Thoughts on watching wife

[BillyandDebbie 301]

Sorry if I’m posting too much. Saturday night and snowy and we are home. Me watching football, Debbie watching a movie. Aren’t we romantic. 
There were thoughts our friends would visit us for the long weekend, we normally travel to our hometown to visit and we were excited to host. Weather and Covid last week made plans change. 
When Debbie and I agreed last month to see how things go the topic of rules came up. It’s friends, what rules can we think of, our sex is pretty tame, very rare rear sex, we didn’t think that would happen, it didn’t. Kissing, we both laughed, were we really going to say no kissing. We came up with a safe word, NO. We agreed if No was said we would both stop. 
I knew watching was not going to be as easy as I wanted to believe. I knew what was going to happen, oral sex and penetration. In looking back there were no surprises and it went just like the porn we watched, not really, I’m not porn material. I asked Debbie if anything upset her, I posted before she was taken aback being touched by a woman, it was never forced, all good. Debbie asked me how I felt watching. She knew I was watching after I finished before they did, okay I won’t mention that again, damn he has stamina. I told her, remember when it was daylight and we were all talking and you were touching him and then you slipped down, something I always enjoy, I got to watch you give a blow job. I watched you from a different view enjoying and saw him leaning back watching you. I heard you enjoying doing it and I thought that this was more real sex, not just you letting him stroke in and out of you. 
Do others feel like me that watching your wife going down and not stopping, taking every drop even more sexual than penetration to completion. I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept. I have no regrets that she did it, I did the same not far from her, I’m sort of happy she didn’t stop, I’m just surprised how I reacted inwardly to that. 
This game is a blow out , thinking to join Debbie in bed for my own blow out. 
If you are out in the snow or ice be careful. 

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

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Sorry if I’m posting too much.

No such thing!

 

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I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept.

I know for my part as a guy that it is more difficult for me to cum from oral sex with a woman with whom I do not share deeper emotions. I think subconsciously I think of it as a more intimate act then vaginal sex. Perhaps it is a bit the same with you, in that oral sex is more intimate, and seeing your wife share that with another man was difficult because of that. Whether you did the same thing with another woman right next to her is irrelevant. This is an emotional reaction. Emotions don't speak logic. They are two different languages. It could be that you view vaginal sex as a more physical act and oral sex as a more emotional/intimate act. Seeing your wife engaging in that with another man shows her wanting it, enjoying it, relishing it. With vaginal sex, sure she is enjoying it but it might be internally viewed by you as more of something he is doing to her, rather than something she is doing to him. With oral sex, that's reversed. On an emotional level, that might be more difficult.

 

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If you are out in the snow or ice be careful. 

I wish we had snow. I used to live in areas of the country where real winters happened. Here, we don't get real winters 😕 We did get a touch of snow with the latest storm, but it melted away by the afternoon.

[Anon321 522]

I love watching my GF suck dick and she LOVES to suck dick.  She has sucked many guys to completion and the visual is always hot.  I enjoy a slow sensual BJ myself but I also enjoy the visual of watching her get facefucked.  There is something hot about watching guys pump her throat like they do her pussy and the excitement and amazement on their faces.  And of course I love the finish of watching them dump their loads on her face!!!

[cplnluv1 872]

22 hours ago, BillyandDebbie said:

Sorry if I’m posting too much. Saturday night and snowy and we are home. Me watching football, Debbie watching a movie. Aren’t we romantic. 

This board is here for you to get advice, ask questions, share experiences, and once you have experience share your advice. Be careful of posters telling you are wrong in your thoughts, your thoughts belong to you and only you can figure if you made a wrong choice. There will be those who say don’t play with friends, don’t play without your spouse, always use protection and many other rules they live by, if you live by others rules you wouldn’t be on here. 
I have no idea where you are with snow or ice, our Sunday night has my husband watching football with me kind of watching too. 
I am not the best one to say what it’s like to watch your wife give oral sex, I can only share observations from people we have met. All of our meetings are based around oral sex between two women, me and women who are curious to have a bisexual meeting. I always suggest before meeting that they discuss where our meetings could lead. Some women only want husbands to watch. I emphasize pleasure not intimacy. Not unlike you the others are swinging virgins, scared, nervous and not sure what will happen. My perception is most women equate screwing as the most intimate thing. Most men are thrilled at any sexual contact. None of the people we meet expect my husband to be anything more than a spectator along with the other husband. In almost every meeting the other husband gets involved, in over half my husband gets involved in oral sex either getting or giving on the first or second meeting. We have never had a husband stop his wife stop her from going further, we have had wives stop their husbands from having full sex and from giving oral. 
Like you every couple is different with different levels of comfort. You are being smart asking and talking about your thoughts with her. I wish we had friends that would have introduced us to our found happiness. None of our long time friends would have been a candidate to play with. We were also afraid to play close to home, we were very secretive. You sound as you are having fun with people you enjoy. Try not to overthink your fun. 

[findinganswers 369]

I posted a similar thought about my wife, the difference was she didn’t give the blow job because she felt it wasn’t right. The think is she starts most mornings giving me a blow job and she claimed when she was younger she gave blow jobs to all her dates, gave me one on our first date. 
Another thing similar is our first swing was with friends too, my biggest fear was kissing, the fear went away as did her not giving blow jobs. We joke about it now, who doesn’t have oral during sex? 
My biggest concern with swinging was it was my wife’s idea, she colluded with our friends to get me swap with them. I thought she had played with them before I agreed 

You can’t control your thoughts. Watching her have fun is the thing, and now she is having fun with everything. 

[TricianMike 772]

Every person male or female comes away from their first time with questions, doubts, and possibly guilt. It’s a normal reaction to something completely new and out of your normal safe zone. It couldn’t be that bad if you are sad your friends didn’t come to visit. Your wife did what she was in her comfort zone and most likely an act she always does with you. 

[NoAngels 334]

My wife told me half the men she meets never have oral sex at home. 

[lcmim 1,082]

I wonder how many of those poor devils think of jumpstarting things by diving head first into their wives.

[MidwestHoneys 358]

Honey’s “friend” is somewhere around 60 and never had his cock sucked in his life. He only fucked 2 women including his wife who died. He hadn’t fucked his wife for 10 years before she died. That ain’t living. 

[PaKJr 32]

I love watching as some huge cock stretches my wife's pussy while she is sucking a dick. I love the way she looks so satisfied as she swallow the load and up to her feels the man cum in her or cum with a condom.

[EastInWest 1,524]

On 1/15/2022 at 10:28 PM, BillyandDebbie said:

I heard you enjoying doing it and I thought that this was more real sex, not just you letting him stroke in and out of you. 
Do others feel like me that watching your wife going down and not stopping, taking every drop even more sexual than penetration to completion. I never thought that a blow job would be more difficult to accept. I have no regrets that she did it, I did the same not far from her, I’m sort of happy she didn’t stop, I’m just surprised how I reacted inwardly to that.

If you are out in the snow or ice be careful. 

I don't think you're posting too much at all. It's a huge relief to see people having brand new experiences and bringing enthusiasm and curiosity back to the board after everyone has been on ice for so long. (Figuratively, literally.) I keep meaning to write up some of our recent experiences but time gets away from a person.

 

In any case, this is the kink we started with. Everything about it works for me, from watching her head bob to the enthusiastic slurping sounds. It's playful, there is an intensity to it, absolutely, especially in the anticipation. Shirt coming off, hair getting put up, the stroking and not being totally sure when she's going to take it into her mouth. 

 

Then she's going, and there's a low-grade nauseous excitement like an amusement park ride. It's very different to be able to relax and watch versus being on the receiving end and focusing on the sensation. She's gradually shifted her view of it as an intensely intimate act to one where she can take control of someone and perform.

 

(We had a terrible ice storm not long ago. Plow drivers are abusing the COVID leave rules, so nothing got salted the night before despite days of warning. There were cars sliding down the street in front of the house sideways, into a dip at the end of the block, where they couldn't get out because it was all evenly iced from end-to-end. Sometimes Mrs. E forgets some recycling and runs it out at dawn in her nightdress. I wonder if there's a strategy in there to get the plow drivers to show up.)

[BillyandDebbie 301]

Thanks everyone. 
I overreacted to an act that is natural to sex. 

On 1/18/2022 at 11:18 AM, lcmim said:

wonder how many of those poor devils think of jumpstarting things by diving head first into their wives.

This put my remark into perspective, I didn’t expect to bend over or spread and have him dive in. I couldn’t do that to any woman myself. 
 

Debbie brought up how much I enjoy oral sex, she does to and this was a decision we made together and we both were there to have fun. Without thinking of her I was only thinking how I felt, we had no rules or restrictions, she reminds me that she didn’t do anything we don’t do daily. She asked if I enjoyed knowing I did, did I want to do this again, she knows I do. 

[lcmim 1,082]

On 1/18/2022 at 8:34 AM, NoAngels said:

My wife told me half the men she meets never have oral sex at home. 

BillyandDebbie,

My comment was in reference to the quote above.

 

For me I too think of oral as more intimate, my lady falls on just the other side.

Edited January 20, 2022 by lcmim

[BillyandDebbie 301]

15 hours ago, lcmim said:

BillyandDebbie,

My comment was in reference to the quote above.

Poor guys. 
 

I think you nailed it as the nauseous feeling of an amusement park ride watching her head bob and slurping sounds Debbie makes exciting moans when I’m about to explode and she did it with him also. Now thinking and replaying it in my head I’m thinking how exciting it is and less bothering me just like that ride you were on and want to go back on. 
Just an hour ago she started my morning with those sounds. Life is good. 

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

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...Debbie makes exciting moans when I’m about to explode and she did it with him also....

This reminds me of something; my wife makes plenty of wonderful sounds when she's having sex. Interestingly, she doesn't make the same sounds with each guy. There's noticeable, subtle differences. She doesn't notice it herself. I've noticed it. I don't place any meaning in it other than she's having a very good time

[BillyandDebbie 301]

3 hours ago, bbarnsworth said:

This reminds me of something; my wife makes plenty of wonderful sounds when she's having sex. Interestingly, she doesn't make the same sounds with each guy. There's noticeable, subtle differences. She doesn't notice it herself. I've noticed it. I don't place any meaning in it other than she's having a very good time

I only know the sounds she makes with me from moans, purring to the sounds she puts out during orgasms. They aren’t always the same or same intensity vocally and loudness. When she is giving me a blow job the sounds are different, she enjoying not orgasming, she will moan and give a shrill sound if I’m cumming. 
This is the first and only other man I saw her with, I hope it was her first, since we have been together. They were right there and I heard noises from both of them while I was more into the noises coming from my partner. Unfortunately or fortunately I and my partner finished first and I was now watching my wife and hearing her. The more I write and think about the more I think I overthought it before. 

[cplnluv1 872]

13 hours ago, BillyandDebbie said:

This is the first and only other man I saw her with

I wonder if men think that women are only doing things for them or are they enjoying it for their own enjoyment. We have met many where we are the first, first woman or first man. Each of the women met us thinking they wanted to be with me, being with a woman for the first time. I am positive all the women had been with men before their husbands and find putting a penis in their mouth more natural and putting their mouth on me foreign. Be happy she was comfortable and enjoyed your friends. 

[Lips & Tongues 185]

When we play, and hubby is watching me with the other male, I know two tricks: I can make him extremely excited by sucking the other man's cock while watching that other man straight in the eyes, ignoring my husband. That will make him go really high   The other trick: when I open myself to let my lover penetrate me, I take his neck with my hand, in a loving gesture. That makes hubby extremely jealous and then I can turn and look at him while my lover is moving inside of me. Two very exciting situations.

[couplers 4,638]

For me as a woman and wife, when either having sex with someone other than my husband or watching hubby with another woman, oral sex is both the appetizer and the dessert.  The main course, however, is the man ejaculating inside a woman's vagina - it is both the most pleasurable for me physically and the most exciting for me to watch.  Hubby says he enjoys watching me suck a dick that has just cum inside me, covered with semen and my own juices; I like doing it too.

Edited February 18, 2022 by couplers

[Eddiem 139]

8 hours ago, couplers said:

For me as a woman and wife, when either having sex with someone other than my husband or watching hubby with another woman, oral sex is both the appetizer and the dessert.  The main course, however, is the man ejaculating inside a woman's vagina - it is both the most pleasurable for me physically and the most exciting for me to watch.  Hubby says he enjoys watching me suck a dick that has just cum inside me, covered with semen and my own juices; I like doing it too.

Nice. I too enjoy the moment he releases into her and how her body craves it... 

[Sophy 569]

My husband loves watching me play either with another woman, man or in a group, and I of course love to perform for him.

[TnA83 309]

On 2/17/2022 at 8:49 PM, couplers said:

For me as a woman and wife, when either having sex with someone other than my husband or watching hubby with another woman, oral sex is both the appetizer and the dessert.  The main course, however, is the man ejaculating inside a woman's vagina - it is both the most pleasurable for me physically and the most exciting for me to watch.  Hubby says he enjoys watching me suck a dick that has just cum inside me, covered with semen and my own juices; I like doing it too.

You are so hot!

[couplers 4,638]

On 2/19/2022 at 11:21 AM, TnA83 said:

You are so hot!

Thank you, but I consider myself one of the tamer folks around here.  Compared to other postings, I have a good amount of sex but haven't had many different partners, even though I have a Lesbian side.  Once you get even a little beyond the "one man, one woman" concept (there are three women and two men in our poly family, with an occasional outsider) the permutations and combinations go up quickly.  I believe that humans are definitely non-monogamous, but what form that takes, from wildly promiscuous to having someone on the side to a poly family, varies by person.

[couplers 4,638]

On 2/18/2022 at 5:13 AM, Eddiem said:

I too enjoy the moment he releases into her and how her body craves it... 

It is great when watching how both of them react brings satisfaction.  For me, it intensifies my jealousy fetish that she is pleasing him, and he her, and he has deposited a living part of himself inside of her.  What kicked it up for me is when I found my Lesbian side, hubby would make love to my girlfriend, and my jealousy ran in both directions.  The quandary is always who do I reclaim first?  Since his dick is too sensitive immediately afterwards and she could go for multiple orgasms, I usually go down on her first.