystack and walk away. More often the impact will just make a small dent in the ground. 😉)

Very, very true words.  I was a bit more reckless in my 20s, and my wife was indeed an adventurous soul.  The experience was completely unplanned and spontaneous and in retrospect I feel very lucky it turned out as well as it did.  It helped that my wife-then-girlfriend knew I wasn't the type to pressure her into doing anything she wasn't ready for, and she knew I would absolutely respect her decision to halt the whole process at any time.  Without that level of trust I'm certain none of it would have transpired.

[Numex 2,409]

On 3/1/2023 at 7:10 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said:

I braced myself for a shocked reaction from my wife but didn't get one.  She was actually keen on the idea.

 

Drinks turned to dinner and again I sensed it was time for another bold move.  Without any pregame discussion whatsoever I asked if everyone was interested in coming back to our hotel room.  He agreed but my wife was stonefaced and silent.  As we got up to leave she pulled me aside, put her face right up to mine and asked "Are we really doing this"?  My reply was "We don't have to do anything we're not comfortable with".

You may not have had a pre-game discussion, but you handled it perfectly, creating the opportunity, but letting your girlfriend/wife maintain control the whole way.  And thus:

On 3/1/2023 at 7:10 AM, hunterdonNJcpl said:

the night was a success.

I'm not surprised.

[AdamGunn2 392]

We had been swingers for a few months; one Saturday night we met a couple at our swing club and had a great time. Afterwards they left to go take care of their children and we stuck around. Nothing else seemed to be happening, but my wife, Mary, still had the horn. She was talking with a younger man and with about 45 minutes before the club closed she (with my permission) took the guy into a room and banged his brains out. I was invited into the room to watch, but because there was so little time I didn’t get to participate. So no MFM that night.

 

The next morning we discussed it and decided it was pretty great. So we changed our profile on SLS to admit that we’d engage with single males as well. One businessman, Gary, from another city contacted us, and ten days later he hit town and he took us up to his hotel room. I took pictures of the two of them going at it for a couple of hours. But for some reason I just let them have fun, without trying to join in; I think I was in awe of watching my wife have such a great time with another man. But, again, no MFM.

 

A couple of weeks later Gary came to town again, and we invited him to our home. After awhile the two of them were naked and playing with each other and I was watching and taking pictures. Gary suggested I get naked with them, so I did. Then, while Gary was giving Mary oral sex, I pointed my dick at Mary’s face and she started sucking on me. I backed off a little when the two of them got very serious, then after they finished screwing I approached Mary and she had no problem getting on top of me in cowgirl. While we were going at it, Gary was kissing Mary and feeling her tits. Needless to say, I came in no time at all. And, of course, in just a little while Gary was ready to go again so he took another shot at Mary and I was there to help her out.

 

It took me a little while to understand the joys of MFM, but it was well worth it - I don’t think we ever had another guy where it didn’t eventually turn into a threesome.

[let's do it again 414]

My first mfm involves me, my cousin and a gal that my cousin fucked and smoked a lot of weed with. Me and my cousin were like brothers, we worked together, went to same college, and played on the same baseball teams together.   We were in college and I went to his apartment to ask him to swap shifts at work. He let me in and the smoke was rolling. It wasn't long and she asked me if I would help DP her, something she had wanted to try. We all 3 got naked and got into a full size bed. My cousin doesn't do anything anal, he considers it exit only so I took her butt. My cousin laid on his back, she got on top cowgirl and I entered her asshole. I have read on different threads about the difficulty of DP, But we had no problems, we both entered her with ease. It was great for me, and she must have liked it because my cousin and his bed was soaked. 

[TricianMike 772]

I’ll probably get some of details wrong because it happened about 10 years ago. We read on here a post where there was a discussion of picking men up at bars so we decided it would be fun to go to a bar in a hotel in Princeton where we know many business men stay and possibly we could find a willing lonely man who wanted to have some fun. Laughing now because twice that night I was caught off guard with cash questions, confusing me with an escort. I remember the look from this one guy when I said my husband just wanted to watch, like I was a freak. 
We gave up and went to another bar where I approached a young man sitting at a bar who started stuttering when I offered him a blow job if my husband could watch. He told me he was in town for a meeting and he was waiting for his coworker to meet him at the bar. His coworker was a little older and more willing to have fun only he didn’t want Mike watching. Mike came over and assured him he was only watching and they can have fun with me as much as they wanted as long as they respected us. 
Finally in a hotel room with two guys under 30, the first guy I spoke to was a little shy, the other dropped his pants pretty quickly. 10 minutes later I was with my first MFM 

[couplers 4,614]

18 hours ago, TricianMike said:

Mike came over and assured him he was only watching and they can have fun with me as much as they wanted as long as they respected us. 
Finally in a hotel room with two guys under 30, the first guy I spoke to was a little shy, the other dropped his pants pretty quickly. 10 minutes later I was with my first MFM 

It is interesting that your first MFM was with your husband not participating, only watching.  Did you and your husband do anything special afterwards? 

[TricianMike 772]

2 hours ago, couplers said:

It is interesting that your first MFM was with your husband not participating, only watching.  Did you and your husband do anything special afterwards? 

It was years ago so what I remember is only from the times we told others about that time. To start we only looked to meet one guy mostly because of the thrill of picking someone up. Michael was interested in how I would play with someone telling me to not pay attention to him watching. When we found the two somewhat younger men things got interesting. The guys weren’t friends and just met at a business meeting so they were unsure of what to do nor had either one ever been in a situation like this. Michael said I was really slutty pushing the guys to do more. 
After they left I remember being exhausted and hugging Michael. He said I fell asleep for hours in his arms and we showered together before he told me everything I did with the guys. I know we went out for breakfast in a diner in the morning where he teased me in a loving way how I bossed the guys to do more. 
We met others over the years with a Michael watching and sometimes he would get involved after an initial start watching. Most of the pickups are more for my excitement not because he loves to watch it’s more he loves watching me enjoy. 

[NYirCPL 38]

Our first MFM was with a single male friend we had met and gotten to know from parties.  Up until that point we hadn't really intended to entertain singles (male or female) outside of a party environment, but we'd spent some time getting to know this gentleman and our female half had played with him a handful of times.   Our schedule ended up aligning so we'd have a rare Friday without the kids and I (male half) proposed the idea of mixing things up and inviting an SM.   The Misses clearly loved the idea so I reached out and invited him over and he made arrangements to be there.

 

We chatted and hung out for a bit, with the wife and I having a couple drinks (he was not a drinker) before things transitioned to play.   Once play started, I surprised myself taking a step back and letting them get into it without me.  He began by going down on her for a good ten minutes while I sat back and videoed and took in her reactions and look of extreme (couch soaking) pleasure.   After that she transitioned to going down on him while he stood near the couch and the Misses kneeled and worked his shaft.   I'm well endowed, but our friend is somewhat of a monster and it was quite hot watching her use her mouth to bring his XXL cock to life.  After a few minutes of observing and videoing I asked her if she was ready to take things upstairs to which she gave an excited nod...

 

Upstairs I had staged our room in advance with some sexy lighting and music queued up and I gave them space and observed as they kissed with great passion next to the bed.  I watched as he helped her onto the edge of the bed with her legs hanging off and slapped on a condom in a quick, veteran movement.   I then watched as he inserted himself into her and heard her deep moan as she savored the initial stretch.   I admit to feeling conflicting emotions as I heard her make new sounds  I hadn't observed previously, but fortunately lust was the most prominent of the feelings.

 

From there she motioned me to come over as she lay on her back with her legs up on his shoulders as he delivered her long and deliberate strokes from a standing position next to the bed.  She took me in her mouth while she continued to take him, moaning onto my cock.  She was also either dripping with lust or had squirted a bit as there was a significant wet spot accumulating on the comforter.   

 

From there they transitioned into more of a missionary position with him climbing onto the bed and on top of her.  I'll be honest and admit there was some awkwardness about this as it didn't leave much room for my participation, leaving me feeling a little excluded.  I actually left the room for a bit and went downstairs to fix a drink both to sort my own head and to avoid bringing negative energy into their experience.

 

When I returned to the room he was on his back with her riding him slowly and deliberately.  My first thought was wondering if she even noticed I'd left the room, but fortunately my second thought was...  "holy fuck that is hot!"   Forcing myself out of my own head I walked to the bed and started rubbing her back and feeling her breasts as she continued to ride him.  One hand made it's way towards her ass which elicited very positive reactions and the next thing I know I'm fingering her asshole as she rides him and she is going absolutely crazy.  Anal isn't a big part of our regular play but it was clear from her reaction that it was definitely on the table.

 

From there I grabbed some lube from the bedside table and massaged it around the ring of her ass and worked two fingers into my wife as she continued fucking our friend on the bed.   Feeling emboldened by her very enthusiastic feedback, I climbed all the way onto the bed behind her and started using the head of my cock to massage my leaking precum and the leftover lube into her sphincter.  

 

DP was something she'd exhibited no interest in previously and she seemed almost disgusted by the topic, but in that moment she began changing her riding movement to continue swallowing the massive cock she was riding, but also push her asshole back onto me, which I in turn returned the pressure to her and with little effort I found myself buried in her asshole as she had another cock buried in her pussy.

 

The sounds she made at this point could best be described as primal groans and, although she was clearly enjoying it, she seemed to give up control of the riding and at this point us guys took over.   I pumped into her ass as our friend on the bottom made some smaller, controlled movements to ensure he stayed inside of her.  It felt incredible and jarring and naughty, being in these close quarters and feeling the reality of another man fucking my wife right through the wall of her ass....  typically in swing situations I am able to fuck for hours on end--often times not cuming with new partners and saving it for a reconnection with my wife at the end of the night...   this was not the case here and after just a couple minutes of this DP, I couldn't help but flood her asshole with what felt like liters of cum.  It was hot and dirty and a deeply intense and satisfying orgasm and I was done at this point.

 

Our friend, however, was not done and after I pulled out he was able to increase the intensity with which he fucked up into her from the bottom.  Perspectives change a  bit post orgasm and, while I was happy my was was enjoying herself, I was ready for the experience to be over.  I watched and encouraged a bit longer, but I really wasn't feeling it and left the room again to go downstairs and have another drink and waited for what seemed like forever for them to finish up.

 

There were definitely some awkward feelings I had to work through for our first MFM, but after doing so and talking it out I'm no longer in my head about these situations and we've enjoyed several of these scenarios since, including with the same single male.  I also figured out some things about myself including that although watching can be fun, I'm not content to watch only.   I also realize that by the nature of odd number play, there will be moments where you might not always get attention and you've just gotta work yourself back in the game.

 

This was early in our journey and there has been much growth on both of our parts since.  Today I'd say the devils threesome (including my wife) is one of my favorite play dynamics.

[couplers 4,614]

19 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

One hand made it's way towards her ass which elicited very positive reactions and the next thing I know I'm fingering her asshole as she rides him ...

 

From there I grabbed some lube from the bedside table and massaged it around the ring of her ass and worked two fingers into my wife as she continued fucking our friend on the bed. 

That was very considerate of you.

 

19 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

DP was something she'd exhibited no interest in previously and she seemed almost disgusted by the topic

Had you guys done regular penis-in-bum anal before?  I had, and didn't have interest in doing it for myself, but would do it as a treat for the men if he asked nicely and had already given me my Os.  DP, OTOH, is a treat for me.

 

19 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

typically in swing situations I am able to fuck for hours on end--often times not cuming ...   this was not the case here and after just a couple minutes of this DP, I couldn't help but flood her asshole

 

That usually happens with me (or Clair or Lora) when a guy is in our bum and it's a DP that the other two would rather keep going.  If we know that a DP is coming during our play, the guy going into the girl's bum will have an orgasm in a pussy first before going into my/her bum to slow him down. 

 

19 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

-often times not cuming with new partners and saving it for a reconnection with my wife at the end of the night

If I were that new partner, I would be disappointed not getting the cum.

 

19 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

Perspectives change a  bit post orgasm and, while I was happy my was was enjoying herself, I was ready for the experience to be over...

 

There were definitely some awkward feelings I had to work through for our first MFM,

I sort of get a change in feelings too, but as a jealous woman I like to watch them, and when they finish, do oral on them both.

Edited May 12, 2023 by couplers

[NYirCPL 38]

2 hours ago, couplers said:

That was very considerate of you.

- What can I say?  I'm a romantic ROFL

 

Had you guys done regular penis-in-bum anal before?  I had, and didn't have interest in doing it for myself, but would do it as a treat for the men if he asked nicely and had already given me my Os.  DP, OTOH, is a treat for me.

- We've had anal before, sure--but it was (and isn't now) a regular part of our play together and not something we really do with others.  We have a little joke between us that when the wife drinks tequila I'm either getting scolded or anal.

 

2 hours ago, couplers said:

That usually happens with me (or Clair or Lora) when a guy is in our bum and it's a DP that the other two would rather keep going.  If we know that a DP is coming during our play, the guy going into the girl's bum will have an orgasm in a pussy first before going into my/her bum to slow him down. 

- Sounds like a hot remedy, but in this instance it wasn't really planned.  We've had a handful of DPs since then and they're fun, but what we both prefer is DVPs.

 

If I were that new partner, I would be disappointed not getting the cum.

- It really depends on the situation.  If it's a more intimate date with another couple or single I'll usually try to finish with the new partner, but if it's a party situation both the level of stimulation and the desire to want to keep going (erections are less predictable after the first orgasm) usually lead me toward the tail end of the event.

 

I sort of get a change in feelings too, but as a jealous woman I like to watch them, and when they finish, do oral on them both.

- Hot!!

[couplers 4,614]

21 hours ago, NYirCPL said:

We've had a handful of DPs since then and they're fun, but what we both prefer is DVPs.

Never tried DVP or seen it.  I don't know if our guys would want to do it or if I'd have room for it. 

[lovely_gal_ 3]

In collage, my then BF's idea, smoke whole lot of weed before. My pussy was sore next day. His friend was not really a looker but had nice dick.

[Numex 2,409]

On 5/11/2023 at 8:17 AM, TricianMike said:

We met others over the years with a Michael watching and sometimes he would get involved after an initial start watching. Most of the pickups are more for my excitement not because he loves to watch it’s more he loves watching me enjoy.

I understand perfectly.  Often I am getting excited watching Daniela with another man and sometimes a woman as well, while I am in another guy's wife.  It is overload trying to comprehend it all.

[SheernylonCpl 38]

First as a couple was with my crossdressing cousin while we were all enjoying porn together

[lovefest04 697]

2 hours ago, SheernylonCpl said:

First as a couple was with my crossdressing cousin while we were all enjoying porn together

There is a much bigger story here. AND i for one want to read it.

[Anon321 521]

Our first MFM was with a guy we both knew.  It was an interesting experience because it was one of the first times I started to understand what she liked sexually.  The most revealing lesson in learning what she enjoyed was when I watched her fuck her ex.  That was somewhat of a game changer for me.  But early on a lot of these experiences can also be good lessons for both people about what their partners as well as themselves enjoy sexually.