Newbie Question

[Semaj 2]

We have never explored this so please be kind.  My wife and I are interested in exploring a woman to be with my wife only, at least to start.  My wife is bi and I am straight.  We both are interested in watching other couples, my wife with another woman, but that seems to be the limit currently.  We are still very new and have been having several discussions, but until we explore this more.... We have been to strip joints together and she really likes being the center of attention. Nothing is hotter to me than watching another woman lick my wife's tits and would love to watch her with another woman.  Is this normal?  Is there places, websites for this?  Just do not know where to start and I find the most pleasure in watching her being pleasured.  Unfortunately, we have friends who were in the lifestyle and did full swaps and now they are divorced (in the back of our minds).  She tells me she is completely fulfilled by our sex life, but misses the touch/beauty of a woman every once in a while

[Sophy 569]

The easier way is to find another couple with a bi-woman and make clear since the beginning your desires and boundaries, that way no one will be disappointed.

Girls can play and enjoy each other while the guys watch and later on the girls can return to their respective partners to have sex in front of the other couple.

That scenario is a great beginner set-up that can help you guys to get confidence in the lifestyle and move slowly forward to a more "advanced" scenario when you feel ready.

[njbm 2,868]

Hate to be repetitive, but one place to meet people is SLS. For younger members, what are the Match-like hook up sites?

[Idahocouple6969 294]

We always recommend a local meet and greet. In addition to a membership on SLS or kasidie or even AFF. FetLife even has a swingers section. The meet and greets are usually held in a restaurant or bar. We live in an ultra, ULTRA conservative area ( life style clubs are against the law) but we have a very active LS community. Whatever you are interested in, I guarantee someone out there is interested in the same thing. 

As far as divorce goes..... swinging usually does one of two things to a relationship it either makes it stronger or it burns it to the ground.  

Communication is the key to making it work. And recognizing that your wants and desires can change. But you need to discuss this ahead of time. 

Good luck and keep us posted. There is no such thing as a dumb question.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

You are looking for a unicorn (single woman in the L/S)...actually a golden unicorn, a single bi sexual woman. They are called unicorns since they are about as common as a unicorn...but they are out there. Usually it is just easier to find another couple that understand what you are looking for (just F/F). That is much easier to find, especially if you attend a swingers club. Just be up front of what you are looking for and don't take it personally if a couple passes on you. As Idahocouple pointed out: swinging is a magnifying glass. It will make a great relationship even greater, but if there is damage already there...cracks in the relationship, it can make them much worse. Just keep the communication going and set your limits and rules (and never violate them...you can always change them at a later time, but never violate the trust between the two of you) and most people will do just fine.

 

I think that you will find that most of us are rather kind. Good luck and let us know how things are going!