How does one go about online swinging?

[Bubblebath 0]

Hi,

 

My wife and I are opening up to the lifestyle. We have recently decided to give it a try since we are very secure about each other and have been together for over 10 years (married for 6). But where we live swinging isn't really something people are open to. And it's very easy to bump into some shady business. Moreover, it's very hard to find open minded (in the right way and not for perverse reasons) people even on dating apps.

 

So we thought it might be a good idea to figure out how comfortable we are with exposing ourselves to other people by trying it online first. We are talking about reddit. So far we have gotten a few photo trading requests from other couples. It seems exciting and harmless for the time being since none of us are showing our faces fully so there is a lot of anonymity in it. But I'd like advice from more experienced folks up here. So far we have discovered that we have no issues with other people talking sexually about our partner. In fact we love the attention our partner gets. But could this be something that we can explore further? Or has it already served its purpose in just a few days? What would you guys have done?

 

Thanks

[SJBluebirds 195]

Love Reddit.  Even subscribe to r/swingers.  But we wouldn't meet anyone from there at all.  Reason?  Too many picture collectors.

 

Your best bet is a paid membership in one of the swinger websites.  Check each of them out (the major ones sponsor parts of this website), and figure out which ones best serve your area -- it really depends where you are: some areas prefer SLS, some Kasidie, other areas are best served by SDC.

 

Of course, pay only after you figure out which one is best for you.

 

Then search other paid members.  Seriously: paid membership really does weed-out the flakes.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

If you want to catch fish, go to where the fish are.  Not Reddit, not CraigsList. Most pay sites will let you set up a free account so you can look around, but most members won't take you seriously as a free member. As SJBluebirds said, find the one with the most members in your area and join. They don't cost that much, and you will be fishing where the fish are. Of course, there is always the gallery here to post pictures as well...good luck, keep talking, and we're always here if you need help or to ask a question.

[njbm 2,901]

SLS. 

[ROCKlandCpl 452]

Join one of the pay sites and do a search. You will be inundated with messages many asking for pictures. We were afraid to post face pictures but looked for face pictures. I know that’s strange. We didn’t want the first thing we saw being a nude picture or individual pictures. If they are registered as a couple the picture has to be of both of them. We didn’t want overly sexual messages that are graphic. A call or FaceTime with both followed with meeting over drinks, lunch or dinner. Don’t feel obligated to meet a second time if you don’t feel it’s right. Be honest with what you are looking for. At first we wanted to meet someone as new as us then realized two newbies all nervous could be a disaster. Only go forward if you are sure, set the rules, no means NO. 

[realcplub2 513]

On 2/21/2022 at 5:37 PM, GoldCoCouple said:

If you want to catch fish, go to where the fish are.  Not Reddit, not CraigsList. Most pay sites will let you set up a free account so you can look around, but most members won't take you seriously as a free member. As SJBluebirds said, find the one with the most members in your area and join. 

Quite agree...

 

One thing that is GOING TO SURPRISE you is, there are more of us out there, and yes in your area, so, do a bit of looking before you drop money.. 

[Bubblebath 0]

Thanks a lot everyone. All useful advises. Will keep all of these in mind.